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My playing partners are father and son. The son who is 29 has proper tantrums and throws his clubs when he plays a bad shot. The dad goes mad at him for it but then when he plays a bad shot he has a minor hissy fit too.
I myself have learned over the years that having a tantrum only affects you and no one else and I just take it in my stride.

So the question is how many of you have tantrums and how many stay calm and just think of the next shot?
 
I always stay calm, i might say to myself that was not a good shot you can do better but never go into a fit. If i played in a medal or a bounce game with someone who did i would not want to play a round again with them.
 
I get annoyed with myself but don't have a hissy fit.
I'm generally a calm golfer as I play for the enjoyment of the game. It can't be too enjoyable if you are permanently upset.
 
used to have hissy fit and tantrums but have stooped now and will curse myself (call myself allsorts mainly what everyone else says anyway)

but thats it these days
 
I was playing in a comp about 18 months ago and was standing on the 14th level gross proceeded to carve one away miles into the rough and helicoptered my driver. It was magic such a release of the bad stuff I had going on in my head, must have looked like a right eejit picking up my driver shafts though :whistle:
 
I get annoyed with myself but don't have a hissy fit. Try stay calm and make the next shot. Only been playing properly for the last year so I'm (trying) to learn from my mistakes.
 
I have been known and it is a standing joke in some circles that my tantrums have been legendary. However i have walked on the lice paper and am now a reformed........ The reality i find is that if a i play a good round or even several dare i say and am in a place that i am quiet please with i am more forgiving for a longer period of poor play and have no tantrums, just take poor shots in my stride. However, if the poor play becomes a slump old habits start to return and i am less forgiving of myself.

I really think it is important for those of us afflicted with a tendency for self annialation to work on improving ones on course psychology. Have read all the Bob Rottella books and can honestly say they have helped me. The one area of recurring weakness is after playing an excellent shot and having put myself in a great position i then top, thin or duff a shot. Occassionally then the iron will become embedded in the fairway. I never throw clubs though and have never got cross on the putting green. I think that is more of a lottery. I read somewhere an interesting point. I think it was Geoff Ogilvy, who said he was prone to a few tantrums until he realised that he only did it when he was playing with others. if he was playing on his own he was always forgiving of himself. He therefore concluded he was only doing it to impress on others that he was a better golfer than the bad shot he had just played. Then he realised he didn,t really care about impressing anyone else so now he has no tantrumas at all!!
 
I just say 'Whoops' out loud when i carve one right and move on.
It usually gets a little snigger from my playing partners.
 
keef said:
I read somewhere an interesting point. I think it was Geoff Ogilvy, who said he was prone to a few tantrums until he realised that he only did it when he was playing with others. if he was playing on his own he was always forgiving of himself. He therefore concluded he was only doing it to impress on others that he was a better golfer than the bad shot he had just played. Then he realised he didn,t really care about impressing anyone else so now he has no tantrumas at all!!
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That sums it up in a nutshell, I think that actually applies to everyone. Good post
 
I think we all get annoyed on the course when we hit a bad shot, even more so when we are having a good round. I will normally call myself anything from a T@@T to a F@@@ing Idiot depending on the how bad the shot was, but none of this club throwing or kicking things like other players do. I just hate it when people have a tantrum like a little kid that can't get a chocolate bar at the tills in Tesco's.
 
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A certain amount of 'release of tension' can be a good thing (I very occasionally whack my club (normally a wedge!) into the ground after a poor shot) but you've still got to go and play it from where it is now so the 'why bother' thought normally rules.

Have played with 'Tantrum Tom' who normally has 4 or 5 hissy fits a round and has been known to struggle to extract the club from the ground.

And played Muirfield once with a guy who asked on the 18th if any of us had a spare Driver for the Afternoon round. He'd hit a poor, by his standards, shot on 17 and whacked his bag. Broke his Driver shaft. All done so 'politely'!
 
my nephew loses the head when things arent going is way. clubs thrown, etc. the funny thing is that hes so quiet normally and wont say boo to a ghost but he absolutly cannot take a beating.
 
I don't chuck clubs but used to really lose it at myself BUT only with my nearest and dearest. Warts and all and all that! I was still very new to golf when I was due to play a Stableford comp with my brother. It was probably my 3rd competition and the day before we played and I had a go at myself. George is such a good big brother that he would try to make things better for me without really knowing what to say and I was aware it was awkward for him. So the day of the comp my only goal was to leave the course having never ever made him feel uncomfortable. I scored 46 points and won.

Nowadays I'm more controlled but every so often really need to vent and release some frustration. So I wait until my playing partners aren't looking and kick my trolley wheels! Unless I'm playing really badly in which case I daren't in case I miss and hurt my foot :rolleyes:

I have read all Dr Bob's stuff and quite a few others as well as attending seminars on NLP and it has all helped me for sure.
 
Not so much these days but been known to try and bury my irons into the ground! The best had to be my brother who was a champion club thrower,if it was an Olympic sport he would have won gold.One particular time playing Turriff he threw the club so far he cleared the river Devron,pmsl lol!
 
The thing is, when they see someone else throw their clubs they are over critical and i'ts not on sort of attitude. they even threaten to report the person to the committee. Perversely I enjoy it when they do have tantrums as I know they are going to mess up their next few shots as well. :-)
 
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