How do you cope in competitions when you are drawn with people you don't know?
It was lockdown did it for me. I found peace. And with time on my hands like everyone, I strayed into new areas of knowledge, and found far from being "the weirdo" (my ex-wife would always sneer I was 'anti-social' and killed my self-esteem), I was perfectly normal, but being as we are, we don't speak up and get drowned out by the noisy.
Answered above.
I'm not sure what my type is but one thing I was not doing was criticising people who wish to play alone or who don't enjoy the company of their fellow golfers . I just think its a little unfortunate that they don't because for me it is a pleasure. I could say the same thing about it being unfortunate if someone didn't enjoy the smell of newly cut grass on the course. I like it but appreciate others do not.
Yes it's a sliding scale.
Absolutely, and thank you for asking.
I'd start though by saying I agree with just about everything you've said, as may be apparent above, I've no interest in "meeting new people" either, and passing small talk that I have utterly no interest in just for the sake of politeness. It's what society expects, but I've already said above that doesn't mean it's right because those that expect it are those that shout loudest as it suits them. The forum meet for example, that is my idea of stress & hell, a social day where I know not a soul, no, thank, you.
You just keep closing your ears and your mind mate
You just keep closing your ears and your mind mate
There is a difference between listening and hearing
You're just not getting this at all are you? It's not about views, these can be easily exchanged here for example and you'll often find those more on the introvert scale far more involved where person to person involvement isn't needed, we have time to think, we don't have to make small talk, it's about social interaction **in person** being an issue.
Yup this. Having been at my new (away) club a year now (my home club doesn't have a clubhouse) I'm the same as you, I'll sit on my own or stand at the bar quite happily, watch the sport etc. There's one or two now I know quite well but I wouldn't make a bee line to any of their tables unless they waved me over, I'd just give them a wave as I come in and I'm happy with that
I also don’t ‘get’ a lot of the stuff the guys at my club talk about; the views of many of them about the sort of stuff we can’t talk about on here; and the jokes they tell. Yes I could sit with them; accept or ignore much of what is said…but I am afraid I am not good at keeping my mouth shut on certain topics…?
Well fancy that.
I think you're my long lost twin
