Right, this happened.....

[HomerJSimpson]

It shouldn't make any difference but you can bet your bottom dollar the fact it was ladies was the clincher. We have some men, actually if I'm totally honest, we have a lot of men, that wouldn't let a woman through purely on principal even if the rest of the course was empty. Not right and I have no issue with letting anyone through, be it male, female, junior or any combo of the above.

Personally I would have asked, and when the inevitable no came back, taken it up with the club after. Sadly, unless these dinosaurs are confronted their entrenched opinions will continue to blight the game and be the cause of all these prejudices in the media

 

[3565]

Personally you were in a tie there's no point in asking, it seems as though you were pretty annoyed for not being let through and why get yourself annoyed even further if the answer you got was a no? What is more important to you? To be let through or win your tie? You can't control what they do and to have a possible confrontation on the course would not help you to win your tie. Unfortunately you will always get them, but do the classy thing and seek them out in the clubhouse and have a quiet but stern word about their lack of etiquette.

 

[Pin-seeker]

I can't believe this is getting turned into a sexism thing. Plenty of times me & my playing partners get stuck behind some idiots that don't let us through.
I've even been stuck behind groups of women that didn't let us through,never crossed my mind that it was a down to sexism.

 

[One Planer]

Personally I always let ladies play through, as generally they are in a rush to get round quickly as they need to rush home to put the tea on for their hubbies

what spinner are you using today

He'll catch nothing but trouble with that

I personally agree in the fact that Karen and her friend weren't let through, purely based on gender.

Yes, we've all been stuck behind groups that don't/won't let you through, but how the situation is described in the OP, it certainly lends itself to being gender based rather than the usual poor etiquette issues.

 

[Hobbit]

You shouldn't have to ask. The onus on others to mind their own etiquette. You made a decision not to ask based on you didn't want to cause aggro/upset you opponenet - you shouldn't even have to justify your decision to do that. Their fault, end of.

 

[Paperboy]

Me and my mate got stuck behind a four ball yesterday. They could have let us through at numerous times. Tired to word it subtlety, but obvious they where a bunch off mongs.

So our two ball took3 hours and 50 minutes :rant:

 

[FairwayDodger]

I can't believe this is getting turned into a sexism thing. Plenty of times me & my playing partners get stuck behind some idiots that don't let us through.
I've even been stuck behind groups of women that didn't let us through,never crossed my mind that it was a down to sexism.

I admit this is what I was alluding to in the OP. Obviously, on the course, I jumped to the same conclusion as some others here. I wanted to see if there were any plausible explanations other than that. I've been held up many times by slow players but the suspicious thing today was how easily they let the other two ball through and then pointedly ignored us.

We'll never know, of course, it may have been sexism or just ignorance. Or, indeed, maybe the other two did simply ask to play through and would have been left stewing if they hadn't.

And I'd say most golfers, regardless of gender, are generally inclined to let you through rather than hold up a faster group with a clear course ahead.....

 

[williamalex1]

Me and my mate got stuck behind a four ball yesterday. They could have let us through at numerous times. Tired to word it subtlety, but obvious they where a bunch off mongs.

So our two ball took3 hours and 50 minutes :rant:

Exactly the same happened to my 2ball, 4hrs 10 mins [16 holes] stuck behind 2 fourballs of visitors. Rather than try to explain to people who really didn't have a clue, we both NRd, in a stableford club comp. I must be mellowing in old age.