Advice

[clubchamp07]

Nothing to do with golf

Myself and my youngest son play Bowls (indoor). during the winter months.

Tonight we were playing against a team who included a guy who works at my son's old school.
My son played a blinder tonight and we won. During our last end, my son delivered 2 cracking bowls, to which was greeted with this guys saying loud enough that the wee lad was never out of trouble while he was at the school. about 5-6 people were sitting around watching and they heard it.
I wasn't quite sure what was said leading up to this sentance, so I waited until after the game was over and asked one of the people who heard. They confirmed what I had heard, but by the time I went looking for this guy with-in 4 minutes he had vanished. I spoke to their team captain and he said that he wouldn't get involved.
My son is 14 yrs old, I find it totally out of order that a guy like this working in a school (3 years after my son has left) slags him off like this.
Do any of you guys know what I should do or can do? I am seething.

 

[Region3]

Did it upset your son as well? I personally would just leave it if it didn't but I'm more laid back than most.

The guy's already make himself look stupid imo, and I'm sure most will see it as sour grapes.

If you want to do anything, the only thing that won't get you in more trouble than him is a formal complaint to the league.

 

[madandra]

I would tell yer boy that he has just came across his first full size *** and that knowing what one looks and acts like will help him throughout his life. It soounds like you are more wound up about it than he is so don't make him think it has to be a drama, play it down and let your son move on without any waves.

 

[Parmo]

Hangin is too good the for the likes of that type..

At the next meeting have a word with said chap in the toilets.

 

[Doh]

Yes you can make a complaint to the school via the Head Teacher.
Anyone who works with Children have to sign a confidentiality caluse within their contract this is part of the safegarding laws which used to be child protection.

I hope this man is not a teacher even so what he did was completely unprofessional if he is doing it to your son he will do it to someone else. Even though your son has left school the safegarding laws and confidentiality clause still apply.

 

[clubchamp07]

Cheers guys, indeed, it didn't upset my son but then again he wouldn't want any trouble.
I have spoken to my son about it and told him people like this would only spur me on to beat them more.
Parmo, if he hadn't removed himself from the building as quick as he did if may well of got ugly. Unfortunately I had to ask excatally what was said by which time he was gone.
I know it was sour grapes as we were well infront, but the tosser had no need to comment at all. This guy works in a school full of primary school children, i find it totally out of order.
I thought sleeping on it last night would of clamed me down a bit, but I'm still anoyed about it.
Would this guy rather see my son hanging around street corners mugging old ladies?

 

[clubchamp07]

Yes you can make a complaint to the school via the Head Teacher.
Anyone who works with Children have to sign a confidentiality caluse within their contract this is part of the safegarding laws which used to be child protection.

I hope this man is not a teacher even so what he did was completely unprofessional if he is doing it to your son he will do it to someone else. Even though your son has left school the safegarding laws and confidentiality clause still apply.

Thats what I thought,

My plan of action today is to phone the school and make an appointment with the headteacher. If I dont get anywhere with him, I shall be phoning the board. If I dont get anywhere there, I shall be contacting our local radio station.

 

[clubchamp07]

Thankfully this guy is NOT a teacher.
But he still works with CHILDREN

 

[viscount17]

From memory, as a former school governor, if a complaint is registered (in writing) it has to be heard. The headmaster cannot dismiss it out of hand, it is ultimately the governors responsibility.

The school will, by law (at least in England), have a process which will explain how to go about it which you should be able to get from the school secretary.

If you get no satisfaction from the board go to the Education Authority as a next step.

 

[Crazyface]

Whatever you do, do something. I always try to complain to the relevant person when things aren't as they should be, whatever they are.

 

[GOLFBALL_WHACKER_GUY]

Wait outside his school for him and smash his face in.

 

[bobmac]

Wait outside his school for him and smash his face in.

Get done for GBH.
Go to jail, do not collect £200

 

[GOLFBALL_WHACKER_GUY]

Did I forget the safety wink?

Of course I was joking, merely a childish reply to a childish situation. If he had called your boy a cnut then that's something to post about, maybe your boy really was a trouble maker at school?

It's not really something to write home about, and you did the right thing in telling Your lad it spurs you on to Win more, but I wouldn't press the matter, you dont want to come across a whinger like that other dick head.

Bob, you forgot the do not pass go

 

[chrisd]

Have you considered it may have been a compliment - he was never out of trouble at school BUT look at him here.

I would leave it, winning is the important thing and, so far, no one has got hurt

Chris

 

[clubchamp07]

Update,

Went and seen the head, she was appalled at what had taken place.
Had a good meeting with her and one of the govenors was also present. They have told me to put it in writing and if I have any witness's to get them to write aswell.
If the guy had of called my son the name u choose so carefully, I would now be sitting in a cell waiting on my rep to come and get me out.
I think by not doing anything isn't the right way, I have thought long and hard about it and no matter what way I look at it, the guy was attacking my son, verbally. In my book, that's a NO NO.

Golfball, just think if it was ur child?

 

[GOLFBALL_WHACKER_GUY]

If it was my child the guy wouldn't have left the building before I confronted him and asked him to confirm exactly what he said.

I wouldn't run snitching to his employees, possibly putting his job at risk over a half-heard comment that, as Chris said, could have been a compliment.

 

[Adi2Dassler]

Update,

Went and seen the head, she was appalled at what had taken place.
Had a good meeting with her and one of the govenors was also present. They have told me to put it in writing and if I have any witness's to get them to write aswell.
If the guy had of called my son the name u choose so carefully, I would now be sitting in a cell waiting on my rep to come and get me out.
I think by not doing anything isn't the right way, I have thought long and hard about it and no matter what way I look at it, the guy was attacking my son, verbally. In my book, that's a NO NO.

Golfball, just think if it was ur child?

you'll know yourself if your lad was in any sort of bother at school, if he was just a normal kid up to the occasional high jinx then you have done exactly the right thing.Kids need to be shown that bullying and snide remarks cannot go unchallenged.Hope he get's his come uppence, even if it losing his job.

 

[chrisd]

even if it losing his job.

And that for me is the problem, one possibly carless remark and you want him hung drawn and quartered. He might have a wife and 5 kids for all you know, all of which will suffer for a single unguarded remark - I would not want to be your friend and I certainly wouldnt want to be your enemy!


Chris

 

[Adi2Dassler]

even if it losing his job.

And that for me is the problem, one possibly carless remark and you want him hung drawn and quartered. He might have a wife and 5 kids for all you know, all of which will suffer for a single unguarded remark - I would not want to be your friend and I certainly wouldnt want to be your enemy!


Chris

A snide remark directed at an adult, fine.A snide remark directed a small kid kinda tells me the guys has issues of a bully and has no right to be working near them.

 

[Parmo]

even if it losing his job.

And that for me is the problem, one possibly carless remark and you want him hung drawn and quartered. He might have a wife and 5 kids for all you know, all of which will suffer for a single unguarded remark - I would not want to be your friend and I certainly wouldnt want to be your enemy!


Chris

Bit strong like...

One question though for OP.. Was your son bad at school or are you one of them parents that never see any wrong?