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A Sudden Death in the Family

Many condolences to you and your family and RIP Finn. I'm a bit blubby reading this and remembering my top cat Adam who died way too young. Our lab Max is 12 and every day is precious and we worry about him as he shows signs of ageing. They really are a part of the family, part of the home, and I imagine you realise today just how often you look for him... :(
 
MarkA said:
Its awful I lost my 13 year old Golden Retriever last year, but remember how ever hard it seems you are doing it for them and they depend on you to help them! ****! Im filling up now ! Take care
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Thanks Mark, the whole family is just back from the vets, I am a complete wreck and the young dog is now fretting and all at sorts, the old fella is at peace now though, RIP Milo :(
 
We had a stray black cat adopt us when we moved into the house, and lived with us for 15 years. Very sad when she died a few years ago. A few months back another black cat, a male this time, decided to adopt us. Completely taken over the house, and tells you in no uncertain terms when he wants feeding, and letting out. Just need to teach him to stop shredding the carpets, and use his post.

Very sad when a loving pet dies, but the pleasure they give over many years more than makes up for it.
 
richart said:
We had a stray black cat adopt us when we moved into the house, and lived with us for 15 years. Very sad when she died a few years ago. A few months back another black cat, a male this time, decided to adopt us. Completely taken over the house, and tells you in no uncertain terms when he wants feeding, and letting out. Just need to teach him to stop shredding the carpets, and use his post.

Very sad when a loving pet dies, but the pleasure they give over many years more than makes up for it.
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Like I said in an earlier post you never own a cat, they own you and you are their servant. We have two anddote upon them both, just sometimes wonder if it is reciprocated.

Still wouldn't ever want to be without them.
 
On a lighter note, when I read the heading I thought someone had beaten his dad on the 19th.

Seriously, we have had cats & dogs for the last 42 years and the end is never easy. With me being the only man in the house it always fall to me to do the necessary. Know how you feel. Get a kitten SAP!
 
Ahhhh not good. Feel for you and the family.

I have a Russian Blue that is a right character and I have had her for 9 years come May now and would be gutted if she went even though she can be a right pain in the ass at times.
 
had to have my yorkie put to sleep last week,she was 16,both me and the wife in floods of tears when they put the needle in her leg,wrapped her in her favourite blanket and buried her in the garden with one of her toys,as her name was holly we have planted a little holly plant next to were she is and ordered a plaque with a photo of her and date she was born to the last date,the house feels empty and have called her name a few times when i come home out of habit.
 
Thanks to all - and heart out to you Tyke - it's a bit odd today. He'd be plonked on floor beside me at the moment. Our 18 and 21 yr olds took news pretty bad last night - but they were with friends so had some comfort. My son was very gutted as he was 'physically' very attached to Finn. From the day we got Finn he'd be picking him up and hugging him - and it was the first thing he did whenever he got home and Finn came up to him.

We've got a nice photo of my son (then 7) holding Finn when we'd just got him as a kitten - with my daughter (4) cuddling up to them. That'll go with Finn in his box.

And yes as mentioned - it's funny how without thinking I have found myself looking for him - then realising he's not there any more. Must stop as welling up a little :(
 
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tyke said:
Thanks Mark, the whole family is just back from the vets, I am a complete wreck and the young dog is now fretting and all at sorts, the old fella is at peace now though, RIP Milo :(
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My other Retriever fretted when we lost William - the way we got round it was to rescue another Retriever a 3 year old, it took about 4 to 5 months but they are inseparable now and its given Ben the older Retriever a new lease of life.

Be it Cats or Dogs its horrible losing one and I feel for anyone who is in that situation. All I will say is don't let the loss put you off as you'll have given your pet a fantastic life - what you could do in their memory is to rescue an unfortunate ( the shelters and Rescues are full) and give them a life too - we've done it twice and its so rewarding.
 
MarkA said:
My other Retriever fretted when we lost William - the way we got round it was to rescue another Retriever a 3 year old, it took about 4 to 5 months but they are inseparable now and its given Ben the older Retriever a new lease of life.

Be it Cats or Dogs its horrible losing one and I feel for anyone who is in that situation. All I will say is don't let the loss put you off as you'll have given your pet a fantastic life - what you could do in their memory is to rescue an unfortunate ( the shelters and Rescues are full) and give them a life too - we've done it twice and its so rewarding.
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I fully agree Mark, all our dogs have been rescue's, it is so very rewarding seeing the change from a timid nervous dog to one full of love and life. The good lady is already trawling the internet looking for a new pal for our young Patterdale. Thanks for your kind comments.
 
Sorry for your loss SILH.
Sorry for your loss Tyke.
The day you get a pet is the day you know that one day it'll end in tears ...................... and it hurts like hell, I know.
What I found important when we lost our 15yr old Jack Russell was to mourn his death by celebrating his life.
We lost him in 2012 ...................... and I still iss him almost everyday, despite having got another dog.
You never get fully over the loss, but it does ease over time.
I'm sorry for you both & your families.

Slime
 
Really feel for you all that have lost a cat or dog in the last few days, it's heartbreaking as we all become so attached to a pet that has a short life span, we have a cocker spaniel and he is treated like royalty, missus won't leave him on his own for long and we have all our holidays around him as she would never put him in kennels. We dread the day when anything happens to him.
 
Sorry to hear of your loss, hope the kids don't take it too badly.
I've never understood people when they say 'it's just a pet' as we all know that they're so much more than that.
All the best
 
Silver lining is that Mrs H gave me a hug and said to my daughter it was nice to see a 'soft' and caring side to me (for once she might well have added) :)
 
Sharing the pain!
Lost our beloved vizsla last November quite suddenly just short of 11 yo which seems so young. Had to make the call no one wants to make and sit with her as she was put down, totally lost for a few weeks.
In December we got a springer pup, (probably too quickly) but poor thing has just had an op on its front elbow yesterday after fracturing it, now held with a screw, hopefully make a good recovery but so unfair on a little thing. 4 weeks caged with no walks coming up! £1350 for the vets which we don't have - robbin bar stewards!
Dont know why we do it!
 
Welling up here reading the stories.

Condolences to both of you.

Lost our eldest lurcher in January last year at the age of 14, worst day of my life taking her to the vets that morning. Our remaining dog was lost for months without her. She's starting to show her age now though too and dreading a re run.
 
Sorry for your loss(es) SILH and tyke.



We had to take 'our little boy' to the vet last week for the fatal jab, I feel like his eyes were begging us to take him, he just couldn't say it.

I consider it just like Dignitas (which is something I would be prepared to do for any relative). He was 19.

Called his name a few times already and always turn my head towards his (now empty) chair as I come in the front door.

Wife couldn't stand it and was on the interweb looking for a new one as I was digging the grave in the front garden, not to 'replace' him but to start another 'relationship'. We now have a little scrap of a kitten who is so beautiful, scatty and playful..... and 2 more kittens coming in a few weeks!! Our house just doesn't work without a cat mooching around.
 
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