Random Irritations

The alarmingly large number of roads around here that are closed for the entirety of the school Easter hols due to roadworks..and I don't mean repairing potholes..
You need to think 2 or 3 times before going anywhere.
 
Imurg said:
The alarmingly large number of roads around here that are closed for the entirety of the school Easter hols due to roadworks..and I don't mean repairing potholes..
You need to think 2 or 3 times before going anywhere.
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Combination of school holidays and next year’s budgets? Or don’t they work April to March?
 
We have a family friend (loosely speaking) who during his life has made a few failed attempts at becoming a professional photographer.
Whenever any of the family has any sort of occasion he always volunteers to be the photographer and we always agree but also get someone who knows what they are doing.
He has decided he is going to try his hand at taking pics of glamour models and has messaged my 3 girls to ask if they want a free session.
They all think it’s quite funny but have decided I should be the one to tell him thanks but no thanks.
Any ideas on how I can politely refuse and suggest he doesn’t message young girls without hurting his feelings?

Also the wife did say jokingly she should suggest she models for him but I did point out he is a photographer not a magician.
The black eye should go in around a week.
 
irip said:
We have a family friend (loosely speaking) who during his life has made a few failed attempts at becoming a professional photographer.
Whenever any of the family has any sort of occasion he always volunteers to be the photographer and we always agree but also get someone who knows what they are doing.
He has decided he is going to try his hand at taking pics of glamour models and has messaged my 3 girls to ask if they want a free session.
They all think it’s quite funny but have decided I should be the one to tell him thanks but no thanks.
Any ideas on how I can politely refuse and suggest he doesn’t message young girls without hurting his feelings?

Also the wife did say jokingly she should suggest she models for him but I did point out he is a photographer not a magician.
The black eye should go in around a week.
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I think my suggestions would like get you charged with assault !

If that were my daughters I’d be absolutely fuming. But then I’m not the most sensible person when it comes to people upsetting my flower and kids. People can insult me all they want I literally don’t care, but anything toward those I love I can’t seem to remain calm.

I guess all you can do is msg him telling him to go have a word with himself and about his behaviour being inappropriate. The biggest thing is the age of your girls if they were young then there’s definitely a legal standpoint.

Good luck with this one mate, I don’t envy you!

If you need someone to do bad things and make him disappear I know a guy that’s good with weapons and bury a body in the Arctic where it won’t be found 😉😂

Edit: I should add this is why I’m not a good person my first instinct is to be defensive of my kids and not be as balanced as you. So hopefully you find a way to do this much more sensibly than I would.
 
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irip said:
We have a family friend (loosely speaking) who during his life has made a few failed attempts at becoming a professional photographer.
Whenever any of the family has any sort of occasion he always volunteers to be the photographer and we always agree but also get someone who knows what they are doing.
He has decided he is going to try his hand at taking pics of glamour models and has messaged my 3 girls to ask if they want a free session.
They all think it’s quite funny but have decided I should be the one to tell him thanks but no thanks.
Any ideas on how I can politely refuse and suggest he doesn’t message young girls without hurting his feelings?

Also the wife did say jokingly she should suggest she models for him but I did point out he is a photographer not a magician.
The black eye should go in around a week.
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No need to make a big thing out of it. “The girls have asked me to tell you they don’t want to model.”

A question; if the girls are under age, why didn’t he ask you & your wife first? And if he is above board, at the very least he should have asked you to chaperone the sessions.
 
Lucifer MorningStar said:
I think my suggestions would like get you charged with assault !

If that were my daughters I’d be absolutely fuming. But then I’m not the most sensible person when it comes to people upsetting my flower and kids. People can insult me all they want I literally don’t care, but anything toward those I love I can’t seem to remain calm.

I guess all you can do is msg him telling him to go have a word with himself and about his behaviour being inappropriate. The biggest thing is the age of your girls if they were young then there’s definitely a legal standpoint.

Good luck with this one mate, I don’t envy you!

If you need someone to do bad things and make him disappear I know a guy that’s good with weapons and bury a body in the Arctic where it won’t be found 😉😂
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He did message me as well to tell me he had sent the messages.
There is definitely no harm or offence in the messages or in him.
The girls have taken no offence either and think it’s hilarious.
I’m going to pop round today and I’m sure when I explain it to him he will understand and be horrified, I hope for his sake he has not messaged anyone else.

I think it’s a poor judgement rather than anything sordid.

Fortunately the girls are all adults and my eldest is friends with his daughter.

If the messages were from a stranger or I thought in anyway meant in a sexual way I would be burying him in his own garden (I don’t like cold weather). 🤣
 
Hobbit said:
No need to make a big thing out of it. “The girls have asked me to tell you they don’t want to model.”

A question; if the girls are under age, why didn’t he ask you & your wife first? And if he is above board, at the very least he should have asked you to chaperone the sessions.
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The girls are all well above age (youngest is 22).
He did message me after he had messaged them with the same message he sent them.
Also it was just a message to ask if they might be interested and they could talk more if they were.

I don’t think there is anything in it apart from a misjudgement on his part.

I’m popping round his house in a bit so I’ll know for sure then.

Just wondered if you guys thought I should shake his hand or his throat when I see him 🤣
 
irip said:
He did message me as well to tell me he had sent the messages.
There is definitely no harm or offence in the messages or in him.
The girls have taken no offence either and think it’s hilarious.
I’m going to pop round today and I’m sure when I explain it to him he will understand and be horrified, I hope for his sake he has not messaged anyone else.

I think it’s a poor judgement rather than anything sordid.

Fortunately the girls are all adults and my eldest is friends with his daughter.

If the messages were from a stranger or I thought in anyway meant in a sexual way I would be burying him in his own garden (I don’t like cold weather). 🤣
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See my edit: 😂

I know I’m not a good person when it comes to judgement of things like this especially where my wife and kids are involved. Comes from an issue that occurred to a family member when we were young it instantly angers me and that’s my own issues to deal with 😂

Hopefully it’s just an error in judgement and he is taken aback at the approach.

Less chance of getting caught if you bury the body in the Arctic mate. I can arrange the transport 😂
 
irip said:
The girls are all well above age (youngest is 22).
He did message me after he had messaged them with the same message he sent them.
Also it was just a message to ask if they might be interested and they could talk more if they were.

I don’t think there is anything in it apart from a misjudgement on his part.

I’m popping round his house in a bit so I’ll know for sure then.

Just wondered if you guys thought I should shake his hand or his throat when I see him 🤣
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My second job in the 80’s was photography. Building experience of photographing people is difficult, probably even more so these days.

By all means have a weather eye to what he was asking but, equally, don’t necessarily read too much into it.
 
irip said:
The girls are all well above age (youngest is 22).
He did message me after he had messaged them with the same message he sent them.
Also it was just a message to ask if they might be interested and they could talk more if they were.

I don’t think there is anything in it apart from a misjudgement on his part.

I’m popping round his house in a bit so I’ll know for sure then.

Just wondered if you guys thought I should shake his hand or his throat when I see him 🤣
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Do it politely, with a simle on your face. Make sure he knows that he is generally on questionable ground though, and he should think more carefully as to how he approaches people. Make the situation non threatening, no need to escalate based on the comments you have made
 
irip said:
The girls are all well above age (youngest is 22).
He did message me after he had messaged them with the same message he sent them.
Also it was just a message to ask if they might be interested and they could talk more if they were.

I don’t think there is anything in it apart from a misjudgement on his part.

I’m popping round his house in a bit so I’ll know for sure then.

Just wondered if you guys thought I should shake his hand or his throat when I see him 🤣
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Just say thanks, but no thanks.

Thinks it says more about some of the people on here that they immediately think it is sordid and dodgy. Every photographer has to start somewhere and build up a portfolio so the obvious place to start is with family and friends. Doesn't mean he is going full on XXX stuff.
 
Neilds said:
Just say thanks, but no thanks.

Thinks it says more about some of the people on here that they immediately think it is sordid and dodgy. Every photographer has to start somewhere and build up a portfolio so the obvious place to start is with family and friends. Doesn't mean he is going full on XXX stuff.
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I agree it does say more about us but, then some of us have had to see the other side of it so judgement is Clouded. When something is put on a text, forum or anywhere without being able to convey feeling and see how it’s affected the person and it’s intentions you’re always going to get some me included go the other way. Personal experiences in these issues are what makes it sometimes emotive.

Lessons there for me to learn as well but in all honesty I doubt that’s one I’ll ever learn. 🤷🏼
 
Bit of an update.
Knock on the door and it’s the photographer with his daughter.
He has a bouquet for the wife and a bottle of whiskey for me.
Turns out he sent the same message to his niece and his daughter.
His daughter read it this morning and went straight to him and explained it was inappropriate.
He was mortified and came to apologise and explain what he wanted was a few friends and drinks and take some nice pics of the girls in nice dresses etc.
Maybe some more raunchy ones but nothing rude and it would be the girls choices what to wear and how much to show and we would all be invited as well.

All very innocent if a bit stupid on his part.

We had a chat and he is going to retire and do photography full time/as much as he can.

We discussed it and he thinks weddings and christening is the best route to take.

I didn’t have the heart to tell him he is rubbish.

So alls well now and Lucifer you can stand your man down 🤣
 
irip said:
Bit of an update.
Knock on the door and it’s the photographer with his daughter.
He has a bouquet for the wife and a bottle of whiskey for me.
Turns out he sent the same message to his niece and his daughter.
His daughter read it this morning and went straight to him and explained it was inappropriate.
He was mortified and came to apologise and explain what he wanted was a few friends and drinks and take some nice pics of the girls in nice dresses etc.
Maybe some more raunchy ones but nothing rude and it would be the girls choices what to wear and how much to show and we would all be invited as well.

All very innocent if a bit stupid on his part.

We had a chat and he is going to retire and do photography full time/as much as he can.

We discussed it and he thinks weddings and christening is the best route to take.

I didn’t have the heart to tell him he is rubbish.

So alls well now and Lucifer you can stand your man down 🤣
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Good to see it’s all settled amicably. I’ll stand myself….. sorry my man down 👀
 
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