Wake/Funeral dress code

[Mudball]

Unfortunately, one of our long time neighbor lost her battle. We are very tight knit group in the cul de sac. Her husband has sent out details for the funeral. The wake detials will follow. It has no mention of any dress code. They dont want any flowers and any monies can be sent directly to her charity of choice.

In such a case, what is the general rule of thumb for a dress code. Do we take something with us to be part of the celebration of her life?

 

[Backache]

Personally I wear a suit and tie at a funeral, but not a black tie.
I actually think that being there and looking respectful is far more important than any dress code.

 

[Burnsey]

Black suit, white shirt, black tie.

Universally accepted and at least you will feel you've dressed correctly, unless instructions are released to the contrary.

Ladies in black.

Very few treat a funeral as a celebration, so just donate at the ceremony and attend the wake. Your presence is the gift.

 

[rulefan]

Dark or black suit, white shirt, dark or black tie. Depending what you have in your wardrobe.

 

[Golfmmad]

It really depends on what the family has requested. Some want a suit with a colourful tie, others may prefer no suit and tie and casual colourful clothing.
If not stipulated then stick to traditional black suit and tie.

 

[Mel Smooth]

Wear what you think is respectful to the deceased without feeling pressured to buy/wear a funeral outfit. They are dead, and you are not, and therefore you have the opportunity to influence their legacy in a respectful manner.

If there is a nominated charity in lieu of flowers, that is where the focus should be.

 

[KenL]

The main thing is that you are there.
Unless I hear otherwise, I would wear a suit and a tie - plain black or mainly black.

 

[nickjdavis]

It really depends on what the family has requested. Some want a suit with a colourful tie, others may prefer no suit and tie and casual colourful clothing.
If not stipulated then stick to traditional black suit and tie.

I remember a work colleague passing. His family requested that folks wear bright colourful clothing to the funeral. Unfortunately the message never made it to his workmates.

Funeral was on a bright crisp sunny February day and we all turned up in traditional black attire, long overcoats and sunglasses to lessen the glare of the low sun......we looked like a bunch of mafia hoods in amongst a beach party!!!

 

[Orikoru]

When in doubt, with nothing stated, I would assume black suit and black tie.

 

[Bunkermagnet]

I always try to enquire with those connected what the requested dress code is. Last thing you want to do is go against the persons last wishes.

 

[RichA]

Do many people actually own a black suit? I don't and never have.
Not even sure that the suit I do own actually fits me anymore.

 

[IanM]

Darkest suit you have and a black tie. UNLESS specifically requested otherwise.

If you don't own a suit, do your best to dress soberly.

 

[Orikoru]

Do many people actually own a black suit? I don't and never have.
Not even sure that the suit I do own actually fits me anymore.

Yeah, I bought it for a funeral one time.

 

[Norrin Radd]

I have a funeral to attend on the 15th and would love to wear my fishing clothes as my self and the departed were fishing buddies. I'm not sure it would go down to well so it's the suit and tie route so as not to cause an upset .

 

[Neilds]

Unfortunately, one of our long time neighbor lost her battle. We are very tight knit group in the cul de sac. Her husband has sent out details for the funeral. The wake detials will follow. It has no mention of any dress code. They dont want any flowers and any monies can be sent directly to her charity of choice.

In such a case, what is the general rule of thumb for a dress code. Do we take something with us to be part of the celebration of her life?

Not to be too blunt, but if you are such a tight knit bunch how about popping over to see the family, offer condolences and ask about the funeral?

 

[nickjdavis]

I have a funeral to attend on the 15th and would love to wear my fishing clothes as my self and the departed were fishing buddies. I'm not sure it would go down to well so it's the suit and tie route so as not to cause an upset .

One of the members at our golf club passed away a couple of years ago and the family requested that we all wore our golfing gear to the funeral. All his colleagues at the Post Office turned up in a fleet of red vans wearing the PO uniforms.

 

[Deleted member 18645]

Donald said that a blue suit was perfectly acceptable at a funeral.

I go with the black suit, white shirt and black tie that other people have suggested.

 

[CliveW]

I have a funeral to attend on the 15th and would love to wear my fishing clothes as my self and the departed were fishing buddies. I'm not sure it would go down to well so it's the suit and tie route so as not to cause an upset .

Kipper tie???

 

[RichA]

Kipper tie???

Yes please. Milk no sugar.
(I'm a midlander).

 

[jim8flog]

I think is a pity when people do not you what dress code they expect.

I have been to a few where it is no back and some where they have specified the colour in memory of something special to the deceased.

Personally I only have a black tie and trousers and a grey jacket if they want formal.

When my best man died two of did not have jackets because we knew if he could see us he would not be upset and may have preferred it.