Bunkermagnet
Journeyman Pro
I can see where you’re coming from, however we are talking about something planned out and with premeditated actions over a period of time.We aren’t talking about a spur of the moment one off action. If it were, I could possibly go along with your apology and forgiveness line. But since it’s not a spur of the moment one off, I feel he should be showing contrition and remorse to everyone and then after a similar amount of time as his devious actions have been going on only then could forgiveness be considered.I’ll be honest in saying that that is all rather sad - understandable, but sad. We can all change our minds if we so choose, perhaps if we come to understand a situation better and willing to accept being just a little less judgemental and certain.
My suggestion was simply whether there was someone who he could confide in, that could then help him open up to remorse and making amends to those he has hurt. All those who are angry and resentful with and about him and what he has done will hold that anger and resentment in their heads - to their own detriment.
Anyway…I guess it is just me…
Let’s not also forget that he didn’t volunteer his cheating, he was caught out.