Unwelcome playing parners

[HampshireHog]

It’s only words, does he keep up with the pace of play and know the rules…if so, think your group is being a little precious and clicky

Such a poor comment, why would anyone want to spend 4hrs with someone consistently makes the golfing experience less pleasurable.

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

Such a poor comment, why would anyone want to spend 4hrs with someone consistently makes the golfing experience less pleasurable.

You don’t have to listen to his rubbish and when you do hear it you can just dismiss it…as the rubbish it is - or even better just don’t process it. Seems like this guy is living in the groups collective head ‘rent free’…that needn’t be the case. The more the group discusses the annoying one and what they can do about him, the deeper inside the group conscience does he get.

 

[moogie]

They let any old riff raff in, even me.


Same when I first joined. Had to have a quick chat with the general manager. This time they just took my money, maybe because I had been a member for 8 years previously though.

Is this all about you returning to the club

 

[SteveJay]

I've been there - we had a guy who fell out with the club and left for another, only to come back the following year. He started to book with our regular 3 ball, having been told by some others that he was unwelcome in their group. He was just stuck up and full of stories about what he had done - no one in the club liked him!

We were on the verge of having that difficult conversation but managed to pair up with a regular 4th person ourselves, which dodged the bullet of his company.

He left again the following season, but was rejected after trying to rejoin his former club, and so went elsewhere thankfully!

 

[Tashyboy]

Tell him he’s a knob

It’s not particularly a golfing terminology. But I think he would understand

 

[Tashyboy]

We had a guy who was introduced into our group by someone who themselves had not been in the group for 6 months. They had hardly endeared themselves. Anyway he was full of himself. There were also questions raised about his golfing etiquette. Basically he was a cheat. He was told in no uncertain circumstances not to try and book within the fuddle again. He didn’t.
Another was just a self centred plank. Everything was about him him him. Again he was told he was not welcome. There was no grey area. The problem is, who tells them.

 

[Oops!]

We had a guy who was introduced into our group by someone who themselves had not been in the group for 6 months. They had hardly endeared themselves. Anyway he was full of himself. There were also questions raised about his golfing etiquette. Basically he was a cheat. He was told in no uncertain circumstances not to try and book within the fuddle again. He didn’t.
Another was just a self centred plank. Everything was about him him him. Again he was told he was not welcome. There was no grey area. The problem is, who tells them.

Flip a coin!

 

[Hobbit]

Maybe he will have remembered the previous discussion with him about being told he wasn’t welcome in your group. Maybe he experienced something similar at the club he’s just left. Maybe he’s learned his lesson.

I’d give him a second chance. He’s booked in which means those who are down to play with him have a number of choices.

1) Cross off leaving him on his own.
2) Play with him and just suck it up if he starts down the obnoxious route.
3) Play with him and pull him up if he starts being obnoxious.

I’ve only come across one guy I absolutely didn’t want to play with - a well known cheat. The week I was drawn with him he was spotted improving his lie 4 times, once by moving it forward about 30 yards. He was told he wasn’t welcome to play in our roll-up. He didn’t argue…

 

[PaulMdj]

Did he email and ask permission before putting his name down in the slot?

 

[Tashyboy]

Did he email and ask permission before putting his name down in the slot?

As daft as it seems ( and I totally understand why clubs allow players to drop in empty slots) it could make for rather unpleasant rounds with people of different personalities playing together. It could also make new friendships.

 

[Swinglowandslow]

“ once by moving it forward about 30 yards“
Good Lord, how could you do that and hope to get away with it?
I don't understand why people want to play golf and not want to play to the rules.
Apart from newcomers to the game, you know what is expected.
I know that sticking to the rules is a pita sometimes and some seem trivial and pointless, but if you’re in a competition you are obliged to be honourable to other competitors.
How do you feel afterwards if you cheated but won? What pride or enjoyment is there in that?
If having a social round play whatever rules suits you and your partners.

 

[clubchamp98]

As daft as it seems ( and I totally understand why clubs allow players to drop in empty slots) it could make for rather unpleasant rounds with people of different personalities playing together. It could also make new friendships.

Everyone should have three “ black balls “ per season to stop someone joining you.

If he got a black ball every week he might change his attitude!

 

[Springveldt]

Is this all about you returning to the club

Had to go check the bookings to see if I had booked in with @rudebhoy group.

 

[Springveldt]

This guy must have a bit of a reputation as after my round I was putting my clubs in the car and another member I haven’t seen in a while stopped to talk for a quick chat and at the end said “I was going to put my clubs away but I’m next to so and so over there and I’m just going to wait until he’s gone”. I said “he can’t be that bad” and got back “ he’s a complete pillock”.