Beginners etiquette question

[Copernicus]

I am still working towards a handicap. I keep accurate records of my scores so I can review after how to improve. Today I played with an experienced member. We set out with the intention of them marking a card for me so could see my progress. Repeatedly they would move my ball. Admittedly they were trying to make it easier for me. So I was out of bounds and they moved it in for me. I got on a green and they picked my ball up and said we would assume a two putt. Another time I had a four foot putt and they kicked my ball away and said they would give it to me etc. We were not holding anyone up. It irritated me intensely but I bit my tongue because I didn't want to say anything out of place and I thought maybe I was overreacting not knowing the etiquette.
So I just wondered. Is this normal etiquette to help a beginner? Or is it not ok to move someone's ball at all if they don't want you to?

 

[Alex1975]

I am still working towards a handicap. I keep accurate records of my scores so I can review after how to improve. Today I played with an experienced member. We set out with the intention of them marking a card for me so could see my progress. Repeatedly they would move my ball. Admittedly they were trying to make it easier for me. So I was out of bounds and they moved it in for me. I got on a green and they picked my ball up and said we would assume a two putt. Another time I had a four foot putt and they kicked my ball away and said they would give it to me etc. We were not holding anyone up. It irritated me intensely but I bit my tongue because I didn't want to say anything out of place and I thought maybe I was overreacting not knowing the etiquette.
So I just wondered. Is this normal etiquette to help a beginner? Or is it not ok to move someone's ball at all if they don't want you to?

That`s a bad deal, rip the card up and ask someone else to do your scores. Very worrying that this is happening.

 

[Copernicus]

I perhaps should qualify that I was not intending to hand this card in, it was for my use only but I still wanted it accurate.

 

[Doh]

That's being less than helpful to you and they should know better. How do they expect you to learn the game when they are disregarding the rules, as has been said rip it up and start again (there's a song in there somewhere)

 

[Alex1975]

I perhaps should qualify that I was not intending to hand this card in, it was for my use only but I still wanted it accurate.

Ahh I see ok. I thought it was your first handicap card. That aside, I maybe done want my ball douched unless its actually match play and your conceding the hole. Not good manors really.

 

[Lord Tyrion]

It sounds as though they were being a bit patronising. Hopefully they were aiming to be extra friendly and just got it a little wrong.

 

[PJ87]

I was playing with my mate whos a 5 handicapper once. I hit a poor put and he stopped it with his putter and said hit that again

I was annoyed because I was scoring the round personally (he was playing for practice just trying things out with his swing etc)

I just replaced the ball and played again

did have a word though but thats because he is a mate

if I was doing this with someone I didnt know would make me uncomfortable

 

[LincolnShep]

Sounds like they were doing it with the best intentions. If it happens again, just say that you like to record accurate scores even if if they're bad - it's not rude to explain why you don't want any favours.

 

[HomerJSimpson]

Probably done with the best intent but it's not the way to learn. Hard as it is you have to deal with OOB and you have to learn to putt and even the very best miss tiddlers from time to time and you need to get use to holing out. If you play with them again, tell them you appreciate their efforts but you want to play the round warts and all

 

[Smiffy]

Sounds to me like he was in a bit of a hurry and was speeding you along a bit.

 

[Hendy]

Sounds to me like he was in a bit of a hurry and was speeding you along a bit.

Just what I was thinking. If yous were out mid week and he knew your were playing for fun ie not a comparative card and say he only had a few hours to spare and didn't want you playing on your own then you could over look it.

I was out with a regular senior at my club mid week there before Xmas and a young guy that had joined for the first time in September in a early bird deal was standing at the tee as we hit off. I asked him to join us and he did

As he was only learning the game and was awaiting his handicap he was only playing for fun/practice. The senior with us give him loads of putts and sometimes placed the ball up a little on his way past.

You could look at it two ways 1 he did that cause he didn't have time to be standing watching him play 6-10 shots per hole or 2 because he wanted him to enjoy his round and keep pace with us. And not put pressure on him to rush shots and putts.