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Random Irritations

Wasting pretty much a whole day at work trying to figure out what my co-worker who's now on holiday has and hasn't done rather than actually getting anything done myself.
 
Orikoru said:
Wasting pretty much a whole day at work trying to figure out what my co-worker who's now on holiday has and hasn't done rather than actually getting anything done myself.
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i work with someone like that but it took us 4 days to work out what he hadn’t done
 
When people appeal for someone to come to court and give evidence "under oath" not going into the whole prince Andrew debate but this plea to have him give evidence under oath ... Unless your super religious who would take any notice of oath or not?!!
 
Wolf said:
Thought I'd leave work early today to spend some time with Mrs Wolf as we had a busy weekend but...

Somehow when unplugging my phone from my desk I managed to damage a small pin in the charging port on my phone rendering the charging/USB post unusable so had to go into town to buy a wireless charging unit for at home.

Upon getting back to the car in car park, I find the rear passenger side tyre completely deflated and turns out I've a puncture that's not repearable costing me £180 for a new tyre.

So not only did I not get home early despite leaving work at 2pm, it was in fact 7pm when I arrived home, I walk in the door find Mrs Wolf in tears as the dragon in law has been round having a pop at her again... Today can truly kiss my arse 😠
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this keeps confusing me, is she your mother or hers?
 
Slime said:
I'm thinking that she's Mrs Wolf's mother.
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patricks148 said:
yes, but why would she be so horrible to her Daughter?
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Yup it's her mother..

Short (maybe long) back story when she was 16 her mum decided to up and move to Lincolnshire to be with a new man but as Mrs Wolf at the time was doing A levels she chose along with her older brother to stay in Kent and they moved in with her dad. Caused friction at the time as MiL doesn't like FiL because he is happily married and has 2 other kids. Last year Mrs Wolf and I moved up to Lincoln for cost reasons and so she could move closer to her mum to make up for lost time. However the bitterness has remained with MiL over Mrs Wolf choice to stay in Kent, to the point nearly 10 years later she still mentions it every time she sees her and slags her dad off, which causes arguments because obviously Mrs Wolf doesn't want her dad spoken badly of especially as he really is a decent man. Since we moved up the MiL partner took a job working away causing MiL to come round more often meaning more often slagging off of Mrs Wolf's dad, meaning more arguments. Even on our wedding day which we were lucky enough to have paid for entirely by her Dad as he can afford to do it and she's his only daughter the MiL made comments to her about her dad just showing off by paying for it etc. Subsequently to that Mrs Wolf has been looking at a big career change and is currently going through the process of RAF Personnel Officer application and has got a big couple of test days at OASC (officer selection centre) coming up in 2 weeks, the MiL has told her she's stupid for thinking she's able to do it etc and that she's just a silly girl for even thinking she can be in the RAF and that she's selfish for looking at doing a career that will take her away from her🙄. As a result she's been told by Mrs Wolf not to come round if she can't support the decisions she wants to make for her life and our future.

Tbh I think the reasons are she is
a) still bitter about the choice her and her brother made to stay behind as she is still very bitter towards their dad.
B) she's very lonely as despite living up here 10 years she never bothered to make friends and now her partner is away for weeks at a time takes that frustrated feeling out on the 1 person available
C) she's always been unbelievably negative and destructive with relationships, which is why MiL & FiL split in the first place over 20years ago, even Mrs Wolf brother doesn't come to visit anymore as in his words "she's poison to anyone close to her because she wants the world to feel sorry for her as the victim" 🤷‍♂️

Well that wasn't as short as it was meant to be but kind of summarises the whole scenario and the woman, but doesn't excuse the way she is towards my wife or her brother.
 
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Wolf said:
Yup it's her mother..

Short (maybe long) back story when she was 16 her mum decided to up and move to Lincolnshire to be with a new man but as Mrs Wolf at the time was doing A levels she chose along with her older brother to stay in Kent and they moved in with her dad. Caused friction at the time as MiL doesn't like FiL because he is happily married and has 2 other kids. Last year Mrs Wolf and I moved up to Lincoln for cost reasons and so she could move closer to her mum to make up for lost time. However the bitterness has remained with MiL over Mrs Wolf choice to stay in Kent, to the point nearly 10 years later she still mentions it every time she sees her and slags her dad off, which causes arguments because obviously Mrs Wolf doesn't want her dad spoken badly of especially as he really is a decent man. Since we moved up the MiL partner took a job working away causing MiL to come round more often meaning more often slagging off of Mrs Wolf's dad, meaning more arguments. Even on our wedding day which we were lucky enough to have paid for entirely by her Dad as he can afford to do it and she's his only daughter the MiL made comments to her about her dad just showing off by paying for it etc. Subsequently to that Mrs Wolf has been looking at a big career change and is currently going through the process of RAF Personnel Officer application and has got a big couple of test days at OASC (officer selection centre) coming up in 2 weeks, the MiL has told her she's stupid for thinking she's able to do it etc and that she's just a silly girl for even thinking she can be in the RAF and that she's selfish for looking at doing a career that will take her away from her🙄. As a result she's been told by Mrs Wolf not to come round if she can't support the decisions she wants to make for her life and our future.

Tbh I think the reasons are she is
a) still bitter about the choice her and her brother made to stay behind as she is still very bitter towards their dad.
B) she's very lonely as despite living up here 10 years she never bothered to make friends and now her partner is away for weeks at a time takes that frustrated feeling out on the 1 person available
C) she's always been unbelievably negative and destructive with relationships, which is why MiL & FiL split in the first place over 20years ago, even Mrs Wolf brother doesn't come to visit anymore as in his words "she's poison to anyone close to her because she wants the world to feel sorry for her as the victim" 🤷‍♂️

Well that wasn't as short as it was meant to be but kind of summarises the whole scenario and the woman, but doesn't excuse the way she is towards my wife or her brother.
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You need to move away. Far easier said than done and families are clearly complicated but having that woman close to your lives is always going to be a problem. Horrible situation for you.
 
Wolf said:
Yup it's her mother..

Short (maybe long) back story when she was 16 her mum decided to up and move to Lincolnshire to be with a new man but as Mrs Wolf at the time was doing A levels she chose along with her older brother to stay in Kent and they moved in with her dad. Caused friction at the time as MiL doesn't like FiL because he is happily married and has 2 other kids. Last year Mrs Wolf and I moved up to Lincoln for cost reasons and so she could move closer to her mum to make up for lost time. However the bitterness has remained with MiL over Mrs Wolf choice to stay in Kent, to the point nearly 10 years later she still mentions it every time she sees her and slags her dad off, which causes arguments because obviously Mrs Wolf doesn't want her dad spoken badly of especially as he really is a decent man. Since we moved up the MiL partner took a job working away causing MiL to come round more often meaning more often slagging off of Mrs Wolf's dad, meaning more arguments. Even on our wedding day which we were lucky enough to have paid for entirely by her Dad as he can afford to do it and she's his only daughter the MiL made comments to her about her dad just showing off by paying for it etc. Subsequently to that Mrs Wolf has been looking at a big career change and is currently going through the process of RAF Personnel Officer application and has got a big couple of test days at OASC (officer selection centre) coming up in 2 weeks, the MiL has told her she's stupid for thinking she's able to do it etc and that she's just a silly girl for even thinking she can be in the RAF and that she's selfish for looking at doing a career that will take her away from her🙄. As a result she's been told by Mrs Wolf not to come round if she can't support the decisions she wants to make for her life and our future.

Tbh I think the reasons are she is
a) still bitter about the choice her and her brother made to stay behind as she is still very bitter towards their dad.
B) she's very lonely as despite living up here 10 years she never bothered to make friends and now her partner is away for weeks at a time takes that frustrated feeling out on the 1 person available
C) she's always been unbelievably negative and destructive with relationships, which is why MiL & FiL split in the first place over 20years ago, even Mrs Wolf brother doesn't come to visit anymore as in his words "she's poison to anyone close to her because she wants the world to feel sorry for her as the victim" 🤷‍♂️

Well that wasn't as short as it was meant to be but kind of summarises the whole scenario and the woman, but doesn't excuse the way she is towards my wife or her brother.
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thanks, she sounds a delight;)... i won't ask what you think of her:censored:
 
Wolf said:
Yup it's her mother..

Short (maybe long) back story when she was 16 her mum decided to up and move to Lincolnshire to be with a new man but as Mrs Wolf at the time was doing A levels she chose along with her older brother to stay in Kent and they moved in with her dad. Caused friction at the time as MiL doesn't like FiL because he is happily married and has 2 other kids. Last year Mrs Wolf and I moved up to Lincoln for cost reasons and so she could move closer to her mum to make up for lost time. However the bitterness has remained with MiL over Mrs Wolf choice to stay in Kent, to the point nearly 10 years later she still mentions it every time she sees her and slags her dad off, which causes arguments because obviously Mrs Wolf doesn't want her dad spoken badly of especially as he really is a decent man. Since we moved up the MiL partner took a job working away causing MiL to come round more often meaning more often slagging off of Mrs Wolf's dad, meaning more arguments. Even on our wedding day which we were lucky enough to have paid for entirely by her Dad as he can afford to do it and she's his only daughter the MiL made comments to her about her dad just showing off by paying for it etc. Subsequently to that Mrs Wolf has been looking at a big career change and is currently going through the process of RAF Personnel Officer application and has got a big couple of test days at OASC (officer selection centre) coming up in 2 weeks, the MiL has told her she's stupid for thinking she's able to do it etc and that she's just a silly girl for even thinking she can be in the RAF and that she's selfish for looking at doing a career that will take her away from her🙄. As a result she's been told by Mrs Wolf not to come round if she can't support the decisions she wants to make for her life and our future.

Tbh I think the reasons are she is
a) still bitter about the choice her and her brother made to stay behind as she is still very bitter towards their dad.
B) she's very lonely as despite living up here 10 years she never bothered to make friends and now her partner is away for weeks at a time takes that frustrated feeling out on the 1 person available
C) she's always been unbelievably negative and destructive with relationships, which is why MiL & FiL split in the first place over 20years ago, even Mrs Wolf brother doesn't come to visit anymore as in his words "she's poison to anyone close to her because she wants the world to feel sorry for her as the victim" 🤷‍♂️

Well that wasn't as short as it was meant to be but kind of summarises the whole scenario and the woman, but doesn't excuse the way she is towards my wife or her brother.
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I would say your MiL is jealous of her daughters happy relationship and supportive husband. When she is stopped from visiting and seeing the grandkids she might see the error of her ways. You are both adults, and parents all to often don’t see that and still think they can control what you do well into your own lives.
All she is probably doing right now, apart from upsetting her daughter and you, is to poison the kids feelings about her which could mean them having no interest in her at all......and I’m not aware of any grand person that isn’t interested in their grandkids.
 
Lord Tyrion said:
You need to move away. Far easier said than done and families are clearly complicated but having that woman close to your lives is always going to be a problem. Horrible situation for you.
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If Mrs Wolf gets through her application process that's exactly what will happen and help solve the whole problem, it's just sad really that part of our initial move to bring them closer but has been the complete opposite.

patricks148 said:
thanks, she sounds a delight;)... i won't ask what you think of her:censored:
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If I wrote that I'd get a MOD imposed forum holiday 😂
Bunkermagnet said:
I would say your MiL is jealous of her daughters happy relationship and supportive husband. When she is stopped from visiting and seeing the grandkids she might see the error of her ways. You are both adults, and parents all to often don’t see that and still think they can control what you do well into your own lives.
All she is probably doing right now, apart from upsetting her daughter and you, is to poison the kids feelings about her which could mean them having no interest in her at all......and I’m not aware of any grand person that isn’t interested in their grandkids.
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First bit in bold absolutely spot on part of it.. Second part of it already happened they hate being round her...
 
Lazkir said:
I have a sister like that, haven't spoken to her for 30 years, neither have most of the family. Problem solved!
If something is rotten you cut it off, no matter how painful it may be.
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13 years since I last spoke to my sisters' mother as I refer to her. Wish it had been 33 years. The postman at her house would have to fight through all the cobwebs on the letter box to deliver anything at Xmas to her, she's that unpopular.
 
people who don't pick up after their dogs, saw one clown today trying to hide it under leaves...as he didn't know i was behind him... he was 10ft from the poo bin.

when i offered him a bag to pick it up he got abusive.... :rolleyes:
 
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