Neilds
Assistant Pro
Is the correct answer? Also applies with no kids as well!
How much is too much golf
- Thread starter SteveW86
- Start date
SteveJay
Head Pro
Remember though, when they have grown up and left home, and you are retired and its just you and the wife (as is the case for me now), she will want you out of the house at every opportunity 
Bdill93
Undisputed King of FOMO
God, reading through all these comments is putting me off having kids....
My wife moans at the frequency of my golf at the moment, I have no idea what it'll be like managing golf, a villa season ticket, fishing and a kid... so the wife may have to be cut loose...
My wife moans at the frequency of my golf at the moment, I have no idea what it'll be like managing golf, a villa season ticket, fishing and a kid... so the wife may have to be cut loose...
sunshine
Well-known member
God, reading through all these comments is putting me off having kids....
My wife moans at the frequency of my golf at the moment, I have no idea what it'll be like managing golf, a villa season ticket, fishing and a kid... so the wife may have to be cut loose...
You can easily combine all those hobbies with parenthood. All you have to do is quit your job and that will free up 35+ hours a week
Maybe start buying a lottery ticket every week
PJ87
Journeyman Pro
God, reading through all these comments is putting me off having kids....
My wife moans at the frequency of my golf at the moment, I have no idea what it'll be like managing golf, a villa season ticket, fishing and a kid... so the wife may have to be cut loose...
It's alright give up the season ticket .. it's only villa ?
sunshine
Well-known member
I have 3 girls and have settled into a regular routine of playing every other weekend, i.e. twice a month. Any more than that is a bonus, working from home for the last year has been a bonus.
It's frustrating, because my golf game goes backwards quite a lot in two weeks, but I've learned to accept the gradual deterioration of my swing over the last 15 years. In about 3 years I'm hoping to start playing a bit more as the kids should have their own weekend hobbies by then.
It's frustrating, because my golf game goes backwards quite a lot in two weeks, but I've learned to accept the gradual deterioration of my swing over the last 15 years. In about 3 years I'm hoping to start playing a bit more as the kids should have their own weekend hobbies by then.
3offTheTee
Tour Rookie
Life is a balance, obvious comment. Ask her what she thinks is reasonable as a starting point. What hobbies does she have and can she do them?
When our kids were young I used to get up very early and have 9 holes on the way to work. Very fortunate and not practical for some. Does she take the child to her parents? If so could this be a time for 9 holes?
If you can manage 2 Comps . a month I would be happy
When our kids were young I used to get up very early and have 9 holes on the way to work. Very fortunate and not practical for some. Does she take the child to her parents? If so could this be a time for 9 holes?
If you can manage 2 Comps . a month I would be happy
SwingsitlikeHogan
Major Champion
One round of a weekend (timing as determined by your wife and not your wishes I'm afraid); one round of a summer evening - so twice a week max - and maybe a few holes or practice ground a couple of times a week summer evenings after your little un is settled.
need_my_wedge
Has Now Found His Wedgie
Is there too much golf?
When we got married and my wife moved to the UK for the first time, I didn't feel it right that I should disappear at weekends to play golf, so pretty much gave up, that extended when our lad was born, until he was 8. After about 11 years out in tota, I started playing again, he started walking round with me with a wedge and a putter, playing in from about 30 50 yards, played most weekends late in the day. He soon joined as a junior member, and after a couple of years, mrs wedge took up the game too. He's nearly 21, doing a degree in professional golf based at Dornoch (when not covid restricted). Mrs wedge and myself play golf both days at the weekend more often than not, I play in a swindle once a month. I play 2 or 3 evenings a week after work (finish 15:30), except for the last year. Because I'm working at home, if covid restrictions allow, I can play every evening pretty much, played 9 holes for my daily walk. Have no issues with how many days I'm on the course, if she's working, I can play, if she's not working, we both play. This year even better, as the company have now given us Friday afternoons off, so I can play earlier.
Doesn't help you though..... you'll have to work out the balance between you.
When we got married and my wife moved to the UK for the first time, I didn't feel it right that I should disappear at weekends to play golf, so pretty much gave up, that extended when our lad was born, until he was 8. After about 11 years out in tota, I started playing again, he started walking round with me with a wedge and a putter, playing in from about 30 50 yards, played most weekends late in the day. He soon joined as a junior member, and after a couple of years, mrs wedge took up the game too. He's nearly 21, doing a degree in professional golf based at Dornoch (when not covid restricted). Mrs wedge and myself play golf both days at the weekend more often than not, I play in a swindle once a month. I play 2 or 3 evenings a week after work (finish 15:30), except for the last year. Because I'm working at home, if covid restrictions allow, I can play every evening pretty much, played 9 holes for my daily walk. Have no issues with how many days I'm on the course, if she's working, I can play, if she's not working, we both play
. This year even better, as the company have now given us Friday afternoons off, so I can play earlier.Doesn't help you though..... you'll have to work out the balance between you.
williamalex1
Money List Winner
Whatever she decides
I've got a 4yo and 6yo twins so a few years ago there wasn't an awful lot of golf. It gets easier every year, one round a week on average and two is a bonus. When you can get round in the summer and still start at 7pm that's my peak golfing period.
Canary_Yellow
Journeyman Pro
If it’s getting sore you’re doing it too much
D
Deleted member 29109
Guest
Its a difficult balancing act and everyone has different options and feelings about what is right. But the kids are only young once and they grow up fast, and my focus was on spending time with them. I'd pretty much given up golf before they were born anyway so I didn't have the problem when only playing a few times a year. But I did play football on Sunday mornings which stopped when I moved to an area that played afternoons and needed more travelling.
I've taken golf back up again recently and looking to play more often. My two are now 11 and 13. Both play football Saturday mornings and I coach the youngest's team so can't play then. Even if I wasn't I'd be watching them play.
We try to keep Sundays free to do something together as a family.
The eldest is now at that age where she wants to be out with her mates rather than with us. The youngest is fast approaching the same. He does however have an interest in playing golf so there is hope there.
I'm looking at playing Saturday afternoons when the kids are out with their mates after football, and Thursday evenings instead of 5 aside during the summer. Plus a couple of times either at the range or nine holes with the boy.
I'll accept that playing more regularly during the winter will be difficult and take what I can get.
Its also made easier with working from home. As we see a lot more of each other so there is less pressure on the free times at weekends.
With new and young kids, it can be hard looking after them. Mums (yes its mostly mums before someone calls me sexist) are essentially on 24 hour shifts and are generally exhausted. Its not always looked upon favourably for the other half to disappear for most of the day on a weekend leaving one parent to look after the kids again. And its hard to enjoy a round when you know you have a miserable partner to go home to.
I've taken golf back up again recently and looking to play more often. My two are now 11 and 13. Both play football Saturday mornings and I coach the youngest's team so can't play then. Even if I wasn't I'd be watching them play.
We try to keep Sundays free to do something together as a family.
The eldest is now at that age where she wants to be out with her mates rather than with us. The youngest is fast approaching the same. He does however have an interest in playing golf so there is hope there.
I'm looking at playing Saturday afternoons when the kids are out with their mates after football, and Thursday evenings instead of 5 aside during the summer. Plus a couple of times either at the range or nine holes with the boy.
I'll accept that playing more regularly during the winter will be difficult and take what I can get.
Its also made easier with working from home. As we see a lot more of each other so there is less pressure on the free times at weekends.
With new and young kids, it can be hard looking after them. Mums (yes its mostly mums before someone calls me sexist) are essentially on 24 hour shifts and are generally exhausted. Its not always looked upon favourably for the other half to disappear for most of the day on a weekend leaving one parent to look after the kids again. And its hard to enjoy a round when you know you have a miserable partner to go home to.
PJ87
Journeyman Pro
9 holes i find is the key to balancing the whole situation
9 holes can be played after work in the summer and for me before work before a late no problem
Gets me a golf fix without taking too much time for weeks I can't get 18 in
Some weeks 2 X 9 holes will keep me going just right for a few weeks time
9 holes can be played after work in the summer and for me before work before a late no problem
Gets me a golf fix without taking too much time for weeks I can't get 18 in
Some weeks 2 X 9 holes will keep me going just right for a few weeks time
RichA
Well-known member
No kids.
My wife is a workaholic and finds me less irritating when I spend 4 hours out on the golf course 3-6 times a week.
Win / win for me.
Sorry - that's probably not helping your dilemma.
My wife is a workaholic and finds me less irritating when I spend 4 hours out on the golf course 3-6 times a week.
Win / win for me.
Sorry - that's probably not helping your dilemma.
PJ87
Journeyman Pro
To be fair he was asking about golf
clubchamp98
Journeyman Pro
Your dilemma is why the average age in golf clubs is quite old.
It’s a fine line you must walk with other commitments.
Kids come first ,wife second ,golf last.
Find out from hid what she thinks is right that’s your low mark to argue it up.
2/3 times a week in summer is needed to justify your membership.
Good luck you might need it.
If you lose the fight counselling is avaliable on the forum.
It’s a fine line you must walk with other commitments.
Kids come first ,wife second ,golf last.
Find out from hid what she thinks is right that’s your low mark to argue it up.
2/3 times a week in summer is needed to justify your membership.
Good luck you might need it.
If you lose the fight counselling is avaliable on the forum.
Canary_Yellow
Journeyman Pro
A big part of it depends on your flexibility and other commitments and that's why there's no right answer that fits everyone.
Pre-COVID I worked in London 4 days a week with over an hour commute and one day from home. It was very hard to justify playing much golf at the weekend given the impact it had on family life (2 young children) and the extra burden being out for 5 hours put on my wife. I could play maybe twice a month with an early Saturday morning tee off so I was home by late morning.
Last summer I was able to play a fair bit more as I could play weekday evenings around work commitments, and there was less pressure on me playing Saturday or Sunday morning as we had so much more family time in the week.
My job is quite flexible, but it's still in the 9 - 5 category predominantly. Those that have a more flexible job (e.g. start early finish early, or vice versa) will have a better chance of fitting in more midweek golf than I do.
When it comes down to it, I think we all know what is fair and reasonable in our own circumstances and what starts to take the mickey a bit and put too much of a burden on our other half.
Pre-COVID I worked in London 4 days a week with over an hour commute and one day from home. It was very hard to justify playing much golf at the weekend given the impact it had on family life (2 young children) and the extra burden being out for 5 hours put on my wife. I could play maybe twice a month with an early Saturday morning tee off so I was home by late morning.
Last summer I was able to play a fair bit more as I could play weekday evenings around work commitments, and there was less pressure on me playing Saturday or Sunday morning as we had so much more family time in the week.
My job is quite flexible, but it's still in the 9 - 5 category predominantly. Those that have a more flexible job (e.g. start early finish early, or vice versa) will have a better chance of fitting in more midweek golf than I do.
When it comes down to it, I think we all know what is fair and reasonable in our own circumstances and what starts to take the mickey a bit and put too much of a burden on our other half.
Sats
Challenge Tour Pro
I try to get 1-2 rounds a week. My kids are 12 & 14 plus the 12 year old plays so I get some Father/Son time in. Plus doing shifts mean that most of the week they are at school and the wife's at work so I play then.
