A sign of the times?

[Doon frae Troon]

I once said to my secretary that she looked very nice this morning.

'Do I not look very nice on other mornings then ?' she replied with a little smile.

 

[FairwayDodger]

The answer to this stems from your answer to the following question:

"what would you do/think if she completely blanked you, or told you to go away?"

It's not even that. Women know that ignoring such behaviour or asking to be left alone often provokes an abusive response. You have no right to impose yourself on a stranger in this manner.

 

[Liverbirdie]

What I do hate is the seemingly one way street, that this mainly seems to be accused of i.e. blerks on women.

I was once at a black tie dinner do for the marine industry, and as is normal our Scottish brethren had the full gear on (kilt, socks etc). Two of our customers who come down were dressed like this, both about 18-19 years of age. We went to a late bar, with lots of 30-50 year old women in. Every 5 minutes their kilts were being lifted, their bums fondled etc.

Its not a 1 way street.

 

[CheltenhamHacker]

It's not even that. Women know that ignoring such behaviour or asking to be left alone often provokes an abusive response. You have no right to impose yourself on a stranger in this manner.

That's what I was going to get at FD, that it was imposing yourself on them. Completely agree with you

 

[SocketRocket]

Waste of time reporting it to police but seriously a woman should be able to walk along the street in 2016 without a gang of builders whistling at her, 1970s behaviour that should stay there imho. It's mildly intimidating (to some women) group behaviour, doubt just one builder would whistle without an audience, more likely done for male group entertainment but it isn't appropriate particularly when aimed at a total stranger. Ask yourself if you would do it, I wouldn't.

Come on, get a life, It's hardly a 'Hate Crime; is it! I sometimes wonder how on earth we have managed to create so many thin skinned luvvies in this country.

 

[FairwayDodger]

What I do hate is the seemingly one way street, that this mainly seems to be accused of i.e. blerks on women.

I was once at a black tie dinner do for the marine industry, and as is normal our Scottish brethren had the full gear on (kilt, socks etc). Two of our customers who come down were dressed like this, both about 18-19 years of age. We went to a late bar, with lots of 30-50 year old women in. Every 5 minutes their kilts were being lifted, their bums fondled etc.

Its not a 1 way street.

Agreed Peter and I'm not condoning that but while you may have experienced it a handful of times in your life for many women it is a regular occurrence.

 

[Pin-seeker]

Agreed Peter and I'm not condoning that but while you may have experienced it a handful of times in your life for many women it is a regular occurrence.

He may have only witnessed it a handful of times,but for some men it will also be a regular occurrence.

You get a group of women out on the lash & they're definitely worse than men.

Hen party's in Blackpool are ruthless 😬

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

What I do hate is the seemingly one way street, that this mainly seems to be accused of i.e. blerks on women.

I was once at a black tie dinner do for the marine industry, and as is normal our Scottish brethren had the full gear on (kilt, socks etc). Two of our customers who come down were dressed like this, both about 18-19 years of age. We went to a late bar, with lots of 30-50 year old women in. Every 5 minutes their kilts were being lifted, their bums fondled etc.

Its not a 1 way street.

I actually had exactly this happen to me at a function. I was wearing a kilt and several women groped me including one who managed to grab hold of lil Gordy and I ended up with quite a painful bruise and a cut from her wedding ring on my manhood. If I had done that to a woman I'm sure I would have been arrested. Call me cynical but if I had called the police I somehow don't think they would have arrested her. Obviously I didn't call the police, I just put it down to a bit of harmless fun as nobody intended to hurt, injure or threaten anyone.

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

By saying she looks nice today, you are implying that she didn't yesterday. You don't know her, so how do you know she looked like a dog yesterday, and doesn't just look great every day?

Unless you are a stalker, or clairvoyant.

If that was the case I would tell her she looks very nice tomorrow.

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

You have no right to impose yourself on a stranger in this manner.

I pity any person that tries to pay you a compliment then if that is your reaction. Whatever happened to being nice and trying to make someone feel good?

 

[Alex1975]

The answer to this stems from your answer to the following question:

"what would you do/think if she completely blanked you, or told you to go away?"

Go red and move on..... dunno really, it's never happened.

 

[Liverbirdie]

Agreed Peter and I'm not condoning that but while you may have experienced it a handful of times in your life for many women it is a regular occurrence.

I dont doubt it Karen, probably even 90/10% in the past, but as the generations have gone on that ratio is changing IMHO

Its not just a blerk thing, its more a divvy thing. :thup:

 

[FairwayDodger]

I pity any person that tries to pay you a compliment then if that is your reaction. Whatever happened to being nice and trying to make someone feel good?

It's not being nice when a complete stranger propositions you in the street. Happened to me this week and I was terrified.

 

[Alex1975]

It's not being nice when a complete stranger propositions you in the street. Happened to me this week and I was terrified.

Is it not a thing where it depends how it goes down? How the guy is presented and how he approaches, body language, if he's attractive to you and who you are as a person?

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

It's not being nice when a complete stranger propositions you in the street. Happened to me this week and I was terrified.

Did you smile and say thank you before walking away or did you say 'Do one you knob'? His reaction will largely be determined by your reaction.

 

[Big D 88]

This reminds me a lot of Loose Women...

They oggle over men all the time yet at least once a month they have a debate about men being perverted.

I have to believe thats its probably close to 50/50 split in terms of men and women acting untoward against the opposite sex these days.

Only last week an older women said to my mate, 'if i was 20 years younger?!'

If a man says that to a women he's a predator

 

[FairwayDodger]

Is it not a thing where it depends how it goes down? How the guy is presented and how he approaches, body language, if he's attractive to you and who you are as a person?

The context is important, you are correct. How attractive you may consider yourself is not. Your example involved going up to a complete stranger at a bus stop and commenting on her appearance. That's just never ok in my opinion. You're just some random ******** that's decided to pester her.

Women are a diverse bunch but I promise you very few, if any, are happy to be hit on by random strangers on the street or on public transport.

 

[Doon frae Troon]

Well............7 year old grandchild lost her first tooth.
I asked her what the going rate for the Tooth Fairy was nowadays.

According to her it is £200......nae flies on that one.

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

The context is important, you are correct. How attractive you may consider yourself is not. Your example involved going up to a complete stranger at a bus stop and commenting on her appearance. That's just never ok in my opinion. You're just some random ******** that's decided to pester her.

Women are a diverse bunch but I promise you very few, if any, are happy to be hit on by random strangers on the street or on public transport.

I'm sorry but I fail to see how passing a nice comment such as 'I really like your coat/shoes/dress' or whatever to someone whilst waiting at a bus stop is pestering someone. I would call it passing the time of day until the bus turns up.

 

[FairwayDodger]

Did you smile and say thank you before walking away or did you say 'Do one you knob'? His reaction will largely be determined by your reaction.

Yeah exactly, if I'd told him to "do one" I'd likely have got a mouthful of abuse or worse.