HID

[Oddsocks]

Ok so im getting my ear chewed slightly but subltlely and not in a good way about golf time verses her time. Im interested to here from the younger guys (around 30) and infact the older guys on how much they play without the misses spitting fire balls.

At the moment i play either saturday or sunday (never both, oh no no no) and maybe once during the week or a range night suring the week.

typically leave around 7.30 for a 9am tea off, our course seems to pack people in so with a 9am tee of i finish about 1pm, couple of drinks (soft of course) with the lads i've played with and im back home by 2/2.30.

Ive read another thread about how far you would travel for a game and its common that people seem to be nicking atleast 2 games after work and most twice at weekends.

lads if this is you... enjoy it!

 

[Parmo]

I am 34 and HID is ok with me playing once a week and sometimes twice a weekend... She doesn't like be boozing there for hours at a time.

I found getting her playing has really helped, we had our own away day last Friday, 18 holes and then breakfast (with a pint) and then a 12 hole par 3 course, great day out.

I've seen so many 50 odd year olds at our club who play and then booze the weekend away mixed with rounds of golf, the reason for this is they are single!!

My moto is.. "A happy wife is a happy life!!"

 

[Aztecs27]

Batchelorhood - Oh how I miss you!

I'm in a similar situation, but slightly different.

Having just re-kindled my golf love I'm looking to play as often as possible. The only trouble is, alot of my evenings are taken up with going to the gym and football practice. Then I have football practice on a sunday from 12-3 which basically screws up your whole day, so I'm taking the rounds as and when I can get them at the minute through fear of having my ear chewed off about not spending time with HID. I would usually like to get down for 9 one night after work and have a round of 18 once a month at the minute. Come January though, I will have to make the tough decision of whether or not I want to persue golf as my main time consumer or whether to continue with a new season of (American) Football and play golf as and when I can - if this is the case is a membership worth it? Not looking forward to making the decision, I can tell you that! But there isn't enough hours to do gym, football and golf plus give the Mrs. ample attention.

But really, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.

You spend time with her and she moans that you're smothering her and need to give her space. You don't spend time with her and you're neglecting her and don't care!

Of course, I'm joking with my first statement, but I would definitely say that if you're without life-partner, definitely enjoy it while you can!

I do appreciate the time I have to myself alot more now though as it's precious!

I'm 26 by the way.

 

[p1pete]

We have an agreement that works really well, I get Saturday to play golf, while HID goes shopping, seeing friends etc, am usually home by 4pm which still means we have the evening together and we have Sunday as well....works great, she has agreed never to arrange anything for both of us on a Saturday.

I go down the range a couple of nights during the week or have a sneaky game but am usually home by 8 which she doesn't mind cause she usually isn't in from work til 7.

 

[Oddsocks]

well currently once a week and one twilight is pushing it, on saturday i have a double round booked around 2 nice courses local which a friend has a managed a cracking deal on.

Brakfast and 18 holes at one
Lunch and 18 holes at another close by.

if i honestly told her i was playing morning and afternoon she would backflip to the kicthen with the meat cleever bound to end up between my eyes. as it is she thinks we could only get a tee time for 2 so i have a lesson in the morning pre match.

whoops.

 

[Oddsocks]

We have an agreement that works really well, I get Saturday to play golf, while HID goes shopping, seeing friends etc, am usually home by 4pm which still means we have the evening together and we have Sunday as well....works great, she has agreed never to arrange anything for both of us on a Saturday.

I go down the range a couple of nights during the week or have a sneaky game but am usually home by 8 which she doesn't mind cause she usually isn't in from work til 7.

see my above post pete, i see that as total fair, you get your day 9-4 or whatever, and she gets you all sunday. what wrong with that.

 

[sawtooth]

I do get some ear bending from time to time but I think have reached a balance that works OK now.

I also just play the once at the weekend but its a 6.30am start so finished and back home by 10.30/11am. Still a lot of day left to do things with the HID and the kids.

Also a couple of early morning 9 holes in the week before work that dont really impact HID too much.

I might nick another 9 or 18 holes on 1 evening if I think I'll be alright.

The funny thing this I hardly played when we met 12 years ago, its only the last couple of years that I have rekindled my love for the game.

 

[p1pete]

We have an agreement that works really well, I get Saturday to play golf, while HID goes shopping, seeing friends etc, am usually home by 4pm which still means we have the evening together and we have Sunday as well....works great, she has agreed never to arrange anything for both of us on a Saturday.

I go down the range a couple of nights during the week or have a sneaky game but am usually home by 8 which she doesn't mind cause she usually isn't in from work til 7.

see my above post pete, i see that as total fair, you get your day 9-4 or whatever, and she gets you all sunday. what wrong with that.

Exactly....in fact it was her idea, we both know where we are regarding arranging things etc

 

[Oddsocks]

The funny thing this I hardly played when we met 12 years ago, its only the last couple of years that I have rekindled my love for the game.

funny that, she was exactly the reason i stated playing, my phone doesnt ring or i dont get asked silly bloody questions when im hacking balls out the gorse bush on the 6th

 

[Guns]

Hi, I am little lucky the Mrs.Guns works every other weekend so when she is working I will play both days, on her weekends off Saturdays only.

Which can cause a problem because my club seems to have more comps on Sundays

 

[Tiger]

My missus is a distance runner and we have a littl'un. My issues is that when you add up all the time she spends running it is greater than my total golf time but because golf is a solid five hour block I get my ear chewed. What makes it worse is that i can't get an early tee time because of her morning run but then she moans that I finish so late because I don't tee off till ten to accommodate!

I'm 30 and i've learnt that once you have kids you are always in the wrong. Before the littl'un I used to spend more time at football but it didn't matter cos she would do her own thing then.

Just can't wait till the wee bairn starts playing so we can have quality father and son time on the course!

 

[Oddsocks]

Tiger I hate to say it but I think you getin in the ear worse than me. This is the main reason I don't do a full time membership, I feel it would be a waste as I wouldn't get full use of it

 

[p1pete]

One of the guys who sometimes joins us has a 5 year old, but his missus gets the arse if she has to get up early at weekends to take the daughter to some dance classes and then pick her up. So he gets it in the neck if he plays before 10am but if he does then he absolutely has to finish by 1pm to go collect the kiddie.

 

[3offTheTee]

Just realise how lucky I am! We are both retired and I play every Saturday in a Comp at 12. Every Wednesday at 9 am, the wife goes to the gym. She also goes to aqua fit on Monday at 10 am which means I mangae 12 holes. Tuesday is Ladies Day and I take her out for lunch.

I have 15/20 'away days' a year within an 80 mile radius. I have taken her on 2 3 days trips to Scotland this year where I played in a couple of Comps both times.

However I try and treat her with the odd hol 2/3 times a year. Oh and I usually play on a Friday but sometimes that is puching it
!

 

[Tiger]

Tiger I hate to say it but I think you getin in the ear worse than me. This is the main reason I don't do a full time membership, I feel it would be a waste as I wouldn't get full use of it

Amen to that! Have started scheduling my practice in now so it's on the calendar! Learnt that tip from 'Outnumbered' thank you BBC!

 

[drawboy]

Let me show you my method of getting HID to let me play golf

 

[kid2]

I must be lucky in some aspects......Im with HID for the past 14 years....35 now and i was playing ball when we met.....As most who play football know its a big commitment especially when you play with a pretty decent team....Training 2 nights a week a match on sundays and sometimes training on saturdays......Now she stood by me through all this and we get on like a house on fire....Last year i snapped my achilles tendon which saw me out of work for 14 weeks......I said that id love to maybe take up golf and retire from the football......As you can imagine she was over the moon but left the decision to me......She was very supportive.......
Im now only playing golf on a sat or sun and i practice my chipping and putting a few hours a week on one night.She knows how competitive i am and requests that i practice as she sees the enjoyment that i get from itShe has said that she wants me to try and make our club team 12-18 handicappers....She catches up on her tv when im out...All in all 2 happy campers.....We have a little boy 2 1/2 and a little girl 7 and i try to get them out with me at times if im practicing.......

I dont drink or smoke(and no im not boring before anyone asks im the complete opposite....nuts ...) but herself goes out with her friends 1 night at the weekend and id never stop her enjoying her time with her girlfriends....So it works for us....We do heaps as a family as well.....We havent married yet a joint decision our philosophy being if it aint broke it dont need fixing if anyone asks......

Im sure there must be someone else in a similar situation to me also.......

 

[HomerJSimpson]

I think most of you on here that know me will know that I have THE number 1 best wife. Not only does she take me and pick me up (we're a one car family at the moment so the least I can do is let have it while I'm playing) but she has no qualms with me practicing or playing most days. She has been known to clean my shoes regularly and even my clubs (grips and heads) and I NEVER get told I'm playing or practicing too much or that I'm on here again.

We've been married 10 years this October and together for 18 and she did make me choose between golf and football at the start but I was getting too old and not enjoying the football so an easy choice to make.

She is available for hire to give day long seminars to wifes, girlfriends and men getting a hard time - £750 per day plus VAT and expenses!!!!!!

 

[Imurg]

When I started back playing there was never a chance of playing weekends. HID works some so I have The Boy and we do stuff and when she's not then we have family time. Plus I'm having to work weekend mornigs when I can so golf is out of the question.
So I'm a 5-day member. Being self-employed I can tweak the diary to fit in games. Played today and playing friday as well. As long as I get enough hours in she doesn't mind - and to be fair half the time she doesn't even know!

 

[Deleted member 1740]

I play 3 times a week usually.

Sundays in the comp around 11ish and back home for 4:30 unless there's a decent game on i'll stay for a few extra pints and watch that.

Tuesdays i play in the roll up midweek comp, i try to finish for dinnertime and tee off around 1pm so i'm home by 6pm.

Fridays i like to have all my work boxed off for the week by 1pm and i play at 2:15 with a mate who works at jaguar who finishes at 1:30.

My tart is quite happy to be fair so long as i take her and the kids out on saturdays she's sweet.

I don't play saturdays because its always busy so i'm not too bothered. I think the key to playing 3 times a week is having a job you can manage your time around.