Are your best years behind you

[Tashyboy]

Me and missis Tash are havin a fantastic time down here. Very romantic and not a crock in sight.
However whilst having a lovely Italian I was reminiscing about the past, present and future. And I asked her “ are our best years behind us”. Don’t get me wrong, financially we are better off, however the sands of time are slipping away. We have plans to do things we never dreamed of. But are the best years behind us. And I don’t just mean us two.
Thoughts me dears.

 

[RichA]

Physically, yes.
Other ways, maybe, hopefully not.

 

[Tashyboy]

Physically, yes.
Other ways, maybe, hopefully not.

That in a nutshell is my thoughts. Be interesting to hear the words of wisdom from our wise old owls.

 

[Billysboots]

This is a really tricky one to answer for me because, having lost my dad when I was only six years old, I grew up never expecting to live a long life. That’s not me being pessimistic, depressed or anything else, it’s just the simple fact that was how I ended up being wired. Happy in every way, but realistic that life could be snatched away very quickly and extremely prematurely.

So, now I am only a few years shy of being twice the age my old fella was when he passed, I am absolutely confident that, physically, my best days are some way behind me.

But now I have a lad who spends more time at his girlfriend’s than he does at home, and a daughter at uni, all of a sudden me and the lovely wife have something resembling a life again. We go for meals. We go for walks. We go away on our own and, when on holiday, rather than trying to pack each day full of stuff to keep the kids happy, we can actually relax. Sit and have a drink and watch the world go by.

So, whilst I’m under no illusion that I’m far closer to leaving this earth than I am to when I was first heaved into it by my mum, there is loads I am still looking forward to doing. And I plan on sticking around a while longer to enjoy doing those things.

 

[Tashyboy]

This is a really tricky one to answer for me because, having lost my dad when I was only six years old, I grew up never expecting to live a long life. That’s not me being pessimistic, depressed or anything else, it’s just the simple fact that was how I ended up being wired. Happy in every way, but realistic that life could be snatched away very quickly and extremely prematurely.

So, now I am only a few years shy of being twice the age my old fella was when he passed, I am absolutely confident that, physically, my best days are some way behind me.

But now I have a lad who spends more time at his girlfriend’s than he does at home, and a daughter at uni, all of a sudden me and the lovely wife have something resembling a life again. We go for meals. We go for walks. We go away on our own and, when on holiday, rather than trying to pack each day full of stuff to keep the kids happy, we can actually relax. Sit and have a drink and watch the world go by.

So, whilst I’m under no illusion that I’m far closer to leaving this earth than I am to when I was first heaved into it by my mum, there is loads I am still looking forward to doing. And I plan on sticking around a while longer to enjoy doing those things.

Gorgeous.

 

[Crow]

Yes.

 

[clubchamp98]

Health plays a massive part.
Money and time mean nothing if your not healthy enough to enjoy them.

Best days for me were with the kids on the beach in Wales.
No fancy holidays just us.

So yes best days have gone but I take the grandkids the beach now ,but I can’t keep up with them

 

[Bunkermagnet]

Does it matter?
Life’s only a single innings, and never regret anything.
Yes, physically we lessen as we get older, but then we have more time to enjoy what’s around us.
I know that when I was younger working stopped me being able to value the time I had with my girls, but now with an almost 3yr old granddaughter I cherish every moment with her.

 

[Slab]

My best years are probably happening now, fitter and weigh less than 5 years ago, happily married, grown up daughter settled in her own life & at the moment I live on a tropical island !
My best golf score is still ahead of me, shot gross 80 three times in last three months, I can & will break it

 

[Hobbit]

Maybe we can’t do the things we did 30-35 years ago but we replaced them with other things that we enjoy. I’ve always been into sport but as each sport became to difficult to play I moved on. The only one I miss is golf. I’ve replaced it with bowls but would give it up in a heart beat to be able to play again. In that respect, the best years are behind me but there’s loads of other good things to look forward to.

A back op due later in the week. Just like a filling at the dentist, a necessary evil. Afterwards, dust ourself off and get on enjoying what we can.

 

[HomerJSimpson]

In some ways yes but as I head towards retirement I am hoping new opportunites present themselves

 

[jim8flog]

Yes

I am going to sound like Marvin (Hitch Hikers) but I have enjoyed what I could do.

I started going downhill from about my mid 30s.
Serious injuries as a teenager started to show up just how bad my body was and further injuries in mid life made things worse
Had to give up most sports but managed to keep my golf going by to buggy use in my 40s.

Lots of plans for after the children grew up never materialised simply because I could not face the physical effort involved.

I look at all the good things
Family
A roof over my head
No major financial problems (except for a daughter that thinks I am a money tree)
Apart from physical injuries no major health issues.

 

[GB72]

Not for me, I have a whole new lease of life now I am 50. OK circumstances were not of my choosing but I am in a new relationship, I am getting out a doing more, saying yes to things I would have said no to in the past and just getting out and enjoying life. I have probably done more and enjoyed life more recently than i have for many years. Yes, I have a finite amount of time left but I refuse to go back into a rut like I had been before and I am getting out there to see and do things.

 

[Norrin Radd]

Difficult t say ,but Im happier now than I have been for many years as I'm now in a relationship that enables us to do what we please when we please before I was married for forty years but the last ten were not happy years for either of us ,we were more like brother and sister ,no real affection or closeness,so we went our separate ways . Hopefully I have a few good years left with Nicola .
Finances are fine and we are happy. What more can you ask .

 

[patricks148]

Body wise it seems so, just over 3 months ago i was cycling 3 or 4 times a week doing some decent distance, getting really fit again. then my knee went with no end in sight, had days when i cant walk without a stick, it had a knock on effect on the rest of my body. at the moment i feel my best days are truly behind me

 

[Orikoru]

In golf? Hopefully not but looking that way at the moment. In football? 100%. Drinking? 100%.

As a parent though? Only just begun!

 

[nickjdavis]

I'm going to be positive on this one.

Been stuck in a bit of a rut family wise, life wise and work wise over the last few years and whilst its true that at the age of 58 my physical capabilities aren't going to drastically improve, i'd like to think that my impending retirement might bring huge positives, a change of lifestyle, where i get to enjoy the things and people around me so much more. Currently I find myself rushing around at weekends to do things, simply because I've only go those 2 days to try to sort out any issues that have arisen during the week and fit in the things that I might want to actually do....its all such a rush to fit things in and a lot of my weekends just feel like there is no time or space to just sit back and chill and smell the roses.

With more free time afforded to me in the future I can hopefully kick back a little bit and stop thinking along the lines of "well i'd like to do this or accept this invitation or go here but I cant, because I really need to get XYZ done this weekend". In that respect, I'm hoping/expecting that there might be some better days ahead of me.

 

[williamalex1]

Sadly yes, I wish I'd known then what I know now, but life goes on, fingers crossed.

 

[PJ87]

In golf? Hopefully not but looking that way at the moment. In football? 100%. Drinking? 100%.

As a parent though? Only just begun!

Every week something happens to grow the heart

This morning the twin who hasn't slept in her bed since July stayed in bed until 4am when I got up for work. Me coming downstairs from loft woke her, I gave her a big hug told her I was proud she lasted so long

Wife said I didn't sleep much last night, honestly I was waiting for bed swap lol normally up at 10pm

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

Hopefully not...

Though we are very fortunate in that we did our 'holiday of a lifetime' back in 2019 - over four months travelling NZ, Aus, SE ASia. As a result we don't sit fretting about what might have been - with one thing or another (wider family rather than personal health) having us thinking that maybe such a tour would now be rather beyond us or impractical - we've done it and so today we just get on with doing and enjoying what we can - which is still most things and most places.