Random Irritations

[Dando]

being massively hungover, felling like shite and aching like buggery.

had a massive serving of cold shoulder last night when I stumbled home at just before midnight

currently nursing a bottle of Lucozade at my desk.

still it was good fun

 

[bobmac]

He's actually a well known face and the range is only a mile or so from the club so going "undercover" not possible especially as he teaches a number of the membership. Also he feels as a pro it's unethical to turn up and use the facilities to teach. I guess the only option would be for me to pay a green fee somewhere, him to use PGA access and do it on a "neutral" course and for him to then jump off after an hour or however many holes he can do. Clearly with a full teaching diary (and travel time) he wouldn't want to play a full round

I admit I haven't watched all your videos on YT but I did watch the linear scramble test and several things caught my eye.

At about 4.45mins you are in the rough, 185 to the green and you want to move the ball left to right. That being the case, shouldn't you be aiming left and was a ''little 4'' ever going to reach?
So set up and club selection could be looked at.

On the next tee you are 179 from the green, ball teed up, again a little 4 iron, a good strike and still came up short.
So club selection again questionable.
Another thing is your set up.
It looks as if you point the club at the target and then stand square to the club but you don't check.
In fact at 16:20 you set up and don't look at all.

Just a couple of things that may help you find more fairways and greens without touching the swing.

 

[HomerJSimpson]

I admit I haven't watched all your videos on YT but I did watch the linear scramble test and several things caught my eye.

At about 4.45mins you are in the rough, 185 to the green and you want to move the ball left to right. That being the case, shouldn't you be aiming left and was a ''little 4'' ever going to reach?
So set up and club selection could be looked at.

On the next tee you are 179 from the green, ball teed up, again a little 4 iron, a good strike and still came up short.
So club selection again questionable.
Another thing is your set up.
It looks as if you point the club at the target and then stand square to the club but you don't check.
In fact at 16:20 you set up and don't look at all.

Just a couple of things that may help you find more fairways and greens without touching the swing.

Thanks for the feedback Bob. I'll have a look back and then look at my alignment on the practice ground (rather than symmetry of a range mat). Good point regarding club selection and maybe a review of distances hit in order as well. Appreciate the time taken and the tips

 

[Robster59]

being massively hungover, felling like shite and aching like buggery.

had a massive serving of cold shoulder last night when I stumbled home at just before midnight

currently nursing a bottle of Lucozade at my desk.

still it was good fun

Lucozade! It's been ruined for me by them changing the formula and reducing the amount of sugar in it. Tastes awful now.

 

[Norrin Radd]

Mrs Radd being diagnosed with depression and the pills she has been given making her feel worse

 

[HomerJSimpson]

Mrs Radd being diagnosed with depression and the pills she has been given making her feel worse

Not good pal. HID has struggled with that and associated problems for a long time (touch wood all in a good place since working at a school). Just be as supportive as you can, encourage her to talk and be patient

 

[AmandaJR]

Mrs Radd being diagnosed with depression and the pills she has been given making her feel worse

It can often be the case that the meds make people feel worse before they start to have a positive effect. Hopefully she can stick with them but if it gets very bad then back to the docs to reassess.

 

[Norrin Radd]

Not good pal. HID has struggled with that and associated problems for a long time (touch wood all in a good place since working at a school). Just be as supportive as you can, encourage her to talk and be patient

Thanks Martin I have been trying to get her to have a holiday but she just doesn't seem to want to anything at the moment .it's the anxiety attacks that are the worst as she just falls apart in tears .she hasn't worked in three weeks and I have probably taken up to near a fortnight off myself as she doesn't want to be alone.
I wish I knew what triggered it off but can't put my finger on anything specific .we haven't got relationship probs or financial worries ,so quite why she should feel depressed is a worry.

 

[Norrin Radd]

It can often be the case that the meds make people feel worse before they start to have a positive effect. Hopefully she can stick with them but if it gets very bad then back to the docs to reassess.

We have an appointment with the doc tomorrow,hopefully she can give her a little bit of comfort in that your assumption is right and it takes a while to react in the right way for her.

 

[Deleted member 16999]

Thanks Martin I have been trying to get her to have a holiday but she just doesn't seem to want to anything at the moment .it's the anxiety attacks that are the worst as she just falls apart in tears .she hasn't worked in three weeks and I have probably taken up to near a fortnight off myself as she doesn't want to be alone.
I wish I knew what triggered it off but can't put my finger on anything specific .we haven't got relationship probs or financial worries ,so quite why she should feel depressed is a worry.

Unfortunately another one who’s been/is in your shoes, just be there for her, the tears can flow at anytime and sometimes she will want to talk and other times she won’t, just still be there and offer the hugs and cuddles.
Saying the right thing at wrong time and vice versa is difficult and a minefield, be patient and be strong.
It’s not easy for you either, so try and give yourself a break, you going downhill is no good for either of you.
Good luck.

 

[Slime]

Thanks Martin I have been trying to get her to have a holiday but she just doesn't seem to want to anything at the moment .it's the anxiety attacks that are the worst as she just falls apart in tears .she hasn't worked in three weeks and I have probably taken up to near a fortnight off myself as she doesn't want to be alone.
I wish I knew what triggered it off but can't put my finger on anything specific .we haven't got relationship probs or financial worries ,so quite why she should feel depressed is a worry.

I truly sympathise with you and your wife.
When I suffered, it was due to something that had happened in my childhood that I'd locked away in the far recesses of my brain.
It had been affecting me my whole life, I just didn't realise because I thought I'd forgotten all about it, but it had been constantly gnawing away at my subconscious for decades.
It was only bought to light by a superb counsellor I was seeing.
It needed a professional to get to the root cause, then, once the cause was found, the only way was forward.
I really hope this helps.

 

[Norrin Radd]

Unfortunately another one who’s been/is in your shoes, just be there for her, the tears can flow at anytime and sometimes she will want to talk and other times she won’t, just still be there and offer the hugs and cuddles.
Saying the right thing at wrong time and vice versa is difficult and a minefield, be patient and be strong.
It’s not easy for you either, so try and give yourself a break, you going downhill is no good for either of you.
Good luck.

The hugs and cuddles are there on tap and like you say Trying to keep a happy face when you feel like crying yourself is hard ,it hurts to see her like she is at the moment and saying the right things at the right time is of paramount importance as it helps her get through the rough patches.
She sees the doc tomorrow so hopefully they might have something new to help ease things a bit.

 

[BrianM]

Up at half 3 for the journey back to Aberdeen for work after 4 weeks off ☹️

 

[Slime]

Someone who refuses to take the olive branch I offered them.

 

[Slime]

Motorists who are not aware just how dangerous driving can be.

 

[Deleted member 18645]

GoDaddy - bunch of rip-off merchants. Tried doubling my hosting fees thinking I wouldn't notice - then started charging me in $ not £ in spite of multiple calls and updates - then applied taxes on the American value and then the UK value too. So when I started to switch hosts, they then made it as difficult as possible to move the server. My website was down for the best part of two weeks. Total assholes.

 

[HomerJSimpson]

The hugs and cuddles are there on tap and like you say Trying to keep a happy face when you feel like crying yourself is hard ,it hurts to see her like she is at the moment and saying the right things at the right time is of paramount importance as it helps her get through the rough patches.
She sees the doc tomorrow so hopefully they might have something new to help ease things a bit.

Hopefully the doctor can at least offer some professional advice and support but I fear (from personal experience) sometimes behind closed doors it gets worse before any tiny patches of hope and signs of improvement. There is no fast track or easy answer and beware as the toil of being strong for her WILL catch up with you at some point so make sure you have a release valve (golf etc). My wife got to the point of self harm but thankfully is on a very positive arc of the curve in the last few years partly from her job at the school she started a year ago, ironically after a really bad year in work in the hospital with bullying and other problems. Life can take very strange turns and you simply have to get over these "speed bumps" on lifes highway. It will take time but I know you'll be there every step of the way with your wife.

 

[Hobbit]

Mrs Radd being diagnosed with depression and the pills she has been given making her feel worse

Tough times ahead mate. Be there for her. Try and listen to what she says but try and not confront what she says. If you disagree with a point, don't say no, ask her why she feels like that. Getting her to understand the root cause is more important than confronting it in the early days. Even though you may know why, she needs to come to the why.

Listen to the doc. Ask questions. Don't just take a prescription for pills, ask for something to compliment them e.g. talking therapies/cognitive behaviour therapy and developing her own coping mechanisms is so important.

As someone who suffered PTSD for a number of years, and quite literally stood on the edge of a cliff, its so important to get someone professional to help create the mechanisms needed.

And when you have time for yourself, use it to recharge the batteries. Read a book, listen to music. Lose yourself with a bit of mindfulness.

Good luck buddy.

 

[Deleted member 18645]

The office loudmouth who has returned from holiday and has told everyone the same sodding story this morning. Four hours he has been in and has done no work whatsoever. I must have heard about his damn pedalo trip four times now. He is going to get his bottle of Sangria put in a place he will need a very good doctor to retrieve it soon.

 

[AmandaJR]

We have an appointment with the doc tomorrow,hopefully she can give her a little bit of comfort in that your assumption is right and it takes a while to react in the right way for her.

Hope it goes well. Sometimes finding forums of users of the same meds can help reassure as they are real life stories of their experiences on taking them.