Bunkermagnet
Journeyman Pro
IS the correct answer, When I was younger there was no resource that I was aware of and "a man in a dress" was something to be joked about (still is to a smaller degree) It wasn't until the advent of the internet that I was able to understand more about myself and the options available to me.
Gender reassignment surgery is available on the NHS, after many checks and balances and several years of attending clinics under mental health trusts.
I know people who have spent many thousands of pounds on other procedures that felt they needed as well, to have to make them more presentable and acceptable.
It is not something you do on a whim.
I admire your bravery and courage to say that on a public forum where,lets be honest, some of the "banter" can be inconsiderate and totally unpleasant.