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Attending a (random) wedding..

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So Mrs has been invited to a wedding of a work colleague. They work as a team so fairly close, though I dont know her from Jill. Since it is a couple thing, I have to attend it too. It will be interesting as I dont know anyone at the wedding ... Its funny how the genders react. The wedding is months away and Mrs is talking about what she is going to wear, while I think it will be regular suit for me.

Anyone attended any random weddings here?
 
Two years ago, whilst in La Manga for a golf jolly, my group got sucked in to a Spanish wedding that was going on in the same place we were having dinner.
We were walking past and my mate started dancing to the music, one lady spotted him and just grabbed all three of us and led us in to the party.
No only did we not know anyone, we weren't exactly dressed for a wedding nor did any of us know much Spanish.
Cracking night though.
 
Went to one a couple of years ago. Old friend of my wifes, not one I had much to do with and she moved away a good few years ago. My wife got a new outfit, shoes, dress, hat the lot. A borrowed a tie from BiL, made do with an old suit. I wanted to do my part but just could not get into it and was very happy when my wife suggested I head back to the hotel whilst she was talking to other ex work colleagues who had made the trip. Probably not my finest hour but not every random event comes off and so I chalked that one down to experience.
 
Went to one the other week in me shorts and t shirt. Missed a City game for it and was not happy. But having said that. The brides mum was one of missis T,s best mates. Her pal passed away a good few years ago with breast cancer. Bride, brides grandparents were over the moon to see us. MissisT and pals mum shed a tear or two reminiscing. It was a decent night but odd not knowing anyone there.
Missis T was once invited to two weddings in one night through work. The posh do at Rufford Golf club, ended inside a couple of years as I predicted on the night. ( bride spent all night looking down her nose at him). The second wedding at the Brown Cow pub was as down to earth as you can imagine. At one time there were just three of us in the main room/disco. Me, the DJ and a guy who couldn't walk. I amused myself by seeing how far I could blow cheesy wotsits out of my nostrils. My right one won. Wouldn't recommend it though.
 
No doubt there's husbands/boy friends/partners of her other work colleagues feeling the same way. Treat it as a round of golf with strangers. Make an effort to have a chat. You never know, there may be a new long time buddy just waiting to be met.

Equally, it may be a damp squib but at least its an opportunity to earn some brownie points with the Mrs.
 
I went to one of these wife's work colleague's weddings years back and it turned out OK. She was well on her way to being my ex-wife and found myself talking a lot with a girl who was on her own. Well she wasn't for long and my wife didn't even notice I'd been gone for 30 minutes ;-)
 
Hobbit said:
No doubt there's husbands/boy friends/partners of her other work colleagues feeling the same way. Treat it as a round of golf with strangers. Make an effort to have a chat. You never know, there may be a new long time buddy just waiting to be met.

Equally, it may be a damp squib but at least its an opportunity to earn some brownie points with the Mrs.
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This. Plenty of others will be there and wondering why. I'm sure there will be a few others you can have a chat with and the brownie points earned will serve you well going forward
 
Brownie points. A strange fabrication probably (and oddly) invented by men to excuse doing things for their wives so they don’t lose face with their male friends. Naturally this phenomenon has now been embraced by women as a way of getting their men to do stuff with them that they would not ordinarily enjoy doing.
Oddly though, such brownie points are never collected, no brownie point statement is ever issued, no brownie points can ever be spent. Not once has a brownie point catalogue been issued. They are, in fact worthless.
It is therefore not surprising that a male version of this non existent points based rewards program err, well, exists. I mean, when was the last time the men on here gave their wife a Cub Scout point? And more to the point, when did she ever expect one?
 
I have one of these next month but to me it is the worst case scenario, the evening invite when we get there the main guests will be well into the day, the music will be blaring and I will know nobody there. Will make an effort but evening invites are hard enough unless you know a group of others turning up at the same time.
 
Apparetnly the Mrs was out trialling dresses as they now have a 'long dress' code for the ladies. Blokes seem unaffected... I am wondering how much is this going to cost me.
As someone said, I have never seen a Brownie point cheque being cashed.. though it is easily lost.
 
Mudball said:
Apparetnly the Mrs was out trialling dresses as they now have a 'long dress' code for the ladies. Blokes seem unaffected... I am wondering how much is this going to cost me.
As someone said, I have never seen a Brownie point cheque being cashed.. though it is easily lost.
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If you pay for a dress for your wife for an event you don't even want to go to in the first place then you're a mug!

If you don't want to go, DON'T GO.
 
Kellfire said:
If you pay for a dress for your wife for an event you don't even want to go to in the first place then you're a mug!
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mate... as a married man, I do a lot of things that make me a mug.. paying for a dress is probably fairly low on that list.
 
Kellfire said:
If you pay for a dress for your wife for an event you don't even want to go to in the first place then you're a mug!

If you don't want to go, DON'T GO.[/QUOTE
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To my mind, a successful marriage needs give and take from both parties. So just as she probably does stuff she doesn’t really want to, so do we. It’s not as if it’s a whole week or anything.
 
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Huh. Being dragged down to Oxford for her brothers eldest sons SECOND wedding this weekend. We're only invited to the bloomin' evening do as well. Can't see the point. Evening do is in the middle of nowhere (The Westwood Hotel Oxford - Just look as the recent Tripadvisor reviews!!!!!!). Luckilly we're not staying there but 5 miles way so the taxi gonna be a fortune there and back. And because we're in the middle of nowhere we'll get fleeced on the booze. Not at all happy. But as someone said I'm banking brownie point galor!!! The only saving grace is that I'll be playing golf on the Friday on the way down. What's Rye Hill like??? Reviews look good.
 
Sweep said:
Brownie points. A strange fabrication probably (and oddly) invented by men to excuse doing things for their wives so they don’t lose face with their male friends. Naturally this phenomenon has now been embraced by women as a way of getting their men to do stuff with them that they would not ordinarily enjoy doing.
Oddly though, such brownie points are never collected, no brownie point statement is ever issued, no brownie points can ever be spent. Not once has a brownie point catalogue been issued. They are, in fact worthless.?
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OK...this is where the terminology is wrong....Brownie Points implies an objective measure of the value of an act....us blokes....we are good at objectivity, we like things simple and quantifiable, we don't necessarily do emotion well. Women are not like that, they are far more whimsical....an "act" committed by a male on one day might have a lower objective value than if it were committed on another day. There is more grey as to how important an act might be. In modern times "Brownie Points" has been rebranded as the "Emotional Bank Account"...this is effectively an account that has no figures to define how full/empty it is...indeed its fullness will vary up and down on a day to day basis even if the male makes no deposits or withdrawals...its value is purely subjective at the whim of the account holder, sometimes a deposit will even cause the account value to go down as the account holder is suspicious as to your motives for doing something....the account has an undefined overdraft (which, like a real bank account WILL come back to haunt you one day), variable interest rates, sudden unexpected account charges and weirdly, the ability to suddenly empty itself if a friend of the account holder tells her that her man has done something really nice.

I actually experienced the last point on holiday a few years ago....my wife and I and another couple were on holiday and my wife took a shine to a handbag at a craft fair...she didn't buy it and walked on....I hung behind and bought it for her and then gave it to her as a surprise later in the day shortly before dinner....at which point the lady in the other couple turned to her husband and laid into him for never doing anything nice for her...I can only assume that the unexpected ferocity of the attack numbed his senses to such a degree that his only response was..."well I fixed the dishwasher the other day....I bet Nick cant do that". Dinner that evening was a tad tense.
 
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