Ultimatum from GF.... not good tbh

Smiffy said:
That's the one good thing about my Sam. She knew, when she met me, that I had two kids from my previous marriage. She never (ever) try's to interfere with my relationship with them. Ever. If she did, she'd be out. As much as I love her. My kids come before anything. OK they are a pain in the arse sometimes (read "most of the time") but nothing would ever stop me spending time with my kids. They are the most important thing in my life. And given the choice of quitting golf or my kids? Who wants to buy a set of clubs?
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:clap::clap: This is the best answer you will get mate because it is the same set up as your own ..
 
yup, kids first, GF second, Gibbo-time third.. If you can find a way to mix up those ingredients then you're set....Just remember that women do not differentiate Gibbo-time. A night out with the boys is just the same as a round at the local course... You may not be able to do both regularly.... I sacrifice nights out with the boys for Weekend golf.. Fortunately I can play during the week without any penalty as the fragrant one is at work and the kids are at school....
 
I'm really lucky. As said, Sam gives me enough rope to hang myself. Up until now, I have managed to stay this side of "the line". I know when she is upset. She goes quiet. Or the cups seem to get put down on the worktop a little bit harder. It's give and take. Only you can work out where the fine dividing line is because it will vary within different relationships. The art in any relationship is finding that dividing line. Good luck. Many have tried. Many have failed. I have managed to find the defining line. This week. Next week may be different. Women are funny creatures. Men are much less compicated.
 
cheers fella's, had a good lengthy chat last night and seem to have cleared the air a bit. Also had a chat with the kids and all is good in the Gibbo household/personal life again.

Now we just have to get through christmas haha
 
G1BB0 said:
cheers fella's, had a good lengthy chat last night and seem to have cleared the air a bit. Also had a chat with the kids and all is good in the Gibbo household/personal life again.

Now we just have to get through christmas haha
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For the love of god don't look at the thread that Smiffy and Spanish Steve are trying to arrange a forum meet in Spain on... It could be a short lived truce in the Gibbo household.....
 
G1BB0 said:
cheers fella's, had a good lengthy chat last night and seem to have cleared the air a bit. Also had a chat with the kids and all is good in the Gibbo household/personal life again.

Now we just have to get through christmas haha
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So how much are you asking for your golf gear?



Chris
 
Good luck to you mate. Hope its turned out ok? HID has 2 grown up kids live with their dad. I have 2 live with their mum. But both set come and go here as they please. All the kids get on great together, thank goodness. HID has her own time I have mine and we have together time. So far its worked out. So it can be done. Not easy at times. But all relationships have to be worked at, to be fair to all.
 
My boy is 8 and is well into his golf. I think he can join the juniors at our place in the spring. I know he will want to be playing at every possibility so I am looking forward to a summer of lots of golf and not just the 1 game a week (if I am lucky) that I have had for the last 8 years.

Boy, am I looking forward to this!
 
my 17 y/o started playing a bit this year but lost interest :(
still might get him a set for chrimbo as he can play until 18 for free at my club, a few lessons and I reckon he would soon be kicking my a**e
 
he's 17 Gibbo, we all had fires burning inside us at 17, let him quench them and have the sticks there and an open invite to play whenever he wants with his 'old dad', you might find he'll come back sooner than you think.
 
Oddsocks said:
Obviously as others have said the biggest issue here is the kiddies, and only you can decide whats best for them. I wont comment on this side as i do not have kids myself so don't feel my opinion would be valid.

Re the golfing, its got to be about making a compromise. as suggested by someone else, one good way of earning brownie points is having a your day, a day where you just faff around with her and make he feel that you have made an effort. I don't live with HID, but no matter what every Wednesday is off limits, unless something very serious goes on Wednesday is her day, we take turns in cooking, watching films or what ever it is she wants to do on that night.

Tuesday night is "my time", i normally pop out and see the boys, maybe range for a lesson, or even go into homer mode, bum out on the sofa and watch tele, but Tuesday is set is stone as my day, it also gives her a night of the week where if she wants to see the girls, get or hair/nails done etc then its all good. I have a pass to play once a week, as she likes spending a day with me at the weekends too, and every few weeks i can normally wangle a 2 day pass.. so its not that bad,

Now whats hard is your trying to juggle a job, (whiich im assuming is 9-5 ish), then in the evening and weekends, juggle kids, GF and a hobby which if your trying to improve takes dedication.

"personally" in your shoes, if i could get a game once a week and a range session once a week id be stoked, enjoy the little ones growing up, and in about 5 years when the eldest is 18, they will be less dependent and your golfing time will increase. HID has made it quite clear that when we move in, because every day will be our day, i will be more than welcome to play golf both days at the weekend... but im sure its just a ploy to steel my freedom.
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That will be after the decorating, gardening and any other jobs they dream up!! Don't fall for it it will never happen!! Lol :-)
 
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