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Random Irritations

HID's sister (my sister in law) have never got on to the point where we barely converse on the odd occasion she is over from San Diego and definitely can't share a room, let alone any time together. I purposely didn't go to her church wedding in Wales as I thought it hypocritical to be in a church and blessing her marriage when I despise the woman (as she does me). I have no issues with her three kids when they come over and so happy to spend time with them and to be fair she has no problem with that. We simply decided to ignore each other.

In Wolf's case he simply has to find a way to cut the mother in law adrift and leave her in the cold. His wife needs and deserves all the support in the world and he's clearly given that and doesn't need it undermined by a woman spouting pure evil
 
Wolf said:
Yup it's her mother..

Short (maybe long) back story when she was 16 her mum decided to up and move to Lincolnshire to be with a new man but as Mrs Wolf at the time was doing A levels she chose along with her older brother to stay in Kent and they moved in with her dad. Caused friction at the time as MiL doesn't like FiL because he is happily married and has 2 other kids. Last year Mrs Wolf and I moved up to Lincoln for cost reasons and so she could move closer to her mum to make up for lost time. However the bitterness has remained with MiL over Mrs Wolf choice to stay in Kent, to the point nearly 10 years later she still mentions it every time she sees her and slags her dad off, which causes arguments because obviously Mrs Wolf doesn't want her dad spoken badly of especially as he really is a decent man. Since we moved up the MiL partner took a job working away causing MiL to come round more often meaning more often slagging off of Mrs Wolf's dad, meaning more arguments. Even on our wedding day which we were lucky enough to have paid for entirely by her Dad as he can afford to do it and she's his only daughter the MiL made comments to her about her dad just showing off by paying for it etc. Subsequently to that Mrs Wolf has been looking at a big career change and is currently going through the process of RAF Personnel Officer application and has got a big couple of test days at OASC (officer selection centre) coming up in 2 weeks, the MiL has told her she's stupid for thinking she's able to do it etc and that she's just a silly girl for even thinking she can be in the RAF and that she's selfish for looking at doing a career that will take her away from her🙄. As a result she's been told by Mrs Wolf not to come round if she can't support the decisions she wants to make for her life and our future.

Tbh I think the reasons are she is
a) still bitter about the choice her and her brother made to stay behind as she is still very bitter towards their dad.
B) she's very lonely as despite living up here 10 years she never bothered to make friends and now her partner is away for weeks at a time takes that frustrated feeling out on the 1 person available
C) she's always been unbelievably negative and destructive with relationships, which is why MiL & FiL split in the first place over 20years ago, even Mrs Wolf brother doesn't come to visit anymore as in his words "she's poison to anyone close to her because she wants the world to feel sorry for her as the victim" 🤷‍♂️

Well that wasn't as short as it was meant to be but kind of summarises the whole scenario and the woman, but doesn't excuse the way she is towards my wife or her brother.
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Please don't take this the wrong way, but, from some of your other posts it sounds like your MiL and ex wife could be related. :)
 
srixon 1 said:
Please don't take this the wrong way, but, from some of your other posts it sounds like your MiL and ex wife could be related. :)
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I would never take that the wri g way as They are unbelievably alike 😂fortunately my ex wasn't actually ever my legal wife...I wouldnt wish either person on my worst enemy
 
Wolf said:
Yup it's her mother..

Short (maybe long) back story when she was 16 her mum decided to up and move to Lincolnshire to be with a new man but as Mrs Wolf at the time was doing A levels she chose along with her older brother to stay in Kent and they moved in with her dad. Caused friction at the time as MiL doesn't like FiL because he is happily married and has 2 other kids. Last year Mrs Wolf and I moved up to Lincoln for cost reasons and so she could move closer to her mum to make up for lost time. However the bitterness has remained with MiL over Mrs Wolf choice to stay in Kent, to the point nearly 10 years later she still mentions it every time she sees her and slags her dad off, which causes arguments because obviously Mrs Wolf doesn't want her dad spoken badly of especially as he really is a decent man. Since we moved up the MiL partner took a job working away causing MiL to come round more often meaning more often slagging off of Mrs Wolf's dad, meaning more arguments. Even on our wedding day which we were lucky enough to have paid for entirely by her Dad as he can afford to do it and she's his only daughter the MiL made comments to her about her dad just showing off by paying for it etc. Subsequently to that Mrs Wolf has been looking at a big career change and is currently going through the process of RAF Personnel Officer application and has got a big couple of test days at OASC (officer selection centre) coming up in 2 weeks, the MiL has told her she's stupid for thinking she's able to do it etc and that she's just a silly girl for even thinking she can be in the RAF and that she's selfish for looking at doing a career that will take her away from her🙄. As a result she's been told by Mrs Wolf not to come round if she can't support the decisions she wants to make for her life and our future.

Tbh I think the reasons are she is
a) still bitter about the choice her and her brother made to stay behind as she is still very bitter towards their dad.
B) she's very lonely as despite living up here 10 years she never bothered to make friends and now her partner is away for weeks at a time takes that frustrated feeling out on the 1 person available
C) she's always been unbelievably negative and destructive with relationships, which is why MiL & FiL split in the first place over 20years ago, even Mrs Wolf brother doesn't come to visit anymore as in his words "she's poison to anyone close to her because she wants the world to feel sorry for her as the victim" 🤷‍♂️

Well that wasn't as short as it was meant to be but kind of summarises the whole scenario and the woman, but doesn't excuse the way she is towards my wife or her brother.
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That makes sad reading.
 
It appears to be firework night around here again....
I don't think I can remember an evening since the middle of October when I haven't heard bloody fireworks......
 
People who are apparently completely incapable of reading simple instructions and acting upon them, instead resubmitting the same rubbish yet expecting a different result. Madness.
 
Blue in Munich said:
People who are apparently completely incapable of reading simple instructions and acting upon them, instead resubmitting the same rubbish yet expecting a different result. Madness.
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Didn't Einstein (allegedly) come close to summing your irritation as: The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result
 
Black Friday................which now seems to run through Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and on and on.
 
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