Golf and Relationships. Do they mix?

[PeterPumpkinEater]

Having been with my good lady for nearly 9yrs now (not married) and always played my different sports Snooker, Running and now Golf, I just wondered how other guys on here struggle with getting their games of golf in.

Obviously you have to strike a balance between time for yourself and time with HID. In my case I play league snooker once a week, get up early and go out running and play golf either Sat or Sun and i had a case at the weekend when the lads asked me to play Sat and Sun which didnt go dow too well. A friend of mine plays as many times as he likes and his wife is fine about it (he states its because he's been married 35 years!) as she plays too, my case is not helped as mine doesnt (she has horses).

My question is this, do relationships restrict your golf?

 

[Parmo]

Good topic.

I myself tee off around 7am on Saturdays, the reason being is that not only of there no rush or waiting and it’s the most beautiful part of the day but I am home by 1030 and have the rest of the day with HID (be it knackered after getting up at 0530). The being knackered the rest of the day can be an issue and we have discussed it and she would be fine for me to tee off any part of the day, though I would like to see it before believing it.

I sometimes play with a guy from work who does what and when he wants, his girlfriend doesn't seem to mind. To me spending time with HID on a weekend is important, I see so many golfers who leave the house at 9am and don't return until late afternoon when they have had their fill on the 19th with their playing partners every weekend and sometimes both days of it.

It can be a fine line us golfers walk between addiction and divorce.

 

[USER1999]

It seems to work for me. I have been married for 18 years, and golf has never been an issue, either in terms of expense, or time. It helps if your partner has other hobbies, as if they are just sat at home waiting for you to return, I can see that this would put pressure on the relationship.

My better half plays a lot of tennis (alot isn't quite the word really), and also does a fair amount of running and gym work. If anything, come the winter months of utter darkness and no midweek golf, it is me sat around waiting for her. Come the summer however.....

We have never exactly lived in each others pockets, and have always persued our own hobbies and interests. It works for us, but I can see it wouldn't do for everyone.

 

[PeterPumpkinEater]

If you think about it time is definately the major factor with golf, if you are single not a problem.

For example I get to to the club 45mins before tee off time to get ready, hit a few balls on the range or go on the putting green. 4 hours to go round the course then 1hr 15mins for a drink and something to eat. So 6hrs in total which is the best part of the day.

Dont get me wrong, if I was single man I would be playing all of the daylight hours available! But i do like to spend time with the good lady too. Wait till we start having kids!!!

 

[Herbie]

I think it depends on the people involved, balance can be achieved in relationships but never underestimate the female capacity for revenge.

When you are looking for that shirt for a business meeting ,or your best shoes that you just cant find, or you dont get that important phone message you have expected for days.........It might be an accident, but it just might be HID getting a little revenge for the game of golf a fortnight ago that you had when she thought you were going for a meal that day.lol.

 

[TWM]

Well, I have been married for fifty years and HID is often glad to see me off to golf.

 

[OldWindy]

Works fine for me - the missus loves golf and will be playing next year so all's good ATM. It's the two kids which take up so much time so I get to play just once a week.

Our postman's missus gets him on the course as often as possible - he reckons (with a hint of seriousness) that she's got another man.

 

[Dodger]

works great for me too....I go off to play golf and shes tidys the house,does the washing and ironing and has my lunch ready for me coming home and every now and then I treat her to a weekend away....in St.Andrews.

 

[cm_qs]

It's small children that don't mix with golf...
I have two under 5's ( and a third due in March) and during the week I leave for work before they wake up and by the time I get home, they're ready for bed. The weekends are the only real time that I can spend any time with them and I can't justify regularly giving up an entire day to golf at the weekend at their expense. My golfing activities are(willingly) restricted to weekday evenings as long as daylight permits and the occasional sneaky daytime venture.
Should improve when they're old enough to want to do their own things at the weekend!

 

[Cernunnos]

Tend not to golf on weekend, only during the week, due to the oddshift patterns I work, when I have a weekend off its either spent with the missus doing something else, unless of course she wants to play golf & then I will play golf with her on the weekend.

Simple solution & it works for me. I used to do weekend comps when I was a member at the Brailsford, but to be honest didn't hang around in the club too long if she was off & at home.

 

[viscount17]

Should improve when they're old enough to want to do their own things at the weekend!

oh dear, such wishful thinking .
there will be a woefully short spell when dad is 'in the way' and you are free (subject to HID) but then, Dad's taxi becomes much in demand, no matter how good the bike that you bought. (Birthday parties are always Saturday afternoon).

 

[simplyme]

I have the added luxury of my partner being a nurse, so she works quite a few weekends, be it days or nights so it is hardly ever an issue. I have my fill on the 19th, get a taxi home in time to see her leave for or come home from work.

The times when she has weekends off, i'll play 9 holes mid morning, quick drink and then afternoons spent together.

 

[HomerJSimpson]

I have said many times on here that HID is one in a million. Not only does she willingly support me playing both days at weekends and weekday evenings in the summer, she is normally the one asking "you going to the range tonight?" even when it is teeming it down and freezing. She has no problem with my golf spending and has been known on a regular basis to give my wet shoes the loving care they need (putting newspaper in them and then cleaning when dry).

When I come home cold and wet and fed up she is there with a warm cup of tea and helps me unpack and dry listening to how I could have been a contender until .....

I'm really not sure what I did in a former life to be so lucky and I love her to bits and despite occasionally taking the mickey on here about her she is trule 1 in a million

 

[TonyN]

Golf and relationships??? I have a relationship with golf according to my worst half.

Actually she really never moans about it, because if she did, I would probably do it all the more!

 

[time_vans]

golf isn't the issue it's spending time apart doing anything...golf,fishing,drinking,football etc and if you have a partner that disapproves of golf then its a good bet they would probably disapprove of anything.my missus is great lets me get on with it, not a problem some weekends do two fishing matches...out at 6.30am back home at 9pmish she's usually had a chinese opened a bottle of wine sat watching a film.she prefers golf because i go with the two lads and get back earlier.....she's a gem everyone should have one (hands off)

 

[big_russ]

HID is great, she actively encourages me to go out and play. I cant wait until the child is a bit older and a better player so we can get out together more often. If i don't play on my day off she wants to know why not.
When we first got wed she would come out with me early mornings(4.30-5am) and walk the course with me but sadly she has never tried to get into the game. She was a great caddy though.

 

[vig]

HID is also one in a million. Actively encourages me to play. "it's good for you"
In all honesty I get out through the week while she is still at work so not really an issue.
I finish work at the times that suit me, when it suits me (perk of being the gaffer)
Weekends, at least one round every week.
If she wants to do something either alone or together then we do it. Compromise and understanding are the keys.
we have been engaged 24 years!!! don't ask, i've explained many many times before, just never got round to it.

 

[DCB]

My wife golfs, its her way of unwinding at times. We do play together occassionally but not often. Holidays are the main time we get the chance to play golf together. My daughter enjoys her golf as well.

When she was a toddler, she was giving me a hard time over something and didn't get the answer she wanted. I was cleaning my clubs and getting ready to go out and play in the afternoon (it was a saturday). After a stamping and shouting fit she retorted " you love your golf clubs more than you love me!"

Had to think about that one !

 

[USER1999]

Were they blades?

 

[DCB]

No I'm not allowed to play with sharp objects !