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Weddings

I can't remember the last "big" wedding that I went to or even heard about.
I figured most people with normal amounts of money had stopped doing the silly 5 figure savings destroyers.
 
I might be old fashioned, but if they’ve been living together for seven years and have a two year old child they do not deserve a lavish wedding.
I tend to agree, me and the Mrs lived together before getting married both earning decent money and paid for our own wedding in St Lucia…My mum and dad paid for the “do” when we got home, (they wanted a free bar for the family.)

Think the OP must be equitable with both daughters. Anything else could be a slippery slope to “TOWIE” type of excess! 😄
 
The problem is I can see us paying for half of his family and ours.
No problem paying for people you want there but I’m not paying for Great Aunt Mildred.
The good thing with a wedding abroad is you find out who really wants to come.
Also it rules out Westminster Abbey 😂
One thing to consider is that one of the reasons they cannot afford to travel abroad for a wedding is because some folk can only afford to go abroad or on Holiday once a year. If that already booked then some folk cannot afford to find another 2 plus K per person to go away to a wedding. That don’t mean you should be expected to fund there trip.
 
Just one other thing, when I paid for my daughter’s wedding. Son in laws parents paid sod all. We put to one side the same amount for my son for when he got married. He was adamant that ain’t gonna happen. We offered him the money to help him with his house improvements last year.He snapped our hands off. If he does get married I will contribute towards a hole in the ground. He has had his brass. 👍
 
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I compare those spending big amounts on a wedding to those splashing out on a nice car. Each to their own it's not for everyone.

Seems there a fair bit of keeping up appearances related to weddings. First one does x, second one has to go above and beyond etc. Not married myself but know from recent experience there's pressure particularly on the bride to live up to expectations of wedding trends etc - takes a strong couple of ignore.

In answer to OP - has to be give all children the same surely. Anything else is opening up to resentment down the road or sooner regardless of what the already married daughter has said
 
Bit like saying everyone should buy a Fiat Panda. Or a set of Donnay irons.

If you can afford it, why not…
Not everyone, but it would make perfect sense for many.
I liked the 0.9 turbo.

Regals were much better than Donnays :unsure:

But there are more important things and priorities than cars and golf clubs for most young families.
 
Sorry to disappoint but a very successful polite evening was had by all.
Daughter and future husband have decided they would like to get married and have the reception locally next summer and if possible have their honeymoon in Jamaica.
They asked if we would like to contribute both financially and help with organising etc.
Both us and the grooms mum have agreed to give them an amount and it’s up to them how they use it. We are giving the same as we gave her sister.
It amazed me how grown up she was as ever since she could talk she always wanted the big Disney princess wedding.
 
Sorry to disappoint but a very successful polite evening was had by all.
Daughter and future husband have decided they would like to get married and have the reception locally next summer and if possible have their honeymoon in Jamaica.
They asked if we would like to contribute both financially and help with organising etc.
Both us and the grooms mum have agreed to give them an amount and it’s up to them how they use it. We are giving the same as we gave her sister.
It amazed me how grown up she was as ever since she could talk she always wanted the big Disney princess wedding.

Good stuff... although i'm a wee bit disappointed you don't have a huge eastenders one hour xmas special style of drama for us but I suppose its for the best :p
 
Sounds like common sense has won the day :)

Question ref the honeymoon: Is it a real honeymoon or are they doing the modern thing of trying to claim the first trip as a married couple is a minimoon with the 'real' honeymoon coming later when they can afford it?
 
Sounds like common sense has won the day :)

Question ref the honeymoon: Is it a real honeymoon or are they doing the modern thing of trying to claim the first trip as a married couple is a minimoon with the 'real' honeymoon coming later when they can afford it?
It’s a real honeymoon. 2 weeks in Jamaica is what they would like but with a 3 year old in tow not sure that’s the best place unless they leave him with us.
 
After living together for over 25 years and having paid off the mortgage, my wife and I got married in 2012.

We are within easy walking distance of county hall offices.
We walked down there, got married, walked back.
Seven family members as guests all came back to our house for big cake, tea&coffee and various alcoholic beverages.
A great time was had.

For the licence, registrar fee, food and drink - I think it all came to under £100.
We had a strict rule - No Presents Please !!!
Best wedding I've ever been to :ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO:

It does make me laugh when I read about how expensive weddings are.
They are only expensive if you choose them to be so.

My advice to all young people,
Use the money for more important things.
Yep, not far off what we did. 2 of my wife's sons got married about 10 years ago...one of them was a big bash which we did not contribute to and the brides side threw tons of money at it. The other wedding was a small event at the local office since they didn't have the money for anything more. Sorry....not sorry....if I were going to toss a bunch of money at them it would be for something like buying a house (which we did for a couple of them). If they want to throw their own money away.....have at it.
 
Good stuff... although i'm a wee bit disappointed you don't have a huge eastenders one hour xmas special style of drama for us but I suppose its for the best :p
I can give you that. My youngest weddings last year cost us in total £30k, with his mother eventually giving us £5k ( we are in the 21st century)
Less than a week after thecwddding he tells her he loves someone else.
Now I'm having to pay for her solicitor so she gets whats she need and deserves, remembering she has the 3.5 yr old to look after
 
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