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A friend's daughter turned 18, and as is customary, the family pulled together a collage of 1-18 embarrassing photos/stories. Fairly benign but funny. Also, my friend posted it to Facebook and now the world knows. I am sure all harmless and in good spirit. Given the demographics, how many have done this, and which has been best/worst received.

I have one for my 10yr old. This year at the start of the footy season, the coach spoke to each kid on what they want to do.. everyone had crossing, dribbling or some other footy skill. When it was nippers chance, he said he wants to focus on 'Leadership' i.e. how to be a good captain, run the team etc. What makes it funny is that he is neither the captain nor the best player in the team. Fair play to the coaches who wrote it down seriously rather than laugh at his face. But now i have started my list of things that will feature at his 18th
 
Mudball said:
A friend's daughter turned 18, and as is customary, the family pulled together a collage of 1-18 embarrassing photos/stories. Fairly benign but funny. Also, my friend posted it to Facebook and now the world knows. I am sure all harmless and in good spirit. Given the demographics, how many have done this, and which has been best/worst received.

I have one for my 10yr old. This year at the start of the footy season, the coach spoke to each kid on what they want to do.. everyone had crossing, dribbling or some other footy skill. When it was nippers chance, he said he wants to focus on 'Leadership' i.e. how to be a good captain, run the team etc. What makes it funny is that he is neither the captain nor the best player in the team. Fair play to the coaches who wrote it down seriously rather than laugh at his face. But now i have started my list of things that will feature at his 18th
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Brilliant ! He'll go far !
 
I think it depends on the character of the person. Would they laugh with it or feel mortified? You have to be careful that the ones laughing are not just the adults and the friends but the person who's birthday it is. We didn't do it to my son, wont with my daughter. They would not enjoy it, would just be embarrassed, so whilst we bring those pictures out every so often to laugh within our house we would not put them out to the wider world. Each to their own, know your kid (y).
 
Lord Tyrion said:
I think it depends on the character of the person. Would they laugh with it or feel mortified? You have to be careful that the ones laughing are not just the adults and the friends but the person who's birthday it is. We didn't do it to my son, wont with my daughter. They would not enjoy it, would just be embarrassed, so whilst we bring those pictures out every so often to laugh within our house we would not put them out to the wider world. Each to their own, know your kid (y).
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I think this for me as well, for example I know my oldest son wouldn't be bothered by it in the slightest, he has a great sense of humour and if he does do anything embarrassing he laughs at himself with an oh well attitude. But my daughters seem a lot more sensitive to embarrassment and would hate it, so to simplify it I would avoid it with all the kids.

Also fair play to the OP son asking for leadership development I don't think that's to be laughed at but to be applauded he may not be the best or captain but he will personally develop skills that will help far greater in life and in work than the ability to kick a ball will.
 
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No, no and thrice no.

My mum was a terror for getting out all sorts of rubbish to show her friends what a wonderful son she had. I found it cringeworthy and very painful.
 
Wolf said:
I think this for me as well, for example I know my oldest son wouldn't be bothered by it in the slightest, he has a great sense of humour and if he does so etching embarrassing he laughs at himself with an oh well attitude. But my daughters seem a lot more sensitive to embarrassment and would hate it, so to simplify it I would avoid it with all the kids.

Also fair play to the OP son asking for leadership development I don't think that's to be laughed at but to be applauded he may not be the best or captain but he will personally develop skills that will help far greater in life and in work than the ability to kick a ball will.
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This...... definitely not to be laughed at. Fantastic attitude.
 
I'm well past that but would most definitely avoid the ones taken in the garden or on the beach on hot summer days when clothing and swimming cossie was optional and often discarded.
 
I would be vary wary of these thought if things. I would have no problem with it amongst friends in a private setting but posting anything like that on social media would be a massive no for me. That sort of thing can come up years later to embarrass as well as any immediate harm it causes. an 18 year old could well be heading off to start a new life at uni etc soon and the last thing that you need in already stressful circumstances is embarrassing pictures and stories being accessed by your new friends and colleagues on social media.
 
Never used to bother me, when my dad used to take the mick out of me or embarrass me, when I said I was going to run my own business and I use the term loosely 'successful', he took the mick but it didn't bother me as I knew he was taking the mick. Know your audience I suppose.

Used to have many a joke over stuff like that, made many mistakes(mainly)/right choices along the way and thats how I(/we) coped with them, even if it was slightly 'sore' at that moment. A smile or laughter is far better than feeling down about it and there is laughter in every moment, you have to dig deep and for a long time, sometimes to find it at times, especially the tough times... EDIT Never forgot when my son asked a few years ago, why do you laugh when things go wrong and had to explain it to him.

Hopefully my children think of me the same. I show them up at all times, even without trying. <muttley laugh>
 
My daughter used to get well peed off when making her way as a young county/regional golfer.
She would meet folk who would say 'are you Doon's daughter'
Fast forward a year and I would have folk asking me if I was [Doon's daughter's] father.
 
Doon frae Troon said:
My daughter used to get well peed off when making her way as a young county/regional golfer.
She would meet folk who would say 'are you Doon's daughter'
Fast forward a year and I would have folk asking me if I was [Doon's daughter's] father.
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Can see why that would embarrass her 👍
 
I rip my son quite a bit when it’s just me & him (he gives as good as he gets) but don’t do it in a crowd.
I don’t get why you would want to embarrass your kids.
 
Pin-seeker said:
I rip my son quite a bit when it’s just me & him (he gives as good as he gets) but don’t do it in a crowd.
I don’t get why you would want to embarrass your kids.
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As a dad, that should be your right to embarrass them.. The appropriateness of the setting i.e. public, private depends on individual cases. I guess, boys probably more open it than girls. Already my son thinks i make really bad dad jokes - though i disagree with it :)
 
I'd get slaughtered if I did that to any of my kids. Another thins is that owt that gets put up on social media is public domain forever and a day. You never know when it could be used against them.

Mind you, they never seem to mind about embarrassing me, hmmm... :cautious:
 
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