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SwingsitlikeHogan

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Cheers, Bri.

I know I have a love hate thing going on with this forum at times but it’s good to have somewhere removed from my family and other friends to just vent little things like this.
It is important to share your fears for your girlfriend as you’ll then find that there are folks out there who really understand and so can support you as they too have been through it and so get your fears more deeply and personally than you might imagine.

As things are the surgery seems to indicate good clear margins and that will be a great relief for her and also yourself. If it’s BC she’ll probably have a BC nurse assigned. Encourage her to speak with that nurse about any questions or concerns - don’t worry about asking too much - it’s what they are employed to do.

Also the Breast Cancer Now Helpline is manned by very experienced BC nurses and they will answer her questions if she doesn’t have a BC Nurse or would like a separate view - and they’ll happily talk through with you any questions you might have if your gfriend is not sure, or you don’t want to ask her. Best wishes to you both.
 

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It is important to share your fears for your girlfriend as you’ll then find that there are folks out there who really understand and so can support you as they too have been through it and so get your fears more deeply and personally than you might imagine.

As things are the surgery seems to indicate good clear margins and that will be a great relief for her and also yourself. If it’s BC she’ll probably have a BC nurse assigned. Encourage her to speak with that nurse about any questions or concerns - don’t worry about asking too much - it’s what they are employed to do.

Also the Breast Cancer Now Helpline is manned by very experienced BC nurses and they will answer her questions if she doesn’t have a BC Nurse or would like a separate view - and they’ll happily talk through with you any questions you might have if your gfriend is not sure, or you don’t want to ask her. Best wishes to you both.
Thanks for all that, appreciated.
It isn’t actually breast cancer she has, it’s in her abdomen and it’s affecting her sigmoid colon, left ovary and pelvic wall. They don’t actually know yet where it originated but the biopsies from Tuesday’s op might answer that. She hasn’t had the tumour removed yet - they want to get more info first and they’ll probably shrink it was with radio and chemo prior to removal. Her op on Tuesday was to relieve the pressure on her bowel as that’s been the main symptom through all this when they were thinking diverticulitis.

Still a very long road ahead but we’re having to think in small victories and the surgeon assures us that this definitely was one.
 

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Day 6 of man flu.
Tried to suck it up a little yesterday and force myself to, do a few things.

Mistake!

Now have my girls telling me it’s my fault as I’m old and never had the flu jab ??

Portugal in a week. It needs to do one.
 

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Came back from seeing the family between Christmas and New Year and the boiler wasn't working. Called out the engineer (someone we know and trust) and as our boiler is over 30 years old we can't get the parts for it. Also, it's not really efficient so it will be replaced with a combi boiler BUT this happened on Monday 30th and we won't be able to get the new one fitted till Tue/Wed of next week. So a week of a cold house with a couple of cheap fan heaters keeping one room warm.
Saying that, the new boiler should save us a fair slug of money as the old one isn't the most efficient.
 

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Came back from seeing the family between Christmas and New Year and the boiler wasn't working. Called out the engineer (someone we know and trust) and as our boiler is over 30 years old we can't get the parts for it. Also, it's not really efficient so it will be replaced with a combi boiler BUT this happened on Monday 30th and we won't be able to get the new one fitted till Tue/Wed of next week. So a week of a cold house with a couple of cheap fan heaters keeping one room warm.
Saying that, the new boiler should save us a fair slug of money as the old one isn't the most efficient.

To have something last that long is brilliant

Hope the new one lasts half as long at least
 

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Thanks for all that, appreciated.
It isn’t actually breast cancer she has, it’s in her abdomen and it’s affecting her sigmoid colon, left ovary and pelvic wall. They don’t actually know yet where it originated but the biopsies from Tuesday’s op might answer that. She hasn’t had the tumour removed yet - they want to get more info first and they’ll probably shrink it was with radio and chemo prior to removal. Her op on Tuesday was to relieve the pressure on her bowel as that’s been the main symptom through all this when they were thinking diverticulitis.

Still a very long road ahead but we’re having to think in small victories and the surgeon assures us that this definitely was one.
Apologies for making a wrong assumption on your g/friends condition. That said I'm sure there will be equivalent specialist nursing support, and possibly specialist cancer helplines (Macmillan Cancer Support provide a general helpline for those with a cancer condition and for their friends and partners).
 

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Came back from seeing the family between Christmas and New Year and the boiler wasn't working. Called out the engineer (someone we know and trust) and as our boiler is over 30 years old we can't get the parts for it. Also, it's not really efficient so it will be replaced with a combi boiler BUT this happened on Monday 30th and we won't be able to get the new one fitted till Tue/Wed of next week. So a week of a cold house with a couple of cheap fan heaters keeping one room warm.
Saying that, the new boiler should save us a fair slug of money as the old one isn't the most efficient.
The In-laws have an ancient one in the kitchen that's the original boiler from when the house was built in the early 60's...still going strong, gets serviced every year, nothing ever goes wrong with it.. engineer says he can't believe it's still going. It'll probably outlast them!
 

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Thanks for all that, appreciated.
It isn’t actually breast cancer she has, it’s in her abdomen and it’s affecting her sigmoid colon, left ovary and pelvic wall. They don’t actually know yet where it originated but the biopsies from Tuesday’s op might answer that. She hasn’t had the tumour removed yet - they want to get more info first and they’ll probably shrink it was with radio and chemo prior to removal. Her op on Tuesday was to relieve the pressure on her bowel as that’s been the main symptom through all this when they were thinking diverticulitis.

Still a very long road ahead but we’re having to think in small victories and the surgeon assures us that this definitely was one.

Thinking of you both.
 

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Going into work after being "invited" to a meeting by personnel to discuss job at risk and no one bothered to turn up !!!!!!!! I'm stressed to the eyeballs !!!!!
 

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...that even with my wife's NHS pension we can't afford the 20 day 'Ultimate Luxury Tour of New Zealand' in today's Telegraph - a pinch at a mere 'from' £41,235pp

Life is soo unfair.
 

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Sticking my hand in one of the pockets of my golf bag in search of my rain gloves, only to find an apple that had been in there since the begining of September:(
 

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The In-laws have an ancient one in the kitchen that's the original boiler from when the house was built in the early 60's...still going strong, gets serviced every year, nothing ever goes wrong with it.. engineer says he can't believe it's still going. It'll probably outlast them!

Potterton perchance?
 

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Day 6 of man flu.
Tried to suck it up a little yesterday and force myself to, do a few things.

Mistake!

Now have my girls telling me it’s my fault as I’m old and never had the flu jab ??

Portugal in a week. It needs to do one.
Get your flu jab. My dad (78 years old) didn't have his and nearly paid the ultimate price. He caught flu which then mutated into pneumonia and sepsis. This caused him to spend Christmas "relaxing" in intensive care for10 days.
 

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Get your flu jab. My dad (78 years old) didn't have his and nearly paid the ultimate price. He caught flu which then mutated into pneumonia and sepsis. This caused him to spend Christmas "relaxing" in intensive care for10 days.
He isn't alone. We have had a real spike in both community acquired pneumonia and sepsis in the last fortnight
 

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Get your flu jab. My dad (78 years old) didn't have his and nearly paid the ultimate price. He caught flu which then mutated into pneumonia and sepsis. This caused him to spend Christmas "relaxing" in intensive care for10 days.
There’s no guarantee you won’t get the flu after the jab but I’d always recommend getting it - if not for you, for your older or younger relatives or anyone who might be sick already.
 

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Clothing sizes that are non standard. Ted Baker sizes 1 to 6. Ok, 1 is tiny, 6 massive, but do I need a 3, a 4, or a 5. I could google it, or I could just walk out. Me? I am out, can't be bothered.

Go to Hugo Boss. There is a padded gillet that would be good for walking on the beach. Size 48. It doesn't look like a 48, so I try it on. Now I am a 42, and this will barely do up. What the flipping heck does the 48 relate to? Could be a Europesn size, but I am in Brent Cross. Give me a chance here.
 

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Get your flu jab. My dad (78 years old) didn't have his and nearly paid the ultimate price. He caught flu which then mutated into pneumonia and sepsis. This caused him to spend Christmas "relaxing" in intensive care for10 days.
Tbf at 37 it wasn’t something I ever considered.

Next year I will.

Stubbornly attempted a night shift over Xmas. Now signed off for a fortnight.
 
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