Britishshooting
Club Champion
Not sure how I feel about a situation, well I do but think I need to wrap my head around more sensible options and approaches, sorry it's a little long.
My partner works in hospitality, she was front of house at a hotel for 4 years, we relocated for a year and she found the same role at another hotel.
A year later we moved back to the area and as the hotel owner knows her parents so was aware of this and reached out and asked if she'd consider coming back. She was offered a trainee hotel manager role to lure her in and would receive the training over a year period in readiness for the current hotel manager to retire. She already conducted a lot of the duties it was more a formality to get certain paperwork and allow a review process for an easy transition.
She accepted and started back in December 2018. The staff are still brilliant but a particular girl whose nose has been put out of joint by this is going out of her way constantly to try and trip her up, discredit her etc. as she feel more deserving. She's 35 years old, 12 years older than my partner and has resorted to being a complete 2 faced bully.
A lot of underhandedness has gone on, one such recent instance was when my partner was dealing with a complaint, said individual went into the office and within several minutes searched for jobs. This was particularly sly as my partner was logged in on her account, as she came back into the office said individual advised she was checking the rota before it went out. My partner thought no more of it and the next day got a complete rollocking by the director as it turned out the girl had advised him that she caught eva searching and applying for jobs in works time. My partner advised she most definitely hadn't and wouldn't do this. Since then the director hasn't been the same with her. Probably worried he's wasting a year on training for her to leave etc. which isn't the case.
My partner is so strong minded and willed but i've never seen her so defeated. She dreads work when this woman is there, she's in constant worry about what next trap is going to be deployed and what that may result in.
My partner has directly questioned said individual and it's all been denied with a fake facade and acting all friendly.
Now I'm just torn, I want to go over there and go ballistic but I know thats the worse thing I can do.
Just had my partner in tears on the phone which has prompted this as the director just made some statement along the lines of
' You used to be part of the team, now you're not'. So god knows what little game this snide little grotbag has played this time.
My partner is a massive team player, friendly, kind and approachable and unfortunately is falling victim to somebodies games, the director is obviously being manipulated also to see things from a skewed angle. The main concern is also the things she doesn't know, she has found some of these things out herself there are obviously going to be more situations she has no idea about.
I've told her to hand her notice in today if she feels trapped and anxious about her job but she doesn't want to throw the opportunity away and let the other girl win. I see her point but to be honest i'm not sure how much more she can take in terms of mind games. Her mental wellbeing is more important than the income, especially when she could find another job fairly quickly without all this drama and stress.
My partner works in hospitality, she was front of house at a hotel for 4 years, we relocated for a year and she found the same role at another hotel.
A year later we moved back to the area and as the hotel owner knows her parents so was aware of this and reached out and asked if she'd consider coming back. She was offered a trainee hotel manager role to lure her in and would receive the training over a year period in readiness for the current hotel manager to retire. She already conducted a lot of the duties it was more a formality to get certain paperwork and allow a review process for an easy transition.
She accepted and started back in December 2018. The staff are still brilliant but a particular girl whose nose has been put out of joint by this is going out of her way constantly to try and trip her up, discredit her etc. as she feel more deserving. She's 35 years old, 12 years older than my partner and has resorted to being a complete 2 faced bully.
A lot of underhandedness has gone on, one such recent instance was when my partner was dealing with a complaint, said individual went into the office and within several minutes searched for jobs. This was particularly sly as my partner was logged in on her account, as she came back into the office said individual advised she was checking the rota before it went out. My partner thought no more of it and the next day got a complete rollocking by the director as it turned out the girl had advised him that she caught eva searching and applying for jobs in works time. My partner advised she most definitely hadn't and wouldn't do this. Since then the director hasn't been the same with her. Probably worried he's wasting a year on training for her to leave etc. which isn't the case.
My partner is so strong minded and willed but i've never seen her so defeated. She dreads work when this woman is there, she's in constant worry about what next trap is going to be deployed and what that may result in.
My partner has directly questioned said individual and it's all been denied with a fake facade and acting all friendly.
Now I'm just torn, I want to go over there and go ballistic but I know thats the worse thing I can do.
Just had my partner in tears on the phone which has prompted this as the director just made some statement along the lines of
' You used to be part of the team, now you're not'. So god knows what little game this snide little grotbag has played this time.
My partner is a massive team player, friendly, kind and approachable and unfortunately is falling victim to somebodies games, the director is obviously being manipulated also to see things from a skewed angle. The main concern is also the things she doesn't know, she has found some of these things out herself there are obviously going to be more situations she has no idea about.
I've told her to hand her notice in today if she feels trapped and anxious about her job but she doesn't want to throw the opportunity away and let the other girl win. I see her point but to be honest i'm not sure how much more she can take in terms of mind games. Her mental wellbeing is more important than the income, especially when she could find another job fairly quickly without all this drama and stress.