Non splitters

[SocketRocket]

Lol, I gave up going in any kitty years ago.

Might sound boring, but when you drink pints of bitter, or smooth or similar, and others are on the mad stuff, you end up spending at least double what you normally would.

I liked the 'No Treating' rule in the Senior Rates Mess, you also had to cover your guests drinks.

 

[GB72]

Wife had a friend who really wound me up. Bit off subject of splitting bills but when out she would always drink the equivalent of a bottle of wine but always ordered by the glass so paid about 30% more than if she ordered a bottle straight off

 

[sunshine]

Of course you have to split the bill.

With contactless payment it’s so easy to just pay for what you order. As long as the kitchen can bring it all out together, which restaurants should be able to organise easily, it doesn’t matter how it’s paid for.

I have seen a few places in recent years have easy ways in place to do this, all you have to do is ask!

This approach is strictly for losers.

 

[Fade and Die]

This approach is strictly for losers.

????

 

[larmen]

Of course you have to split the bill.

With contactless payment it’s so easy to just pay for what you order. As long as the kitchen can bring it all out together, which restaurants should be able to organise easily, it doesn’t matter how it’s paid for.

I have seen a few places in recent years have easy ways in place to do this, all you have to do is ask!

I think this discussion is about the morality of splitting and not the technical possibility.

 

[Deleted member 17920]

A comment on another thread got me thinking about a person who I used to work with.

The team would go out for a meal every now and again because we all got on relatively well and it was nice to have a bit of a night out but there was the one person who made it uncomfortable when it came to paying the bill.

10 people go out and have a meal with drinks. Bill is £350 so split it 10 ways and its £35 each plus tip so £38.50. Easy.....

Nope! This person pipes up with "I only had the X,Y and Z so mine is £28 and I am not paying extra. Everyone should pay for what they had." (And it wasn't a case that they couldn't afford it)

Cue a look of embarrassment around the table. Deduct their payment and then split the rest amongst the rest of the group.

They were told straight up afterwards. You're welcome to come along to another meal but only if you split the bill. They never came out for a meal again.

How do you feel about this sort of thing?

I am not sharing a bucket with you.

You eat it in the wrong order for a start

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

Not sure the poll options cover my 'I'm happy to split; hold no ill-feelings or resentments if any of our group decline to split; or if it's clear that I'm expected to be part of a straight split' ... well - I'm just OK on that last bit - happy unless I've had a £3.50 bottle of water and all others have each quaffed a £35 bottle of wine

 

[SocketRocket]

I do feel a bit miffed when drinking with a group of friends and we have a kitty to pay for the drinks, after putting thirty quid into the kitty and my wife and I having drank around £18 between us being asked for another tenner for the last round.

 

[Captainron]

I do feel a bit miffed when drinking with a group of friends and we have a kitty to pay for the drinks, after putting thirty quid into the kitty and my wife and I having drank around £18 between us being asked for another tenner for the last round.

You need to drink faster

 

[GB72]

I do feel a bit miffed when drinking with a group of friends and we have a kitty to pay for the drinks, after putting thirty quid into the kitty and my wife and I having drank around £18 between us being asked for another tenner for the last round.

My issue in similar circumstances is that my wife always likes to stand her own round but not all people's partners do. As such we often buy 2 rounds between us to one for other couples in the group

 

[larmen]

You need to drink faster

Isn’t that the issue right there? Everyone wants to get their money worth, everyone has to spend more. You have a group all happy to didn’t £20, all spending £30 because or fear of missing out.

 

[Deleted member 1740]

Isn’t that the issue right there? Everyone wants to get their money worth, everyone has to spend more. You have a group all happy to didn’t £20, all spending £30 because or fear of missing out.

I’ve never thought of it in that way. I just want to go out, in a group and sit and have a good laugh and a few beers. I’ll be honest I don’t like a kitty, not for the reasons above but I’ll happily get a round of beers in no problem.

I‘d hate to have some of the people as friends being discussed on this thread.

 

[IanM]

I‘d hate to have some of the people as friends being discussed on this thread.

That's it precisely.

 

[Orikoru]

You need to drink faster

It's true though. If we take food out of the equation and we're just talking about getting into rounds or a whip - you know full well that you have to drink at the same pace as everyone else, or just don't enter it in the first place.

I never much liked the whip, although I think that custom has practically died out these days. Since nobody carries cash, probably. Rounds was always the done thing for us since you just chuck it on your card and then it's the next person's go.

 

[GB72]

It's true though. If we take food out of the equation and we're just talking about getting into rounds or a whip - you know full well that you have to drink at the same pace as everyone else, or just don't enter it in the first place.

I never much liked the whip, although I think that custom has practically died out these days. Since nobody carries cash, probably. Rounds was always the done thing for us since you just chuck it on your card and then it's the next person's go.

Agree, rounds are the thing in my local but they are a spread out thing. As it is a small village pub you often end up buying pretty much everyone in the bar a drink and can end up with a £50.00 round and then you don't buy another drink for a couple of weeks as people buy you drinks back, put them in behind the bar etc.

 

[Captainron]

It's true though. If we take food out of the equation and we're just talking about getting into rounds or a whip - you know full well that you have to drink at the same pace as everyone else, or just don't enter it in the first place.

@Stuart_C might look like a liability physically but he’s a bloody world class pub goer. Having him in a round is a proper workout

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

When I was in Scotland everybody bought rounds but when I moved to the South of England I noticed that a lot of people buy their own drinks.

 

[Orikoru]

When I was in Scotland everybody bought rounds but when I moved to the South of England I noticed that a lot of people buy their own drinks.

Probably because the drinks cost twice as much! I noticed a kind of generational thing as well, about 5 years ago when I first started playing with my Sunday footy team - I was 29 but a lot of them were 21-22, and they tended not to buy a round - even when I bought a round the first time we ever went on a night out together - I think some didn't know the 'protocol' and just took it as a gift. But I reckon if you've very recently been a student you just get used to not having the money for rounds and looking after yourself. Nowadays as they've grown up though they do buy rounds these days. If there's like 15 of you out though you're not going to buy all 14 other lads a drink though, it'll just be who you're sat or stood with at the time I guess.

This is making me nostalgic for the days when going out to the pub with your mates was a thing.

 

[fundy]

Probably because the drinks cost twice as much! I noticed a kind of generational thing as well, about 5 years ago when I first started playing with my Sunday footy team - I was 29 but a lot of them were 21-22, and they tended not to buy a round - even when I bought a round the first time we ever went on a night out together - I think some didn't know the 'protocol' and just took it as a gift. But I reckon if you've very recently been a student you just get used to not having the money for rounds and looking after yourself. Nowadays as they've grown up though they do buy rounds these days. If there's like 15 of you out though you're not going to buy all 14 other lads a drink though, it'll just be who you're sat or stood with at the time I guess.

This is making me nostalgic for the days when going out to the pub with your mates was a thing.

Speak for yourself lol, been done before and will be done again no doubt (it better be!)

 

[Deleted member 1418]

@Stuart_C might look like a liability physically but he’s a bloody world class pub goer. Having him in a round is a proper workout

That's the only workout he does.... ?