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Sexist Jokes and Comments

Everything evolves - what was funny 30 years ago will not be unacceptable , same with things that are said 20 or 10 or even 5 years ago

We are all on this world together and anytime people say something I would suggest they always try and think first and work out if it’s possiblle that someone could find it offensive

It’s always about respect for others and being tolerant towards others and their feelings and beliefs

Just because you might find it funny doesn’t mean everyone will and someone might take offence to it

So will always look at the audience and judge it from there

There is always that person that will say whatever they want and not care if it offends - fortunately I think in this country we are on the whole more respectful towards others
 
You can't beat a good sexist, racist or homophobic joke. Bloody PC do gooders ruining it for everyone ;)
 
There’s a fine line.
But I think sometimes people should just get a thicker skin.
Then you get the ones that seem to think it’s ok when they give it out it’s all just banter,but throw a strop when they get it back 🙄
 
pauldj42 said:
I think we all have to be pro-active in a work place Bri, I took it SILH is on about his golf club, apologies if I presumed incorrect.
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I was referring to the Golf Club - primarily as most of the time blokes play and socialise separate from the ladies - and as a result 'we' might feel 'safe' telling a sexist joke or making a sexist comment. Is that acceptable - especially as we are all together equal members of a mixed club. I hear plenty of sexists comments made about our lady members - some specific to certain lady members.
 
Very fine line especially in this day and age and especially in a work, or mixed clubhouse environment I'd probably refrain. If I knew the audience and felt the environment was conducive then fair enough. If you look back on some of the stuff from comedians (I have old Jim Davidson etc DVD's) the stuff they were coming out with then I found funny makes me feel more uncomfortable as I've got older
 
I'm neither prudish nor easily offended and always happy to be on the receiving end of a door being opened for me - nothing wrong with good manners on both sides.

As for sexist jokes - I don't really think there's a place for them but accept a bunch of lads together will think it funny. If said in my presence/hearing then I don't take offence but do think they are ignorant and stupid and rather pathetic.
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
I was referring to the Golf Club - primarily as most of the time blokes play and socialise separate from the ladies - and as a result 'we' might feel 'safe' telling a sexist joke or making a sexist comment. Is that acceptable - especially as we are all together equal members of a mixed club. I hear plenty of sexists comments made about our lady members - some specific to certain lady members.
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It comes back to what others have said about knowing your audience, your club, like mine, and many others are still male dominated environments and comments/jokes will still happen in those clubs, as society evolves so will behaviour, maybe not for a long time, but eventually.
imo, unless it is a nasty comment I would say nothing at the time and maybe speak to the captain (off the record) about your concerns.
 
All I want to know is when does Loose Women get cancelled. You cannot get more sexist than that programme has been over the years.
 
Personally, I don’t think any subject matter is “off limits” as far as a joke is concerned. As long as it’s just that - a joke. i.e not said with the deliberate intention to upset someone.

But as others have said already, you do have to know your audience if you’re going to crack such jokes in the workplace, or wherever.

The terminally offended brigade do annoy me though, when they get all uppity if they hear something they think offends others and call for it to be “banned”. Ricky Gervais had it right when he said “Dear offended people. Just because you’re offended it doesn’t make you right. Sincerely, everyone else.”
 
So it seems that it's OK to tell jokes and comments that you know some may well find offensive, but because you don't think any who might be offended don't hear them they are therefore not offensive? If you find sexist attitudes distasteful or unacceptable then why would you tell sexist jokes or make sexist comments? Does is not therefore follow that the telling of sexist jokes or the making of sexist comments displays an underlying sexism or acceptance of sexism?

Just wondering...
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
So it seems that it's OK to tell jokes and comments that you know some may well find offensive, but because you don't think any who might be offended don't hear them they are therefore not offensive? If you find sexist attitudes distasteful or unacceptable then why would you tell sexist jokes or make sexist comments? Does is not therefore follow that the telling of sexist jokes or the making of sexist comments displays an underlying sexism or acceptance of sexism?

Just wondering...
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Have you ever seen someone walk into a door? Slip on ice? Walk into a lamppost? Sit back on a chair and fall off?

all those things would make me laugh at the person involved. I wouldn't wish it on anybody. But I'd laugh at it none the less if I saw it.

Most people can differentiate between an amusing idea (joke) and a serious belief. As long as it's not at someone specific, then I see no harm.

With the amount of money some comedians make, it would appear that there are still lots of people who find it amusing. I don't think you can tar 100000's of people as bad for their sense of humour.
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
So it seems that it's OK to tell jokes and comments that you know some may well find offensive, but because you don't think any who might be offended don't hear them they are therefore not offensive?
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Surely for something to be offensive it has to be heard by someone who is offended by it.

What if someone believes that being a Christian is offensive? Would you be prepared to abandon your Christian beliefs because someone says it offends them? Or would you simply not mention your beliefs around that person?
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
So it seems that it's OK to tell jokes and comments that you know some may well find offensive, but because you don't think any who might be offended don't hear them they are therefore not offensive? If you find sexist attitudes distasteful or unacceptable then why would you tell sexist jokes or make sexist comments? Does is not therefore follow that the telling of sexist jokes or the making of sexist comments displays an underlying sexism or acceptance of sexism?

Just wondering...
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Not really sure where you are going with this other than another opportunity to pat yourself on the back for your "christian values"

I have a disabled daughter. Been to watch Jimmy Carr, Micky Flanagan etc who do not mince about when it comes to making jokes about disabled people. Did i laugh? Absolutely!! The jokes they were making were very funny.

Would I laugh if someone made a comment directed to my daughter/family? Absolutely not.

Ive had it a few times with people being "offended for me" with my daughter and, tbh, it pisses me right off.
 
I guess I could have a lot more reasons to be offended than most at dubious material but I am rarely offended by content if the joke is funny. What I find more offensive is often the language used unnecessarily, for example a joke isn't funnier if you stick a few F words in it.
 
clubchamp98 said:
Problem these days is the boundaries keep moving .
Men generally know how to speak to a woman but some women are super sensitive now.

Held a door for a woman couple of months ago no "thank you " all I got was "don't you think I am capable of opening the door myself"

I just laughed and told her " my mum taught me to hold the door for anyone you just happen to be a woman"

Still do it now but feel really sorry for any man now Looking for a girlfriend,
Must be like walking on eggshells talking to women these days .

But sexism needs to stop there is no place in society for it.
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Excellent post. Sums up the current situation well.
The professionally offended are winning.
If a man speaks to a woman who isn't interested, is that classed as an unwanted approach?
Is it the same if a woman makes the approach?
Will the human race die out if we carry on like this?
Is this distracting from the real cases of sexual abuse?
Which is worse, someone touching your leg or someone threatening to punch you in the face?
 
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