Sexist Jokes and Comments

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

So we know what's in the news these days relating to this whole area. So what is your tolerance to those who make such comments; tell such jokes; show such videos...

And let's not pretend that golfers are such gentlemen that we've not been confronted by them. Lads on golf tour...?

 

[USER1999]

Rule one, whatever it is, it has to be really really funny, or dont tell it, or show it to me.

Rule two, dont email it to me, especially to my work email.

 

[clubchamp98]

So we know what's in the news these days relating to this whole area. So what is your tolerance to those who make such comments; tell such jokes; show such videos...

And let's not pretend that golfers are such gentlemen that we've not been confronted by them. Lads on golf tour...?

Problem these days is the boundaries keep moving .
Men generally know how to speak to a woman but some women are super sensitive now.

Held a door for a woman couple of months ago no "thank you " all I got was "don't you think I am capable of opening the door myself"

I just laughed and told her " my mum taught me to hold the door for anyone you just happen to be a woman"

Still do it now but feel really sorry for any man now Looking for a girlfriend,
Must be like walking on eggshells talking to women these days .

But sexism needs to stop there is no place in society for it.

 

[ColchesterFC]

Rule 3 - know your audience. Some jokes might be fine between mates in a pub but not in the office.

 

[clubchamp98]

Rule 3 - know your audience. Some jokes might be fine between mates in a pub but not in the office.

Very true.
But what about if someone puts a microphone in your tour bus.?

 

[Kellfire]

Knowing your audience is key. I doubt anyone could tell me a joke that would offend me, for example.

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

I simply blank guys who tell such jokes - and/or tell them I don't really find them funny. Funnily enough some of the worst culprits in my place are equally some of the more popular guys - often being 'one of the lads'. I've not yet felt the need to raise a complaint - but should we in fact be doing that - and not just ignoring and/or toleratiing?

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

Knowing your audience is key. I doubt anyone could tell me a joke that would offend me, for example.

Ah - but should you be offended - even if the joke does not offend is the behaviour and thinking that says its OK to tell the joke acceptable. Should it matter whether you are offended or not if the joke or comment is sexist?

 

[Deleted member 16999]

I simply blank guys who tell such jokes - and/or tell them I don't really find them funny. Funnily enough some of the worst culprits in my place are equally some of the more popular guys - often being 'one of the lads'. I've not yet felt the need to raise a complaint - but should we in fact be doing that - and not just ignoring and/or toleratiing?

Are the jokes offensive to you or are you offended on behalf of someone else?, is he telling you the joke or are you in ear shot?
Why not try telling him first behalf raising a complaint?

 

[Deleted member 18121]

I pretty much have no boundaries on taste and decency, you can literally tell me/show me anything and everything.... I'm not squeamish or sensitive with blood, guts, gore, sexism, racism...... I can take a joke for what it is.

The only this that really really really gets to me is anything involving animal cruelty, apart from that all good.

 

[Lord Tyrion]

It's an interesting one. I'm not bothered by sexist jokes, having worked in predominantly female work places I know it works both ways, but I won't have racist jokes or comments.

Anyone who plays in team sports knows the chatter flies around with no malice involved. The same blokes usually know the chat changes if in mixed company. I think both sexes should be allowed their own time so that chat can be relaxed and without come back. I would hate the idea of a female coach having been in our changing room or team for example as it totally changes the dynamic. People should be allowed to let off steam, within certain boundaries, without fear of being reported by over sensitive persons.

 

[Jamesbrown]

I don’t get offended, they are just words after all.

 

[drdel]

For me the whole thing depends on the full context.

Much of what is reported/written tends to be led by a short headline grabbing sentence which may but often doesn't set the context.

Like a previous poster I was told-off by a lady for holding the door: she loudly told me she could "...open her own doors...!" The fact of the matter is if I know someone is following me through a door (especially swing doors) I always tend to step aside and hold the door ajar. Makes no difference to their sex: I see it as simply good manners.

Unfortunately it seems that some people look out to be offended.

Thus in the wrong context a joke is risky, which is quite sad IMO.

 

[IanM]

I'm only ever offended by,. "faux outrage" by someone behalf of someone else and hypocrisy............

 

[Maninblack4612]

Oh, from the the title I thought this was a thread where we were going to share this kind of joke. I've got some crackers!

 

[chrisd]

I've got some crackers!

Jacobs?

 

[Hobbit]

Unfortunately I have to be (potentially) offended for others. All I need is for someone to complain to HR about some of the banter and for them to add that the General Manager heard everything but did nowt...

Our worst offender is pretty much loved by everyone but occasionally he upsets people. God knows how he’s survived so long. Great company out on the golf course, and has mountains of dodgy material but he just isn’t discerning with his audience.

 

[Deleted member 16999]

Unfortunately I have to be (potentially) offended for others. All I need is for someone to complain to HR about some of the banter and for them to add that the General Manager heard everything but did nowt...

Our worst offender is pretty much loved by everyone but occasionally he upsets people. God knows how he’s survived so long. Great company out on the golf course, and has mountains of dodgy material but he just isn’t discerning with his audience.

I think we all have to be pro-active in a work place Bri, I took it SILH is on about his golf club, apologies if I presumed incorrect.

 

[chrisd]

Unfortunately I have to be (potentially) offended for others. All I need is for someone to complain to HR about some of the banter and for them to add that the General Manager heard everything but did nowt...

Our worst offender is pretty much loved by everyone but occasionally he upsets people. God knows how he’s survived so long. Great company out on the golf course, and has mountains of dodgy material but he just isn’t discerning with his audience.

Your very own Bernard Manning?

 

[Hobbit]

Your very own Bernard Manning?

He could have lost his job for the last one. To make matters worse one of the other guys said the same thing to the same person the following day. If it wasn’t for the victim saying no to taking it all the way... still lead to notes going on file and formal warnings.