Dementia Awareness

[clubchamp98]

And few years ago me mum had to cancel an holiday because she had gall stones which meant Gall bladder removal. Muggins had to sort it all out. Anyway since then they have declared everything as far as I am aware. Her holiday insurance last year was £2500. Not got a clue how much this year is as I told her she/ they should not travel abroad. My auntie told me 2 weeks ago she enquired about a cruise to the Caribbean over Christmas and new year but the insurance want £2500 to increase European cover to cruise cover worldwide. She wouldn’t pay that so she has booked Benidorm.
The dementia support worker called me. Me mum had talked to her and basically told her a crock of crap. And basically lies. I told the dementia worker the truth. She commented that “ part of what me mum said didn’t ring true and furthermore me mum had told the worker some things that she couldn’t tell me under patient confidentiality”. She wanted to but she would not break that trust. Which although I totally understood. I was also bloody livid. It was the straw that broke the camels back.
Me and Missis T was in Oldham last weds seeing a couple of Aunties. One who was over from Australia.
( went back yesterday). It was a bit painful Listening to them when they was on about me mum. My dad they never said a word about. The sad thing is I couldn’t defend her. To give you an idea of what she is like.
We were in the Lake District with me mum and dad. We had taken them away again me and Missis T. Me mum said “ eee our Andrew Ave told you you wasn’t planned” ( which I have always known, me and missis T laugh that neither of us were planned pregnancies yet we are together). She then said “ but you never knew I tried getting rid of you with quinine and Mystic menstroids, it’s a good job they didn’t work as there’s only you and Missis T that takes us away out of my four kids”. I laughed at the time. But as time goes on I think why the bloody hell would you say something like that.
Me and my younger brother have said we will still go round to keep an eye on my dad but she is way down the list now.

Jeez Tash your mum sounds like a real piece of work. ( sorry)

Not making your life any easier

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

I’ll ask this question on this discussion as it is dementia related…though not on the illness or care aspects.

Has anyone got any experience of going to the Court of Protection for guidance and/or decisions on matters relating to someone who has dementia or who has, what can only best be described as, at times diminished mental acuity and memory retention.

A conversation I have had with the Office of the Public Guardian about my MiL capacity to discharge her responsibilities in respect of a couple of important family matters had them direct me to the CoP - but I am wary about what we might be getting into.

My wife has ‘full’ LPA for my MiL, but what needs doing is out of her remit unless my MiL so directs, which she is not really able to do.

 

[RichA]

No experience of it but I looked into it quite a bit when we felt BiL was trying to make financial decisions that went against the Mental Capacity Act rules.
His FiL is a retired civil law solicitor and BiL eventually gave up on his plans because the guy advised him that the CoP wouldn't allow it if they sought permission. They apparently are, as you would hope, real sticklers for protecting the rights and best interests of the donor.
It's worth getting yourself very familiar with the act and its guidelines.

 

[Robster59]

My missus got Power of Attorney for her Dad when he was going into dementia, and my brother and I had it for my Mum.
The Alzheimer's Society gives some advice here.
Lasting power of attorney for people with dementia

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

My missus got Power of Attorney for her Dad when he was going into dementia, and my brother and I had it for my Mum.
The Alzheimer's Society gives some advice here.
Lasting power of attorney for people with dementia

She has Lasting Power of Attorney for her mum, but it unfortunately as far as I understand things, it doesn’t give her the right to make decisions in respect of trusts that my MiL has in place; nor does it enable her to automatically be a substitute for her mum as the legal next of kin dealing with my deceased BiL’s estate. My BiL stated my wife as his next of kin when he went into hospital…but that does not supersede the legal position in respect of any application for a Grant of Letters of Administration (BiL dying intestate).

We’ll speak to my MiL’s solicitor. I think my wife will have to go down the CoP route no matter what to get Grant of LoA…but a solicitor might know better.

I’ll also look into what The Alzheimers Society might suggest on your link..

 

[Robster59]

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