Random Irritations

[Deleted member 21784]

Yeah it did seem a pain from day one but didn't want to say no. Unfortunately we didn't put enough thought into the logistics at that time. Some backtracking and apologies to do I think.

I'd say no backtracking, just explain that because your parents aren't going now it's thrown a spanner in the logistics of the situation

 

[Deleted member 21784]

Says the chap with three daughters...

Exactly. they can also pay 50/50 on dates the cheapskates

 

[BrianM]

The bar???? I'd 100% take that .. some people say the entire wedding .

Then again I don't know how this out dated tosh is still about ... It's from a bye gone era where the wife stayed at home .. we live in a Modern world with equal pay and 2 income families

Why on earth do people still expect this tosh

It was tongue in cheek.
Normally you get a drink on arrival and wine for dinner, after that you’re on your own!!

Saying that my cousin got married in Oxfordshire, an old converted barn and my Uncle paid for the bar bill, it was a private bar though So don’t think their overheads would be that high.

 

[Deleted member 21784]

It was tongue in cheek.
Normally you get a drink on arrival and wine for dinner, after that you’re on your own!!

Saying that my cousin got married in Oxfordshire, an old converted barn and my Uncle paid for the bar bill, it was a private bar though So don’t think their overheads would be that high.

My mother in law insisted on paying for the bar. However we provided our own bar so it didn't cost much and plenty of left overs lol

 

[Fade and Die]

The bar???? I'd 100% take that .. some people say the entire wedding .

Then again I don't know how this out dated tosh is still about ... It's from a bye gone era where the wife stayed at home .. we live in a Modern world with equal pay and 2 income families

Why on earth do people still expect this tosh

This is very outdated, even 30 years ago me and the Mrs paid for everything. I wouldn’t have got married if I couldn’t pay for it all.

Re Orikoru situation, just be honest, say it’s too much with the little un. Send them a nice gift and say you will catch up when they come home.

 

[Deleted member 21784]

This is very outdated, even 30 years ago me and the Mrs paid for everything. I wouldn’t have got married if I couldn’t pay for it all.

Re Orikoru situation, just be honest, say it’s too much with the little un. Send them a nice gift and say you will catch up when they come home.

Re the little one part @Orikoru is 100% correct. You need a break every 2 hours and it would be a bit much all that way on her.

We did 4 hours with our eldest (stop after 2) for my mates wedding. Was a struggle for her and she was a little bit older (just turned 2 at the time)

Our friends get married this year not far but they want the girls there, we agreed but mother in law is going to take them midway through the day to a hotel so they can go bed and we can stay a bit. Just too much for kids are weddings

 

[AmandaJR]

Knock me down sideways with a feather .. that has to be this thread first someone A not getting angry for being questioned and B accepting another point of view

A Christmas miracle

Or maybe it's not as bad on here as some like to think...

 

[Slime]

Is this Mum's Net in a parallel universe?

 

[Fade and Die]

Re the little one part @Orikoru is 100% correct. You need a break every 2 hours and it would be a bit much all that way on her.

We did 4 hours with our eldest (stop after 2) for my mates wedding. Was a struggle for her and she was a little bit older (just turned 2 at the time)

Our friends get married this year not far but they want the girls there, we agreed but mother in law is going to take them midway through the day to a hotel so they can go bed and we can stay a bit. Just too much for kids are weddings

Wife’s family are in Cumbria so when the kids were tots we used to leave at 10pm so they would sleep most of the way. One year the eldest woke up about 30 miles from the house and threw up everywhere! Last half hour was done with all the windows down and both boy’s bawling!

 

[Deleted member 21784]

Or maybe it's not as bad on here as some like to think...

It is more pleasant recently .. can't put my finger on it

 

[williamalex1]

My mother in law insisted on paying for the bar. However we provided our own bar so it didn't cost much and plenty of left overs lol

I paid for both of my daughter's weddings including first drink ( toast) only.
Knowing most of the guests, giving them a free bar, would've bankrupted me.

 

[Hobbit]

I paid for both of my daughter's weddings including first drink ( toast) only.
Knowing most of the guests, giving them a free bar, would've bankrupted me.

I paid for my daughter’s wedding/wedding dress/reception. They separated 10 months later. I paid him £2,000 to leave the family home, and then paid to have the locks changed and a burglar alarm fitted… sadly it didn’t stop him smashing in the front door. Dragging my daughter out onto the drive and using her as a football.

Thankfully a good few years have passed, and everything is just a distant memory for her.

 

[3offTheTee]

I paid for my daughter’s wedding/wedding dress/reception. They separated 10 months later. I paid him £2,000 to leave the family home, and then paid to have the locks changed and a burglar alarm fitted… sadly it didn’t stop him smashing in the front door. Dragging my daughter out onto the drive and using her as a football.

Thankfully a good few years have passed, and everything is just a distant memory for her.

That is so sad and I really feel for you Brian.Having never had that experience everybody react in a different way. From what you have said she was better out of the marriage. Hope her life has settled down OK as I am sure it is well in the past.

Really sad what happens when people deserve better in life.

 

[williamalex1]

You can only do your best, you never can tell the future, both my daughters later divorced.
But gave me 4 wonderful grandchildren and now there's 4 great grandchildren. ⁹

 

[Billysboots]

Or maybe it's not as bad on here as some like to think...

Quite.

 

[bobmac]

If it's still niggling you, you could split the journey and stop overnight half way. Make it into a wee 5 day holiday.

 

[bobmac]

I dozed off watching telly last night so went to bed about 9 ish.
Woke up about 11.30.
Now I don't know if I'm up late or up early

 

[AmandaJR]

Trying to handle two dogs on lead whilst picking up poo = poo on finger Thank goodness for all the puddles!!

Even more annoying that the culprit (yes that's you Barley) stood in the garden for ten minutes beforehand and refused to go before our walk. Twit.

 

[Red devil]

I paid for my daughter’s wedding/wedding dress/reception. They separated 10 months later. I paid him £2,000 to leave the family home, and then paid to have the locks changed and a burglar alarm fitted… sadly it didn’t stop him smashing in the front door. Dragging my daughter out onto the drive and using her as a football.

Thankfully a good few years have passed, and everything is just a distant memory for her.

Despicable coward!

 

[Captainron]

I paid for my daughter’s wedding/wedding dress/reception. They separated 10 months later. I paid him £2,000 to leave the family home, and then paid to have the locks changed and a burglar alarm fitted… sadly it didn’t stop him smashing in the front door. Dragging my daughter out onto the drive and using her as a football.

Thankfully a good few years have passed, and everything is just a distant memory for her.

Awful person. Hope he didn't go on to ruin someone elses life too!