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Sorry to post a rant but if I don't do it somewhere I’m likely to upset someone at work.

What is it with some people and families.

This weekend just gone I worked Saturday morning and sacrificed playing my first round since before Christmas as we were going out with my girlfriends mum for lunch as a birthday treat for her.

We did a 50 mile round trip in all, and paid for her mum, her mums fella, her brother and sister to have lunch, pudding and drinks. If you took what we eat and drank out of it the bill would have come to £60.

Now all well and good you'd think, after I’d just paid for everything her mum has a little dig about could have at least bought me a present, I bit my tongue said nothing and just walked away.

Now today my girlfriend has just been on the phone to me to tell me that her mum has not only text her but also wrote on Facebook that, she needs to change her priorities and should have bought her a gift as paying out a measly £60 on lunch for her whole family isn't her idea of a gift. Furthermore she wrote that she should understand what a mother does for her kids and rather than buying my kids the odd treat because there not hers and she'd be better served doing the decent thing and spending at least £40 on a birthday present for her and she feels let down by her......

So as well as the £60 we spent on her family she wants us to spend £40 on a pointless gift for a nothing birthday it wasn't a special number or anything and she has openly ridiculed her own daughter on a social media site for all to see and brought my kids into the equation to.

To make matters worse my girlfriend was round my parents when she saw it and broke down in tears, so my dad’s given her the £60 the meal cost as he wanted to cheer her up whilst being angry his grandkids are brought into it.

I've had to text her mum as well because the way she has treated her has wound me up, and now when I eventually finish and get home from work which tonight will be about 9pm she'll have been stewing on it and getting upset!

Contrast that though to Sunday my Brothers 40th Birthday meal at his golf club and we had a nice meal which he paid for all the family to go to as a milestone moment, and we put a small gift card into birthday card because we weren't paying for his meal so the cash was spare. He gave it back to us telling us to spend it on my kids as we have them down at half term and he was just happy we could be there with him.


Seriously sometimes you wonder how families can be so different.


Sorry if I bored anyone with that but getting it out has calmed me down.............................................................















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Facebook = Fail

dont know why people have to share such things on sites like that. why not right her daughter and have a chat??

PS. I am on your side, and she sounds a bit of a nutter. Nowt to worry about though, i hear that daughters never end up anything like their mothers! ;)
 

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Ha! Families selfishness sure can grate - especially Mothers!

Next time just send a £20 gift voucher in a card! Maybe an HMV one even! :whistle:
 

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Her mother has her priorities wrong , end of ... sounds more like a spoilt child than a mother ..


I hear of more rows , arguments & falling outs on facebook , i often just wonder .. why ?

Id be fair (ok mods il save you the job editing) at her for bringing your kids into it mate & i wouldnt be facebooking it id be saying it in person .. out of order big time
 
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Her mother has her priorities wrong , end of ... sounds more like a spoilt child than a mother ..


I hear of more rows , arguments & falling outs on facebook , i often just wonder .. why ?

Id be fair (ok mods il save you the job editing) at her for bringing your kids into it mate & i wouldnt be facebooking it id be saying it in person .. out of order big time

Oh indeed it'll be happening face to face as well..
 

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I will be like my parents, they never ask, want or need gifts from me, I give them out of my own love.

I will tell my kids the same, no need to buy me a gift, I would rather they kept the cash BUT if they want to they can and I will love it whatever.

I never would expect, demand or actually ask a person for a gift, if I did it would be theft in my mind!
 

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my ex used to do this sort of thing all the time on FB, slag me off to her so called friends... aslong as my consience is clear I couldnt give 2 hoots what others think.

Next year get her sod all for being so selfish and ungrateful!
 

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Next year get her sod all for being so selfish and ungrateful!

I'd get her a gift, but i'd post it and wouldn't go and see her. If her priority is the gift then she should get her wish........ See how long it is before she realizes her petty little views are wrong...
 

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Sounds like a selfish bully. One good thing though. Everyone who reads it on FB will realise what a donk she is...
 

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Sad little woman who will end up a sad, lonely old woman! If the most important thing is getting a gift rather than spending quality time with her family then she needs a hard look at her priorities.

Families eh? Worse still the families of other halfs!
 

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Just not on mate. No one should tell you to buy them a gift or even specify the amount you should spend. I think the meal was a thoughtful gift in its own right. Hope her daughter hasn't picked up any of the psychotic tendancies.
 

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Sorry but as you get older, you start to realise that family and loved ones are more important than material things. it seems the lady has not learnt this at all. Her loss, get her a voucher and feel sorry for her that she values material things more than her family.
 

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If I where to post my initial thoughts on the matter I'd be banned. Selfish, bitter a resentful are the cleaner words that all spring to mind. I'd go with the option of refusing to speak to her or have anything to do with her again but then so much depends on how HID is handling. Stand by her. Unfortunately she can't choose her mother but she can choose her partner.
 
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