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Breaking down in front of my 2 girls as the stress of work This week sent me back to that horrible dark place
Hang in there mate ,it's only work, a job, that can be changed if it is getting you down that much.
I have read that you are doing some other blokes work as he is a total knob.
Refuse to do it any more .tell your boss you have enough to do without covering for said knob.
 
Haven't felt able to comfortably swing a club, yet alone hit a ball, since fracturing my elbow and arm late August.
Left elbow seems to be much better, but the right wrist still has some discomfort and I don't want to set my recovery back by not listening to my body.
Bloody frustrating!
 
Breaking down in front of my 2 girls as the stress of work This week sent me back to that horrible dark place

Gird your loins D. Not sure what that means but it sounds like it could be fun...

Many years ago, as the company I worked for grew, I took on more and more work, working longer and longer hours. I'd speak to the boss about recruitment and he'd agree it was needed but nothing would happen. I decided to start at 9 and finish at 5, apart from the odd mega emergency. Anything not completed was finished off the following day. After a few weeks of the boss asking why things weren't being finished I would reply that there's only so many hours in the day, he okayed recruitment. It went against the grain with me, almost working to rule, but it brought balance back to my work-life routine.
 
Breaking down in front of my 2 girls as the stress of work This week sent me back to that horrible dark place

I'm sure the girls understand you, support you and know the cause of the problem James. The need, I'd say, is a chat at work with your line manager, given its clear that your workload is unreasonable at present.
 
Hang in there mate ,it's only work, a job, that can be changed if it is getting you down that much.
I have read that you are doing some other blokes work as he is a total knob.
Refuse to do it any more .tell your boss you have enough to do without covering for said knob.

My boss has been helping out otherwise I’d have really lost it!
 
Thanks for the nice words chaps.
As others have said, you need to change things at work. It can't go on and clearly covering for your colleague taking an unacceptable toll. Jobs can be changed. Explain to your girls what is going on so they don't start carrying the burden and think somehow they are responsible. Stay strong. You know you are bigger and better than any problem in front of you and have escaped the darkness before and are far stronger this time around.
 
Useless trades people.

My plasterer who has done really good work for me before, he is not the best at time keeping but this time is something else!!

He lives in Germany part of the year, comes over, works for a bit and goes back. I was scheduled to have my extension started 3 weeks ago to co-inside with him being in the UK. On the way to the ferry his van breaks down, cant afford a garage so has to fix it himself. 1 week delay.

Following week he crosses, but then tells me he has to go to Birmingham first as his mum is in hospital, quite serious by the sounds of it, and i am nice and compassionate, so OK no worries, family always first! Turns into another week delay!

Sunday, he messages me, i will be there 9AM tuesday and be done by Friday night, (good as i have a chippy booked!) Tuesday he eventually rocks up at 1:15, i wasn't there, my dad was in charge (who had been sat in my house since 9AM). Proceeds to drink coffee, chat to my dad and put a few plasterboards up. Finishes at 7PM. See you tomorrow at 9:15, have to drop my van for an MOT locally. No problem!

Wednesday, 11AM, my dad calls me, 'he is still not here' (sat in my house all day again!) ok, so he texts me, the van failed on something, but they can fix it, then get it passed! Any chance you can advance me 100 quid so i can pay for it? And i stupidly do, he has worked for me before, i trusted him. Well thats the last i have heard from him. Sent him a message via whatsapp again yesterday, Nothing. Its not even been delivered to his phone, so his phone has been off for over 36 hours!?!?

Now sent him a message last night saying to pick up his tools by the end of the weekend, or they are off to the tip. And he has left well over a grands worth of tools here..

I just cant fathom how people can live their lives like that?! OK, his mum is ill, has life stuff in the way, COMMUNICATE!!! thats all thats needed. Anyway, new plasterer popping in later to quote to finish it off ASAP which is going to cost me tons more, but lesson learned. Trust no-one.

And Breathe.......
 
Hospital car parks, X ray appointment this morning, not a space to be had, not helped by lots taking up two spaces... ended up going to Tesco and walking over
 
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