Mel Smooth
Hacker
Don't ever do that again. Do you have an Andy's Man Club near you?
http://andysmanclub.co.uk/
If you don't, then get in touch via email or social media, I know there will be somebody there that will respond and help you.
Don't ever do that again. Do you have an Andy's Man Club near you?
http://andysmanclub.co.uk/
If you don't, then get in touch via email or social media, I know there will be somebody there that will respond and help you.
I was in a very dark place a few weeks ago and could’ve easily ended it all.
It took me breaking down in front of Mrs d for me to tell her just how bad I was.
Pin-seeker
Well-known member
Stay strong and talk ??
I’m not a very good talker!
User20204
Well-known member
Sorry but that is such an easy thing to say. Some can hardly get out of bed, opening the curtains is a challenge.
When I told my mum how bad I was she said I just needed to get over it, which was really helpful!
Pin-seeker
Well-known member
Same for me
Pin-seeker
Well-known member
Appreciate that
User20204
Well-known member
To be fair, to those who don't understand it, it's to be expected but yes, not very helpful.
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Deleted member 16999
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The positive is the fact you were able to tell her, her reaction may of been her defence mechanism.
I’d genuinely say you’ve took one of the hardest steps by breaking through one of the barriers to speak to those closest. It certainly won’t of been easy for you.
Haven't we had the massive media emphasis through professional sportsmen and women exploring their mental problems. While its fantastic at raising the profile at least in the short term does it really address the core issues and help the ordinary person where the health profession is already swamped and the mental health side of things are grossly underfunded and understaffed
User20204
Well-known member
Just read the statement that her family released about what she said. Absolute classic depressive state of mind talk in what she has said.
She has clearly felt that everyone around her and the world would be better off without her.
She has clearly felt that everyone around her and the world would be better off without her.
SwingsitlikeHogan
Major Champion
And heard that the poor girl hung herself - dreadfully sad...
Those elements of the press who made it their business to hound; attack and criticise her must not be let off the hook. Let them not deflect or pretend they didn't.
Those elements of the press who made it their business to hound; attack and criticise her must not be let off the hook. Let them not deflect or pretend they didn't.
3offTheTee
Tour Rookie
Does anybody know how it got to this stage?
i5 was I understand 1a.m. Did her boyfriend complain to the police?
i5 was I understand 1a.m. Did her boyfriend complain to the police?
Wolf
Well-known member
He called 999 and is quoted by solicitors apparently as saying "she tried to kill me"
The evidence at scene and his injury is why the CPS had chosen to proceed depsite him choosing not to press charges.
Wolf
Well-known member
I believe that's what the police told the CPS
harpo_72
Journeyman Pro
Initially I was thinking if the victim said drop the charges then that should be case.
However I am sure they have experience in these matters and know that sometimes initially dropping the charges only leads to another brutal attack or possibly a killing.
I read the press story, and the only thing I got from it was there was no sorry to the person who was hurt.
I do think stress and depression were at play. I also think we talk too much but act very differently when dealing with or helping depression.
I see big organisations saying they care and been part of a big organisation that actively states it cares ... which is a total PR stunt, they could not give a monkeys. So I could believe she was suffering and no one cared as long as they got their pound of flesh, plus the pressures of being associated with a show like love island.
In the end it is a sad event
tigerwes
Hacker
Nobody is as bad as me when it come to talking. But sometimes you have to force yourself, you to have realise when your feeling low before it gets too bad and open up to someone.
This is from someone who spent years bottling everything up. I didnt tell a single person after my dad took his own life when i was 17. My mates found out from the obituaries in the paper. I went through a horrendous time with this and other personal issues at the time.
I've since lost a best mate, good work friend and cousin the same way. Still not a lot of talking from me, even though I was having my own issues with suicidal thoughts. It all came to a head after an issue at work and I hit rock bottom, still not talking and keeping it to myself. I did try to get some help through the NHS, but this was a waste of time. After trying to return to work I nearly broke down in front of a work friend and was thankfully given some counselling through work. This was the best thing i have done and would highly recommend it.
I still have issues and still have urges to act on them. But I understand it better and can deal with it before it grips me.
So now matter how bad you are, remember you are not alone, reach out and speak to someone.
Or contact CALM / Samaritans / MIND
Saw the unissued inastagram statement last night and truly moving and sad that she had got to such a low point and really felt there was nowhere left to go
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