Transgender.....

[Smiffy]

A family member is dating a transgender.
Met "her" for the first time the other evening.
I didn't really know what to expect, but was surprised to find that there was no effort whatsoever to at least look feminine, ( and no, I wasn't expecting David Walliams).
Other than long hair there was no real attempt to hide, (if "hide" is the right word), the fact that "she" was a "he".
In fact, "she" had better stubble on her chin than I do after a few days.
Am I missing something here?????
Confused from East Sussex.

 

[SocketRocket]

:mmm:

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Transgender is also an umbrella term: in addition to including people whose gender identity is the opposite of their assigned sex (trans men and trans women), it may include people who are not exclusively masculine or feminine

It's not just about looks Smithy - a lot of times is how they are feeling inside

 

[Lord Tyrion]

I've seen a number in Newcastle over the years. Everyone has looked like a second row, everyone in a Laura Ashley dress. And no, they weren't on a stag night. They couldn't look less feminine and all stood out a mile, not blending in. Complicated area, not sure I fully understand.

 

[SocketRocket]

There is a Man/Woman in my town who wears a floral dress, heels, carries a handbag but also wears a flat cap and smokes a pipe. No one local takes much notice as he's been around for years.

 

[The Evertonian]

There is a Man/Woman in my town who wears a floral dress, heels, carries a handbag but also wears a flat cap and smokes a pipe. No one local takes much notice as he's been around for years.

Do you live in Birkenhead?

 

[srixon 1]

I've seen a number in Newcastle over the years. Everyone has looked like a second row, everyone in a Laura Ashley dress. And no, they weren't on a stag night. They couldn't look less feminine and all stood out a mile, not blending in. Complicated area, not sure I fully understand.

They are probably transvestites, not transgender.

 

[Imurg]

I taught a Transgender a few years back
Really nice person
Although my opinion did waved a tad when she told me she couldn't pay me this week as her cheque from her web-camming job was late..😵

 

[Lord Tyrion]

They are probably transvestites, not transgender.

Not sure, you could well be right. As I said, complicated area. I wish them well as no one should be unhappy in their own skin.

I worry slightly that there is a younger generation coming through where it is fashionable to go down this road. The consequences of decisions made at a young age could be drastic and life changing when confusion of growing up could be the real cause. Hopefully there are enough people out there that can help and speak to people looking at going down this route so that they are certain before final decisions are made.

 

[adrew]

May be right. can't say though..

 

[Bunkermagnet]

I don't think it's a "fashion" thing, I think it's more to do with society in general being more understanding and accepting than it used to be.
Plus in the age of the Internet, things are much more out there so people are more aware and informed than might other have been the case.

 

[louise_a]

I don't think it's a "fashion" thing, I think it's more to do with society in general being more understanding and accepting than it used to be.
Plus in the age of the Internet, things are much more out there so people are more aware and informed than might other have been the case.

IS the correct answer, When I was younger there was no resource that I was aware of and "a man in a dress" was something to be joked about (still is to a smaller degree) It wasn't until the advent of the internet that I was able to understand more about myself and the options available to me.

Gender reassignment surgery is available on the NHS, after many checks and balances and several years of attending clinics under mental health trusts.
I know people who have spent many thousands of pounds on other procedures that felt they needed as well, to have to make them more presentable and acceptable.

It is not something you do on a whim.

 

[Pin-seeker]

A local Dj (Simon Hirst) decided to make the change.
He's now Stephanie.

And then there's Bruce Jenner.

 

[patricks148]

i suppose its something you never take lightly, once its done there is no going back.

I went to a history Lecture a little while ago by a guy called Dr Aryeh Nusbacher, who was a military historian at Sandhurst . i'd read a couple of his papers and a book he wrote. when he turned up he was in a dress and heavily made up and was calling himself Lynnette i think. it was a shock. but its his life and his decisions.

 

[IanM]

I should imagine its a tough thing for someone to get head around in their own life and virtually impossible to anyone else appreciate...

 

[chrisd]

Even though, by standards here, im pretty ancient i have no issues with the transgender, gay, lesbian etc community afaik no one chooses to be straight, gay or whatever, and im happy with any road that anyone takes. I can't imagine how difficult being transgender must be and its probably much tougher than we all realise given imo it probably involves a lot more decision making than say defining just sexual orientation would take

 

[Deleted member 16999]

i suppose its something you never take lightly, once its done there is no going back.

I went to a history Lecture a little while ago by a guy called Dr Aryeh Nusbacher, who was a military historian at Sandhurst . i'd read a couple of his papers and a book he wrote. when he turned up he was in a dress and heavily made up and was calling himself Lynnette i think. it was a shock. but its his life and his decisions.

I know him, he was an Officer in the TA, Int Corps.

 

[Fish]

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[patricks148]

I know him, he was an Officer in the TA, Int Corps.

is he/she still in the TA?

 

[Deleted member 16999]

is he/she still in the TA?

Not sure, being a specialist they had a weird commitment.