A sign of the times?

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drive4show said:
Oh OK. Is it acceptable (in your world) for me to approach a strange woman and politely tell her she looks very nice today?
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Actually no, I would say that it isn't. Why do you think it would be ok to do that?

Edit to add: unless you do this to any person, regardless of sex/gender, in which case it is more acceptable. If you're choosing women specifically, then I would say it isn't ok.
 
CheltenhamHacker said:
Actually no, I would say that it isn't. Why do you think it would be ok to do that?

Edit to add: unless you do this to any person, regardless of sex/gender, in which case it is more acceptable. If you're choosing women specifically, then I would say it isn't ok.
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Maybe because it would make her feel good about herself?
 
drive4show said:
I'm also confused as to why you consider a compliment to be condescending?
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Because you're judging her on the basis of her looks. And most of the time, a wolfwhistle is expected to be received gratefully, as if they should be thankful the builders took time out of their day to bestow it on the lucky email
 
drive4show said:
Maybe because it would make her feel good about herself?
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How many guys have you said look good, to make them feel good about themselves?

What if it wouldn't make her feel good? What if in fact, a strange man coming up to her, unwanted, would actually make her feel vulnerable? What if she doesn't want to be judged purely on her looks?

What about those days she doesn't get someone saying "you look good", should she feel bad about herself?
 
CheltenhamHacker said:
Because you're judging her on the basis of her looks. And most of the time, a wolfwhistle is expected to be received gratefully, as if they should be thankful the builders took time out of their day to bestow it on the lucky email
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So you have a problem with people paying compliments? I got my haircut at the weekend, a girl in the office that I don't really know very well but had reason to talk to in a work capacity on Monday said my hair looked nice. Should I report her to HR for harassment?
 
drive4show said:
So you have a problem with people paying compliments? I got my haircut at the weekend, a girl in the office that I don't really know very well but had reason to talk to in a work capacity on Monday said my hair looked nice. Should I report her to HR for harassment?
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Nope, no problem with compliments. Completely different situation as a) you know her, and b) she knew you had your hair cut and reflected on this. I imagine she'd also tell other women and other men that.

You try going around your office, go up to only the women (not caring whether they're busy or not) and tell them they look good. Personally, I couldn't see that going on too long without getting a reputation!

Completely different to going up to a strange person you know nothing about, and telling them they look good.

Edit: If I may ask, how would you expect "strange woman" who you just told looked good, to react?
 
CheltenhamHacker said:
How would you expect "strange woman" who you just told looked good, to react, btw?
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I would expect her to feel intimidated and scared. Hopefully she would run away to find the nearest policeman to report me. Then I would be locked up and hidden away from this sad, sterile world that is devoid of personality.
 
What I will add to this is why do people put up a pic every 5 mins with a pout on social media fishing for compliments?
If someone comments they look nice (public profile) does this count as sexual harassment then?
 
shewy said:
What I will add to this is why do people put up a pic every 5 mins with a pout on social media fishing for compliments?
If someone comments they look nice (public profile) does this count as sexual harassment then?
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You look lovely in your avatar. Very horny though.
 
drive4show said:
Oh OK. Is it acceptable (in your world) for me to approach a strange woman and politely tell her she looks very nice today?
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By saying she looks nice today, you are implying that she didn't yesterday. You don't know her, so how do you know she looked like a dog yesterday, and doesn't just look great every day?

Unless you are a stalker, or clairvoyant.
 
If you can`t go up to nice looking women in a pub/club etc and compliment them on their looks/hair/butt/legs etc, how do you expect to get your leg over at the end of the night?
Unless you`re "taking one for the team" and going for the munter first!
It`s the end of the human race people........We`re All DOOOOOOMED!
 
So whats the deal if your single and you see a nice girl at the bus stop and tell her she looks nice? Is that a no no too?
 
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