If you ever find the answer to this question, or more importantly, how to get them to listen, please post it. I'm sure I and many others would love to know. So frustrating. Enjoy your night stillWhat is it with some elderly…adamant that they do things their way, despite everything they are told or advised.
My wife tends to think her mother forgets what she is told…I’m not so sure she forgets very much…other than at the moment she seems to have forgotten that I existIf you ever find the answer to this question, or more importantly, how to get them to listen, please post it. I'm sure I and many others would love to know. So frustrating. Enjoy your night still
What is it with some elderly…adamant that they do things their way, despite everything they are told or advised.
My Dad is like this. He doesn't have dementia but he is old and forgets stuff. My sisters share your lack of empathy and that is what irritates me.My MiL (93 in May) broke her shoulder last week stumbling on her stairs, yes we are of course sympathetic to her predicament, but this was through her own carelessness and disregard of what we have said to her - and it has to be said that that irritates for starters.
What compounds that irritation is that my Mrs is now stuck at her mum’s until care we’ve organised for her turns up, and that’s not until Saturday earliest. Means we can’t go up London on Friday as we had planned; go to the gig lad is working on in the Hammersmith Apollo, and have dinner and a nice overnight stay. Just the way it has to be, but really irritating and disappointing as my Mrs was really looking forward to meeting up with our lad especially.
Silver lining? I‘ll still go up for the gig. Lad is booking a twin hotel room for us in London, and so we’ll have time together and travel home on the Saturday…he’s got a couple of days off from the tour he’s on and fancies a day or two at ‘home’, maybe meet up with a mate or two. Mrs will come with me to the gig when the tour gets to Portsmouth in 10days time.
What is it with some elderly…adamant that they do things their way, despite everything they are told or advised.
My MiL (93 in May) broke her shoulder last week stumbling on her stairs, yes we are of course sympathetic to her predicament, but this was through her own carelessness and disregard of what we have said to her - and it has to be said that that irritates for starters.
What compounds that irritation is that my Mrs is now stuck at her mum’s until care we’ve organised for her turns up, and that’s not until Saturday earliest. Means we can’t go up London on Friday as we had planned; go to the gig lad is working on in the Hammersmith Apollo, and have dinner and a nice overnight stay. Just the way it has to be, but really irritating and disappointing as my Mrs was really looking forward to meeting up with our lad especially.
Silver lining? I‘ll still go up for the gig. Lad is booking a twin hotel room for us in London, and so we’ll have time together and travel home on the Saturday…he’s got a couple of days off from the tour he’s on and fancies a day or two at ‘home’, maybe meet up with a mate or two. Mrs will come with me to the gig when the tour gets to Portsmouth in 10days time.
What is it with some elderly…adamant that they do things their way, despite everything they are told or advised.
We are very patient and understanding - and the context of the family and her home situation are much more complex than I will discuss on here - we have been caring and ‘caring’ for her (and my wife’s brother who is currently undergoing radiotherapy and chemotherapy for two different cancers) for over 18months.
If you only knew.
If I only knew what?If you only knew.
It does seem that any idiot can hire them as well - was in London over the weekend and a couple had hired them. The guy was whizzing around on the pavement but the girl had absolutely zero control or balance - she narrowly missed a few people and took herself out around a lamppost
it’s bloody 2023 and head office don’t have a phone to sort out there screw up.
Try the online banks......so much easier and no phoning neededOnline forms esp government forms. Fill them in online, then print them Off. Then stick in an envelope and bloody stick a stamp on and post it Off.
Sodding heck it’s 2023.
Transferring ISAS last week. Go into a bank and transfer ISAS to a better rate. Sign forms to say you need X amount left in old ISA coz you need the Brass and they then transfer the lot.
So this week we go into the bank and it says we cannot ring them coz there ain’t a phone line to head office “ but they are quick to respond to emails”.
What
WHS is fantastic compared to banks
Re the transfer of Isa, Missis T did one but you could not part transfer. So into the bank we went. From there it went belly up. Thing is it went from one account to another within the same bank. Even the girls that did it for us two weeks ago were at a loss as to why it went belly upTry the online banks......so much easier and no phoning needed
The ISA's I have are cash ISA''s that allow monies in and out, not all ISA's do in the same way.Re the transfer of Isa, Missis T did one but you could not part transfer. So into the bank we went. From there it went belly up. Thing is it went from one account to another within the same bank. Even the girls that did it for us two weeks ago were at a loss as to why it went belly up
I apologise if my comment caused upset. I tend to be sensitive to criticism of elderly people when they are trying to live a normal life. My father doesn't recognise that something as benign as trying to put his socks on without sitting down is, at 91, a high risk activity that could easily result in a life threatening fall. I can point it out as often as I like, but it's his life and I won't criticise him for living it as he chooses.
That’s OK. My MiL can do whatever she wants, and she does, but it is nonetheless irritating when things go wrong unnecessarily and despite everything that has been said, and it is incumbent upon us to sort things out. And of course sorting things out is fine and how it must be…but it does not make it less irritating when in this instance my wife desperately needs respite from caring, and as a result of what has happened won‘t get it.
