Is it the norm to care less about what people think about you as you get older?

[williamalex1]

Not sure if that's aimed personally at me or not, no issue with you as we've never met and is simply a discussion on a forum,
I'm delighted with my life and I hope all on here are, but I'd bet you didn't get to this point by not learning along the way.

Nothing personal , and nothing to add.

 

[chrisd]

I've always had a slightly sarcastic sense of humour and not been shy to say what I feel but have never, especially in older age, gone out of my way to feel that I can say whatever I like and if it offends anyone that's their problem.

 

[HomerJSimpson]

Was always the class joker and took that into my teens and twenty's and first to do something that "seemed funny" at the time without thought of risk or outcome. Never cared what others thought of me and something I still don't. I'll always give anyone in every walk of life the benefit of the doubt and you can make a fool of me once. Twice and that's it. The only people who I care about what they think are and always have been my family and a handful of very close friends. Other than that I'll live my life, do what I want and don't really worry too much what people, especially those I have never met or barely know in person think

 

[PhilTheFragger]

When you are young and inexperienced, it's natural to be "careful". So maybe you didn't ask that girl out, because you thought she might say no. Or didn't take that job , because it was too far away.

As you get older, the "Self Conscious" gene diminishes and self confidence grows as a result, so when you get to your 50's + you don't worry about what other people think of you

When you get to Chris' age anything can happen

 

[chrisd]

When you get to Chris' age anything can happen

I do now apologise if I wee my trousers in public, even more so if I get it out and do it - I may now be barred from John Lewis!

 

[louise_a]

I spent a lot of my life being unhappy due partly to caring about what people might think, now I don't really care.

 

[Deleted member 15344]

For me as with everything in life it will always be about the balance

At times there will be a need to only think of number 1 and the family and any action or word spoken regardless of the consequences will be done thinking only of the family etc

But there will be times when will always think that possibly there could be someone hurt or cause offence by something I do or say and it could be a time to think of others in the world and not just think about myself and take a step back. There are plenty of times in my life where I believe I should of thought of others and took a different path and there will always be actions I wish I hadn't taken or words said and will have regrets in regards hurt caused

But I will always try and live life thinking of myself and others but only looking to please my loved ones and worry about how they see me

I believe if you take care and think of others in times of need they will be there to help you

 

[Deleted member 21258]

I sometimes are a little heavy handed lets say, blunt, speak my peace, dont care, wear my heart on the sleeve and so on. Sometimes I don't even mean to, but it just happens.:mmm:


However over the years I have tried to mellow this part of my character and become more laid back, as it is not that nice really(I think, maybe, still not sure but anyway).Sometimes I am not successful and my underlyning character pops out and my wife says its not pleasant, and she is right so there.:ears:


So if anything, I have gone the other way over the years.