Swearing in front of children

[PhilTheFragger]

Any of my scouts swear it's 10 pressups,
They tend to learn to stop fairly quickly.

Haven't had to beat any with my woggle yet 👍

 

[Karl102]

Secondary school teacher here.... unfortunately it can be inherent and learned behaviour. In extreme cases I have heard young people use words and they though they were literally doing no wrong, similar in some meetings with parents you see how this is allowed to happen.

Otherwise, computer games, some films and celebrities also don't help the cause....

 

[HomerJSimpson]

See a lot of parents swearing in front of their kids as I go about hospital and Reading town. I think it comes down to the parents own upbringing and education and sadly kids mimic what they see their parents do and so the cucle begins again

 

[ADB]

This isn't Victorian times and parenting has to adapt - i try to speak to my children as I would to anyone else so there may be a few swear words ocassionally, never in public though. My kids know the boundaries and I believe that seeing your parents as people, with all the flaws you have, will make our relationship stronger in the long run. Some very conservative views on here, unsurprisingly.

 

[chrisd]

This isn't Victorian times and parenting has to adapt - i try to speak to my children as I would to anyone else so there may be a few swear words ocassionally, never in public though. My kids know the boundaries and I believe that seeing your parents as people, with all the flaws you have, will make our relationship stronger in the long run. Some very conservative views on here, unsurprisingly.

I posted that id never used the F word at home, or in front of my wife, in 42 years and i guess that makes me conservative. Does, not doing it in public, say moore or less the same for you?

 

[Deleted member 16999]

Yep, definitely those less well educated and from poor backgrounds!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CkLCwR0n6-o

 

[Leftie]

I posted that id never used the F word at home, or in front of my wife, in 42 years and i guess that makes me conservative. Does, not doing it in public, say moore or less the same for you?

Same as you dad. My wife and children have never heard me using the "f" word or similar. I think that most golfers with whom I have played haven't either - apart from one KNOB who really provoked me once :mmm: No names, no pack drill, eh Smiffy?

 

[ger147]

Where I'm from, many swear words are part of every day language. I used to refrain in front of my daughter when she was younger and I still refrain in front of other people's children, but otherwise my use of Billy Connolly's version of spoken English, including all the swear words is my norm.

 

[bluewolf]

This isn't Victorian times and parenting has to adapt - i try to speak to my children as I would to anyone else so there may be a few swear words ocassionally, never in public though. My kids know the boundaries and I believe that seeing your parents as people, with all the flaws you have, will make our relationship stronger in the long run. Some very conservative views on here, unsurprisingly.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and parenting approach. However, mine is that kids aren't supposed to see you as "people", they are supposed to see you as role models.

I never swear in front of my family (and I have the vocabulary of a Sailor). I know my kids will hear bad language away from home (we even laugh about it occasionally), but I don't want them to think that bad language is a replacement for effective communication..

 

[Hobbit]

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and parenting approach. However, mine is that kids aren't supposed to see you as "people", they are supposed to see you as role models.

I never swear in front of my family (and I have the vocabulary of a Sailor). I know my kids will hear bad language away from home (we even laugh about it occasionally), but I don't want them to think that bad language is a replacement for effective communication..

Excellent post sir!

 

[ADB]

I don't see being seen as a person and role model as mutually exclusive.

I'm still dad to my kids - they are 11 and 13 BTW

A few naughty words now and again certainly won't diminish their view of me, or encourage them to use bad language.

 

[williamalex1]

Swearing is one thing, but lack of discipline and respect is getting worse.

Yesterday a Glasgow PRIMARY school head teacher was hospitalised after an attacked by a senior pupil.

 

[Smiffy]

I think that most golfers with whom I have played haven't either - apart from one KNOB who really provoked me once :mmm: No names, no pack drill, eh Smiffy?

No I know what you mean Roger.
The guy was a complete and utter prat, and wound me up as well.
How I didn't pogger him, I don't know.

 

[guest100718]

Nothing wrong with a good swear. And the holier than thou not in front of the kids brigade havnt been to see a 12 film lately....

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

Just don't

 

[bobmac]

Nothing wrong with a good swear. And the holier than thou not in front of the kids brigade havnt been to see a 12 film lately....

4 and 6 year olds?

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

4 and 6 year olds?

You tell a kid that swearing like those on TV or in the films is not good and that they shouldn't - and they look at you and say 'well you do'. Just don't (or at least try not to).

 

[guest100718]

4 and 6 year olds?

4 to 6 yo what?

 

[williamalex1]

Just don't

You might be tested next Sunday :smirk:

 

[Robster59]

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and parenting approach. However, mine is that kids aren't supposed to see you as "people", they are supposed to see you as role models.

I never swear in front of my family (and I have the vocabulary of a Sailor). I know my kids will hear bad language away from home (we even laugh about it occasionally), but I don't want them to think that bad language is a replacement for effective communication..

I agree totally with this. When I moved up to Glasgow from England, I initially thought everyone had Tourettes Syndrome. I now know that up here the use of the F word is seen as the norm and the C word can be anything from a term of affection to one of abuse.
However, my parents never said anything more than Bloody in front of me and I am the same with my kids. My "kids" btw are 26 and 23. I have no doubt they know all the words I do, and use them, but they are of an age that they choose how they talk, and have done for a long time. But I would not eff and blind in front of them, even when severely provoked, as that is the kind of reaction they are looking for.
IMHO, try and behave in a respectable, responsible manner in front of your children. The world may taint them but why should you?