Declining a Wedding Invitation

[3offTheTee]

Had an invite to a wedding a very good friends son. We have not seen him for over 8 years’ and we declined the christening of his only child 5 years‘ago.

We do not want to go for the following reasons:
1. It is a round trip of 6 hours and not averse to an overnight stay, see below.
2 . It is on a Saturday which is a Comp Day. My Mrs does not really want to go although the father and mother of the groom are friends of us both.
3 . We will have been away to Scotland for 10 nights the month before.
4. We will have had a weekend away golfing the week before the wedding.

Need to think up a good excuse and consider sending a cheque.

Any thoughts on a good excuse and reasonable amount of cheque. I have a figure in mind.

 

[RichA]

Mrs A likes to decline invitations. I always tell her one good reason sounds a lot more honest than a list of fanciful ones. Not that I'm always right. Not that she always takes any notice.
We certainly get invited to fewer things than we used to.

 

[chellie]

Just simply decline.

 

[Ethan]

Just say that you are sorry that you won't be able to attend, but that you wish the happy couple all the best. Send a gift, if possible rather than a cheque, but with a gift receipt at a respectable store, Fortnum and Mason, John Lewis, Asda or Poundland according to the social standing of the couple.

 

[GreiginFife]

I like to decline in a manner that means I'll avoid being invited in future ?

 

[3offTheTee]

Cheers guys and gal. Yep just decline is preferable

 

[fundy]

I like to decline in a manner that means I'll avoid being invited in future ?

I did that with my brothers latest wedding hes just started talking to us again sadly

 

[Deleted member 21784]

No excuse needed

Sorry unable to attend

Send a card with a cheque if you wish ..

I did for my cousin's wedding when she got married in Italy. Much cheaper than the flights lol but we were expecting out first child at time

 

[Pants]

Just politely decline but do ask if there is a wedding gift list. Often couples will open a "gift account" at a large store and putting money into that would be far preferable (imo) than just sending a cheque.

 

[Lord Tyrion]

Just simply decline.

Agreed. The more drawn out the reasons the worse it looks. Keep it simple, less chance to complicate matters and upset people.

 

[The Dog.]

What a miserable bunch.

 

[Kellfire]

If you can’t decline honestly to friends then it’s a sad state of affairs.

 

[Tashyboy]

Sorry we cannot attend,we must catch up soon ?

 

[KenL]

Is this worthy of a thread?
Just say no!

 

[KenL]

Just politely decline but do ask if there is a wedding gift list. Often couples will open a "gift account" at a large store and putting money into that would be far preferable (imo) than just sending a cheque.

Why give them anything? I am not a fan of the expectation around weddings.

 

[Italian outcast]

Had an invite to a wedding a very good friends son. We have not seen him for over 8 years’ and we declined the christening of his only child 5 years‘ago.

We do not want to go for the following reasons:
1. It is a round trip of 6 hours and not averse to an overnight stay, see below.
2 . It is on a Saturday which is a Comp Day. My Mrs does not really want to go although the father and mother of the groom are friends of us both.
3 . We will have been away to Scotland for 10 nights the month before.
4. We will have had a weekend away golfing the week before the wedding.

Need to think up a good excuse and consider sending a cheque.

Any thoughts on a good excuse and reasonable amount of cheque. I have a figure in mind.

I'd be upfront and go with Number 2. You can suggest splitting your winnings as a gesture of goodwill

 

[Bazz]

Why give them anything? I am not a fan of the expectation around weddings.

The first time I was invited to a non Sikh wedding and there was little poem at the bottom asking for cash instead of gifts I was blown away. I couldn't believe what I was reading, just wasn't used to seeing something like that. I of course was going to take a gift but was just shocked to be asked for one.

 

[Tashyboy]

Bazzatron.
I think times have changed massively. In the olden days a gift was the norm. We got three pressure cookers for our wedding presents. Missis T even had a bottom drawer for things she was putting in the house. I think she started collecting before she met me.
Nowadays, many couples live together for years and have everything they already want in the house so a financial gift is now more the norm.
Me and Missis Have been invited to a wedding for next month and they have asked for brass to help towards there honeymoon.
New York and Mexico has now been changed to a week in Brighton.

 

[Jamesbrown]

Just decline. Your on holiday .

I overheard the date of my lasses sisters wedding before I was actually told or invited.
quickly arranged a trip to Amendoeira golf resort with a mate and when our lass showed me the invite unfortunately I had to bare some bad news. I’m not in the country.

It was a fantastically executed plan as it was planned that my lass would be on babysitting duties and the kid would be in the same room as us.

Now I was accused of doing it on purpose to get out of going but that couldn’t be the case as it was the first I’d heard of it.

 

[Doon frae Troon]

Sorry it clashes with the date I fixed for turning over my compost heaps.