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No, I first just stopped frequenting the clubhouse, then changed playing partners a few time and then quit and left. Do you really think that any person would be made welcome in a club if they kept reporting 70s era social attitudes to the committee.
It’s a shame to see that someone is losing the will to play a sport based on how people act - and it sounds like the club has a committee that isn’t fit for purpose
As for safeguarding and compliance, I have seen loud conversations with both racist and sexist humour in golf club bars with not even a tut from the committee members past and prestent there but, hey, ist all jokes and banter.
As before - that seems like an issue with the committee not being fit for purpose
And, just because it goes on elsewhere is not a defence but I have, whilst sexism was a massive issue withn my 40 years in and around rugby clubs, seen more examples of casual and specific racism, anti LGBT and other forms of general biggotry in 15 years in around around golf clubs than in a lifetime of rugby membership. In fact now rugby clubs have changed beyond recognition with the ones that I still visit being very family friendly with the old rugby attitudes all but gone. In fact, family attendance is very much encouraged, and you can wear what you like.
The point i was trying to make that it’s more a society issue than an issue that’s just seen in golf clubs - a group of men together in settings can act like idiots and think some jokes are still ok , but that’s not limited to golf clubs and imo it’s not an issue with golf clubs - that’s an issue with humanity.
My daughter goes up the club with me at times , wears what she wants , has a bit of a putt , something to eat etc and we see it regularly especially on weekends where there are lots of kids around at times
But, your point of view is clear, golf clubs are perfect, the rules are perfect, attitudes are perfect and dress codes are perfect, golf tours are perfect, everyting is just aweome. I have a different attitude and eventually stood by my convictions and walked away and on that basis feel I am in a position to objectively question such matters.
I don’t think golf clubs are perfect , I play at many over the year and I don’t see any that act in the way you are suggesting -that doesn’t mean they are perfect but there are far from the epicentre of bigotry and racism. As portrayed.
Dress codes at clubs vary - I’m ok with following what they set out , some clubs I won’t play in the summer because of the long sock rule which I don’t like , I stopped going to club matches because of jacket and tie , but they changed that.
No sport is perfect , they will all have something that someone won’t like - but any changes needed to come from within but I don’t see it being the horrific sport that some portray , at times I’m unsure why they play it when everything is so bad about it
But looking at the healthy state of clubs and the sport at the moment maybe the club and sport isn’t all bad