Jamesbrown
Head Pro
You can talk while I swing, you can trump, laugh or do whatever. But don’t mention my score or how well I’m doing! I will then go to pot!
Poor Etiquette/ Keep my mouth shut in future
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Orikoru
Tour Winner
I don't think it's etiquette as such. Small fault on your side, bigger fault on his in my opinion. Maybe avoid telling people their score if they haven't asked for it, just in case - but if he can't handle knowing his score during a round then that's a mental problem he needs to sort out.
Personally I enter my score on Hole 19 as I go, so if someone does read my score out to me it's never a surprise if it's good or bad. No problem then.
Personally I enter my score on Hole 19 as I go, so if someone does read my score out to me it's never a surprise if it's good or bad. No problem then.
Swingalot
Challenge Tour Pro
Key word 'personally '
Everyone is different, some people like to know exactly where they are score wise and others prefer not to think about it. Certainly not a mental problem if your in the 2nd camp
Orikoru
Tour Winner
You don't think it's a mental problem if someone innocuously tells you your score and you absolutely fall to pieces?
Swingalot
Challenge Tour Pro
You don't think it's a mental problem if someone innocuously tells you your score and you absolutely fall to pieces?
No I don't think its a mental problem if you would prefer not to know your score.
Orikoru
Tour Winner
Ah now that's not what I said is it? Preferring not know is one thing, absolutely fine. We all have preferences. But if someone telling you your score absolutely crashes your round off a cliff then you've got a problem!
Swingalot
Challenge Tour Pro
Agreed. Guess though knowing your score in your own head and then watching your game fall to pieces as a result of that is a similar issue? If so, many of us have probably gone through that scenario
Orikoru
Tour Winner
It happens to me, but my way of combating it is to always know my score, which is why I mentioned it above. It means I'm less likely to blame someone else for telling me anyway.
Mandofred
Well-known member
If nobody tells me NOT to......and I'm doing the scores.....I'm going to tell you how you are doing. I have had someone a few years ago tell me not to, but it's been a long time since, with the topic not even coming up. I still can't believe someone would fall apart because they know their score.....mind boggling.
HomerJSimpson
Hall of Famer
I ask them the question at the turn especially if I am playing with people I don't know or play with frequently. Most of my regular PP's are happy to know the score, or to confirm what they think they have compared to what we have on the single scorecard in use
Mandofred
Well-known member
But then you can carry things one step further.....will even mentioning the topic throw them off? If they are that easy to upset I'd have to walk around on eggshells worrying about upsetting them.
HomerJSimpson
Hall of Famer
To be honest, I'll ask the question out of courtesy if they want to know the score and if the question causes a meltdown I'm sorry but I am not going to tiptoe around for the back nine. If a simple polite request causes such a reaction then perhaps the player shouldn't be in comps if they are that mentally fragile
Eagle2
Member
When I am forcing myself to stay in the moment/shot/hole I do forget what I have just done and keep trying to make pars... it can mean I don’t know what my score is even though I could quickly recall the holes and work it out... either way - asking if he knows or even wants to know his score avoids an issue.
I wouldn’t sweat it though mate.
I wouldn’t sweat it though mate.
KenL
Tour Rookie
Again, it was the comment on how well they were playing - not telling their score.
Mandofred
Well-known member
Details please.But you regularly advertise your complete disregard for other golfers ?
Mandofred
Well-known member
Can you point out....at any point......where I said I should be able to make noise any time I want? You won't find anything.....and another poster backed me up on that. Several posters seemed to think I was stating it was ok to talk while others were hitting. Never said that. Never. I asked why it bothers some people so much......that's all. You have read your own bias into things. I'll repeat it again since you can't remember.....I don't think I have the right to be talking when my playing partners are hitting. It doesn't bother me.....but I know it bothers others and I am ok with that.
I didn't just get yelled at by a guy on another fairway.....lots of foul words involved from the guy. I was helping to locate a pp ball......and just spoke in pretty normal volume back to him that I still couldn't find it. Could the guy on the other fairway hear me.....yes. Was I yelling, being obnoxious....nope. That's it. You read into what you will as usual.
You really do like to argue with people.
Golfnut1957
Newbie
This. All these posters disparaging others for their personal preferences are so wrong. What does it have to do with anyone else whether or not I want commentary on how well I'm playing.
The simple fact is if I am playing badly feel free to comment on it in any way you fancy and in a friendly (does such a thing exist) yes you can comment on how well I'm putting knowing full well that I'm now going to three putt the next hole. But in a competition if I'm playing well just leave me alone. I'm fully aware of how well I'm playing but I'm just focusing on the next shot. I don't need any help losing concentration I can do that all on my own.
After all, these really good rounds are as rare as hens teeth and if you really are that interested in how I'm doing then don't worry, you are going to get a blow by blow account over a beer.
Britishshooting
Club Champion
A guy tagged along with me and my PP who was 3 under gross through 9. At that point he could not stop talking about my PP's score. It annoyed me on his behalf to be honest as he was asking question after question as if it was a coaching round for him not a medal. He didn't get any worse as a result as he does have a really good mental aspect to his game but it was tiresome. Playing at that level you need focus and concentration not an excitable puppy that shadows you around the course
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The reason we get on so well is because we know our score, we know each others score and we know not to get into it until after the round. He's good enough to know his mistakes, accidents and score he doesn't need reminders of it during the round.
Maybe its just me but if i miss a 4 foot putt for instance I don't want a sharp intake of breath/gasps and a sympathy discussion about it. I have my own process to work from it and putts do get missed occasionally. Its just annoying to me personally but I don't make a big issue of it at the same time but I will avoid rounds with people that rant on too much about my score etc. when I want to play in club comps for the sole purpose of getting my handicap as low as i can with my ability.
To be fair to OP though what you said wouldn't of really had any bearing on me its a fairly neutral comment, think you may have been the scape goat.
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The reason we get on so well is because we know our score, we know each others score and we know not to get into it until after the round. He's good enough to know his mistakes, accidents and score he doesn't need reminders of it during the round.
Maybe its just me but if i miss a 4 foot putt for instance I don't want a sharp intake of breath/gasps and a sympathy discussion about it. I have my own process to work from it and putts do get missed occasionally. Its just annoying to me personally but I don't make a big issue of it at the same time but I will avoid rounds with people that rant on too much about my score etc. when I want to play in club comps for the sole purpose of getting my handicap as low as i can with my ability.
To be fair to OP though what you said wouldn't of really had any bearing on me its a fairly neutral comment, think you may have been the scape goat.
hovis
Tour Winner
What a contrast compared to what I'm used to. My friends will take great pleasure in reminding me not to hook it oob on the 18th hole and proceed to wet their pants when I inevitably do. I just call them a hunch of *&+%`# and laugh it off. Its a game off golf for God sake
Golfnut1957
Newbie
They do that during competition rounds?
