A sign of the times?

[SatchFan]

I hired a big skip a few weeks ago and while my wife was in the middle of it packing the rubbish neatly a white van drew up and stopped. The driver wound down his window and told her she was far too good looking to be thrown away. It made her day.

 

[garyinderry]

If we have learnt anything from American tv shows its that you can walk up to a girl anywhere and ask her out. Straight up.

How successful you will be depends on how attractive she finds you. If she doesn't like what she sees, you are immediately branded a creep.

Most decent men in the UK don't attempt this for fear of being branded. Actual creeps who don't know no means no, ruin it for everyone.

Most men wait until both parties are suitably oiled before taking the plunge and going in for the make or break move.

These days most don't even risk rejection. It's much simpler to swipe left or right. Lol

 

[Beezerk]

The blokes ive known who wolf whistle women were generally nobs, and they called their missus "babe".
#yuk

 

[Liverbirdie]

If we have learnt anything from American tv shows its that you can walk up to a girl anywhere and ask her out. Straight up.

How successful you will be depends on how attractive she finds you. If she doesn't like what she sees, you are immediately branded a creep.

Most decent men in the UK don't attempt this for fear of being branded. Actual creeps who don't know no means no, ruin it for everyone.

Most men wait until both parties are suitably oiled before taking the plunge and going in for the make or break move.

These days most don't even risk rejection. It's much simpler to swipe left or right. Lol

Or take their tops off after 15 pints in the John Lennon bar - how you thought that would be attractive I'll never know.

 

[garyinderry]

Last year I was walking across a street and two young girls where standing not too far away.

A wolf whistle sounded and I walked on and it was quickly followed by another. A little embarrassed I looked over to acknowledge that yes I am an attractive fellow and to give a pleasant nod only to find that the two girls weren't in the least bit interested in my presence but my admirer had been a parrot that was sitting in a cage outside a house next door to the girls.

Felt like a right knob.

 

[HowlingGale]

But how are you going to know?

You don't. You use Tindr just like every other singleton/ married person looking to hook up.

Or start a conversation about the weather.

Or talk about golf.

But if the first words out yer gub are 'that's a nice dress' then it probably won't be received the way you intended.

 

[HowlingGale]

If we have learnt anything from American tv shows its that you can walk up to a girl anywhere and ask her out. Straight up.

How successful you will be depends on how attractive she finds you. If she doesn't like what she sees, you are immediately branded a creep.

Most decent men in the UK don't attempt this for fear of being branded. Actual creeps who don't know no means no, ruin it for everyone.

Most men wait until both parties are suitably oiled before taking the plunge and going in for the make or break move.

These days most don't even risk rejection. It's much simpler to swipe left or right. Lol

Didn't read this before I posted. Will try and not steal your thunder again.

 

[williamalex1]

Didn't read this before I posted. Will try and not steal your thunder again.

Ah! HowlingGale, so you do thunder too , BTW less of the ageist remarks please .

No more nice swing compliments for you FD , sorry Karen I couldn't resist :smirk:

 

[ColchesterFC]

The blokes ive known who wolf whistle women were generally nobs, and they called their missus "babe".
#yuk

I used to call the ex Mrs Colch "Babe" but it wasn't an attempt at affection. It was after the film of the same name.

 

[Beezerk]

I used to call the ex Mrs Colch "Babe" but it wasn't an attempt at affection. It was after the film of the same name.

Nasty man

 

[williamalex1]

I used to call the ex Mrs Colch "Babe" but it wasn't an attempt at affection. It was after the film of the same name.

I wonder what your ex thought the FC in your forum name meant :rofl:

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

But if the first words out yer gub are 'that's a nice dress' then it probably won't be received the way you intended.

Depends how you say it.

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

Do I need to practice my wolf whistle for Sunday week………

I'm pretty sure that if you whistled at Louise she would take it in the manner you intended. She might even whistle back

 

[HowlingGale]

Ah! HowlingGale, so you do thunder too , BTW less of the ageist remarks please .

No more nice swing compliments for you FD , sorry Karen I couldn't resist :smirk:

😀 I've been a creep for years. Sorry was implicating those over 30 with that statement.

Just as an aside there are different rules depending who's doing what though. I remember on a works night out one of the office girls almost lost a finger up my bahookie. Then on our xmas night out at the same venue I was just about stripped to the waist. It was 'just a bit of fun'. Wonder what would have happened if the roles were reversed.

 

[louise_a]

I once hit on a woman I didnt know by telling her she looked great, we have now been married 45 years, just how do men chat up a woman these days???
ANd on the subject of sexual harassment, I used to work for IBM fixing Punches and verifiers (the 70s!) some places had hundreds of these things all worked by women most of which were divorced just walking in some places was scary. One day I squatted down behind a machine and my trousers split, how on earth anybody heard with all the racket the machines made I have no idea but I know what happened next..

But where did you tell your now wife that, in a pub or club where it might be considered chatting up, or randomly in the street where it might be considered scary?

 

[Farmergeddon]

But where did you tell your now wife that, in a pub or club where it might be considered chatting up, or randomly in the street where it might be considered scary?

It was in the laundrette actually...

 

[Slab]

I may have picked this up wrong due to skimming through the posts but no one’s seriously advocating that its acceptable to approach a women at a bus stop and say ‘you look nice' or 'that's a nice coat/bag/shoes’ as their opening line to start a conversation!


TAXI!


Oh and no way the women should be expected to say 'thank you' in reply

 

[bluewolf]

So, I'm not really sure what the lesson is here..
It would appear to be that it's not Ok to compliment a Lady unless you're good looking and happy to be rejected..

Or is it that the future of dating is online?

Or is it that there is a time and place for these sort of advances and the street is not one of them (The Impulse adverts have been lying to me for years).

Or is it that both sexes are going to have to adjust their views slightly to avoid any sort of unfortunate mix up in future..

I know one thing though. A wolf whistle is most definitely not a compliment.. It can be taken as one if the recipient is of a mind to do so, but at best it's naive. At it's worst it's lecherous and intimidating..

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

So, I'm not really sure what the lesson is here..
It would appear to be that it's not Ok to compliment a Lady unless you're good looking and happy to be rejected..

Or is it that the future of dating is online?

Or is it that there is a time and place for these sort of advances and the street is not one of them (The Impulse adverts have been lying to me for years).

Or is it that both sexes are going to have to adjust their views slightly to avoid any sort of unfortunate mix up in future..

I know one thing though. A wolf whistle is most definitely not a compliment.. It can be taken as one if the recipient is of a mind to do so, but at best it's naive. At it's worst it's lecherous and intimidating..

Pretty much correct Danny although I suspect even online dating is still dodgy as IP addresses can be traced and reported.

Looks like the human race is about to die out as people prefer not to have any contact with each other anymore in case someone gets offended

 

[stokie_93]

I may have picked this up wrong due to skimming through the posts but no one’s seriously advocating that its acceptable to approach a women at a bus stop and say ‘you look nice' or 'that's a nice coat/bag/shoes’ as their opening line to start a conversation!

If you have my good look and charm it's easy