Is it the norm to care less about what people think about you as you get older?

[HowlingGale]

Just reminiscing this morning about embarrasing things I've done or said in my life. 20 years or so ago they were excruciating, but now I'm not really sure they would bother me if they happened today.

Just talking about making an absolute t*t of yourself. Not anything really bad.

Did you care more when you were younger/immature?

Or do you just not have time to sweat over the small things now?

 

[Rooter]

I am good at making my self look a prize plank. I think my best was the day after Children in need was on the TV, i saw an old cricket mate in town. His head was completely shaved, I asked him how much he had raised for CIN. He replied that he was 6 weeks into chemotherapy for cancer... I wanted the world to swallow me up, but he took it well as everyone knows i am an idiot!

 

[Tashyboy]

I think there is a difference in saying things and being embarrassed or putting your foot in it. Or just opening your gob to be clever, hurtful, or down right pig ignorant like my mother can be. If someone said it to her years ago, she would be upset, but now gene has kicked in and she comes out with some proper rubbish. Thing is 99% of the time she is brilliant, but the comments just come out from no where.

That aside I have not bothered what people think of me since I left school. I tend to find that people who are concerned about making the right false impression, tend to make the wrong impression. That aside I think as you get older you tend to think " I couldn't care less" coz it's not important. What was important at 18, girls, money, beer. Is not an issue at 53. Life, family, health now matters.

 

[GreiginFife]

I'm only 37 but have never cared what others think of me. What other people think is unimportant. How I think is.

 

[Rooter]

I'm only 37 but have never cared what others think of me. What other people think is unimportant. How I think is.

exactly the same, my wife on the other hand, the first thing she thinks about is along the lines of "what would xyz person (or people) think/say" My response is always, why does it matter?!

 

[MegaSteve]

I try my very best not to have a potty mouth in mixed company...
Occasionally the odd bad word slips out and then I wish the world would swallow me up...

Beyond that, waking up the next day is my only real concern...

 

[Deleted member 16999]

I think it is tbh, everybody likes to be accepted whether that's in the workplace or private life, as you get older you realise/know/care about what's important to you and less about what others think.

 

[Tarkus1212]

I think it is tbh, everybody likes to be accepted whether that's in the workplace or private life, as you get older you realise/know/care about what's important to you and less about what others think.

Spot on!

 

[GreiginFife]

I think it is tbh, everybody likes to be accepted whether that's in the workplace or private life, as you get older you realise/know/care about what's important to you and less about what others think.

Disagree on workplace especially, I am here to do my job well, not be people's friend. Being popular or fitting in or being friends can actually make it worse to make the hard calls.
So avoiding that is best. People can take me or leave me, fitting in is over rated, people often try too hard. What's the point in that?

 

[Deleted member 16999]

Disagree on workplace especially, I am here to do my job well, not be people's friend. Being popular or fitting in or being friends can actually make it worse to make the hard calls.
So avoiding that is best. People can take me or leave me, fitting in is over rated, people often try too hard. What's the point in that?

Didn't say friends, said accepted, absolutely agree with your point about being popular or fitting in, but I woukd suggest if your selling or buying or whatever, it's likely to be easier if the other person/people accept you quickly, unfortunately human nature can be shallow and first impressions last.

 

[Fish]

Disagree on workplace especially, I am here to do my job well, not be people's friend. Being popular or fitting in or being friends can actually make it worse to make the hard calls.
So avoiding that is best. People can take me or leave me, fitting in is over rated, people often try too hard. What's the point in that?

I'm with you here..

I don't give a monkeys, I don't regret anything I've said or done and never will, even if it was bad at the time, it's all about living your life as you felt at that moment, take it or leave it, you know where the door is...

I love the bit and can totally relate to when De Niro says in Heat

[video=youtube_share;IMXEOtxXRiM]https://youtu.be/IMXEOtxXRiM[/video]

 

[Pin-seeker]

I'm with you here..

I don't give a monkeys, I don't regret anything I've said or done and never will, even if it was bad at the time, it's all about living your life as you felt at that moment, take it or leave it, you know where the door is...

I love the bit and can totally relate to when De Niro says in Heat

[video=youtube_share;IMXEOtxXRiM]https://youtu.be/IMXEOtxXRiM[/video]

Nice speech from De Niro (love that film)
But seriously,don't have anything in your life that you wouldn't walk away from in 30s flat.
That would be a very sad life indeed.

 

[williamalex1]

I don't give a jot, which is just as well.:ears:

 

[Deleted member 16999]

I don't give a jot, which is just as well.:ears:

For 99% of us on here it's probably the same, but did you feel that way starting your first job or relationships?
How feel now isn't really answering the OP

 

[williamalex1]

For 99% of us on here it's probably the same, but did you feel that way starting your first job or relationships?
How feel now isn't really answering the OP

Even more so when i was young, i didn't really give a [ swear word] about anything.

 

[Deleted member 16999]

Even more so when i was young, i didn't really give a [ swear word] about anything.

So happy to risk looking a knob or losing opportunities through arrogance or ignorance as an immature youth?
We all experience life and learn lessons along the way and I expect 100% of human beings make mistakes along the way.

 

[GreiginFife]

So happy to risk looking a knob or losing opportunities through arrogance or ignorance as an immature youth?
We all experience life and learn lessons along the way and I expect 100% of human beings make mistakes along the way.

Swings both ways, seen people too eager to please and fit in that they end up looking like a knob, or worse, manipulated in to breaking rules by the "in crowd clique".
We all do learn, but that doesn't mean that the lesson has to be that you will only not look a knob or risk anything by being "in with the crowd" or popular.

My job is predicated around delivering bad news to business units on a daily basis, not worrying about not being popular works in my favour. Peers of mine spend ages rehearsing what they are going to say and soften messages so as to not upset people. Causes more hassle in the long run.

 

[Deleted member 16999]

Swings both ways, seen people too eager to please and fit in that they end up looking like a knob, or worse, manipulated in to breaking rules by the "in crowd clique".
We all do learn, but that doesn't mean that the lesson has to be that you will only not look a knob or risk anything by being "in with the crowd" or popular.

My job is predicated around delivering bad news to business units on a daily basis, not worrying about not being popular works in my favour. Peers of mine spend ages rehearsing what they are going to say and soften messages so as to not upset people. Causes more hassle in the long run.

But you're talking as it is now, are you saying the journey that has led you to today you've learnt nothing and you're the same person you were when you left school, we all have highs and lows and learn from both, surely? It's what makes is the person we are today.

 

[williamalex1]

So happy to risk looking a knob or losing opportunities through arrogance or ignorance as an immature youth?
We all experience life and learn lessons along the way and I expect 100% of human beings make mistakes along the way.

Delighted with my life so far, regrets I've had a few , but then again too few to mention lol. , if you don't like me tough, that's your problem not mine.

 

[Deleted member 16999]

Delighted with my life so far, mistakes I've made a few but then again too few to mention lol. , if you don't like me tough, that's your problem not mine.

Not sure if that's aimed personally at me or not, no issue with you as we've never met and is simply a discussion on a forum,
I'm delighted with my life and I hope all on here are, but I'd bet you didn't get to this point by not learning along the way.