Wake/Funeral dress code

[Voyager EMH]

Funeral of a long standing friend last month.
He left some instructions for his own funeral. "No black or formal dress, just wear what you feel comfortable in."
Out of about 80 people, I saw one chap in a suit and two more in jacket and tie. They looked very much out-of-place and, if it had been the other way round, disrespectful.
But then they could have felt "comfortable" in a suit for this occasion.
The family asked me to be one of six pall bearers - I think they were happy with me in polo shirt and khaki fleece.

I think you simply have to ask the close family what they would like or what the deceased would have liked.

When I go, I would like it to be the above dress code.

 

[HomerJSimpson]

I would speak to others in the cul-de-sac and get a consensus. At the end of the day it is about remebering a life lived and isn't a fashion parade

 

[Deleted member 21784]

Yeah, I bought it for a funeral one time.

When my wife's nan died I bought a new black suit. Then wore for My grandad and uncles funeral

Too big for me now mind lol but it's an option

 

[SocketRocket]

When my wife's nan died I bought a new black suit. Then wore for My grandad and uncles funeral

Too big for me now mind lol but it's an option

Are you a Bristolian? No insult intended it's just the "mind" comment.

 

[Deleted member 21784]

Are you a Bristolian? No insult intended it's just the "mind" comment.

No, londonium

 

[kp17]

Black trousers, white shirt/tie and black crew neck jumper also acceptable funeral attire

 

[SocketRocket]

Unless told otherwise something respectful. I find black suit, white shirt and black tie ok but a little too somber. A navy blue blazer, any trousers that are not too garish, a tie isn't really necessary these days but I have a few patterned ones with black in them. Like any such event just try to be respectful to the occasion.

 

[Mudball]

Update..
So i did send my neighbour a note to seek his advice on the dress code.. Response

There’s no set dress code on the day but it’s usual to be smart. I’ll be in suit and tie and I’m fairly sure most of the men also will.

So i guess it will be a suit and tie affair (or is expected to be). I have a black suit and white shirt. I think i will have to find a black tie or some dark navy one.

 

[Bunkermagnet]

Update..
So i did send my neighbour a note to seek his advice on the dress code.. Response

There’s no set dress code on the day but it’s usual to be smart. I’ll be in suit and tie and I’m fairly sure most of the men also will.

So i guess it will be a suit and tie affair (or is expected to be). I have a black suit and white shirt. I think i will have to find a black tie or some dark navy one.

Aren't you glad you asked them now

 

[KenL]

Update..
So i did send my neighbour a note to seek his advice on the dress code.. Response

There’s no set dress code on the day but it’s usual to be smart. I’ll be in suit and tie and I’m fairly sure most of the men also will.

So i guess it will be a suit and tie affair (or is expected to be). I have a black suit and white shirt. I think i will have to find a black tie or some dark navy one.

A navy tie with a black suit and white tie? Surely not?

 

[Mudball]

A navy tie with a black suit and white tie? Surely not?

I found my black tie!! now to search for a white shirt - Post covid and WFH means that all my white shirts have gone missing