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Well we had something new this week at ours. Luckily it doesn't effect me but here goes. Saturday we play early, a clique goes out after us. We were in the bar, the other gang were in there also arranging their fiddle when one of the committe comes into the bar with a man and woman. This is Bert and Gert (or names to that effect) and they are going to play with you from now on, to the other group. Awkward thinks I. Now I am a dinosaur, an old fuddy duddy and definately a man. Should a golfing couple just expect to play in a fiddle full of men. I think not, the lady surely belongs in the ladies section. Is it me who is off side? What do you think?
 
Cliques are ugly things, anything that opens one up is fine with me, and any lady, girl or female who can hold her position on the course is welcome. Not enough good women golfers, the only way for numbers to increase is to minimise restrictons.:fore:
 
What a sad post.


Golf doesn't need disrespectful old fuddy duddy Neanderthal dinosaurs.


And no, admitting to your faults does not make them right.


Bert and Gert (or names to that effect)???? Old fashioned people show more respect than that!


Was it lucky it was not your group? Or does the committee member know who the real clique is?


'off side' and need to have a serious look at yourself in my opinion.
 
The only complication at my old club would have been that the ladies play off a totally different card. Some par 4s are classed as par 5s for the women and the stroke index is totally different. Other than that I would have no issue aside from having the club tell me who is playing in my group. Being a new member of a new club I am in the position of looking for rounds and am grateful for every offer and I would always appreciate club officials helping and asking groups if I can plan but I would be massively embarassed if I was forced onto another group.
 
Every club has a ladies day. I've never heard of any club having a gentlemans day although by defacto it is or should be Saturday.

Clubs that have a ladies day generally have it midweek. And by ladies "day" they generally mean ladies hour and a half.

In the interests of fairness lets reserve the tee for an hour and a half wednesday morning and call it gentlemens day.

Or lets accept we live in the 21st century and treat men and women equally. (OK so that idea's still a bit ahead of its time)
 
A lot of our roll ups are very cliquey. When I wanted to start getting a regular Saturday morning game the gang that go out in front of the group I now played in made it very clear that they didn't really want anyone else gate-crashing their little group.

I don't think it would happen but to be honest I've not really too much of a problem. Even the issue of the ladiesplaying a different card isn't an issue as surely 36 points is the same in any language and so if she shoots that against her cards that compares to us playing against ours. A lot of our roll up is to do with the company and the fun and to be honest the scores are at times a little academic and so as long as the lady was prepared to give and take a bit of banter then why not.
 
Clubs that have a ladies day generally have it midweek. And by ladies "day" they generally mean ladies hour and a half.

In the interests of fairness lets reserve the tee for an hour and a half wednesday morning and call it gentlemens day.

Or lets accept we live in the 21st century and treat men and women equally. (OK so that idea's still a bit ahead of its time)
we could burn our sports bras...;)
 
Some of the most enjoyable rounds I have ever played were when I was paired with women golfers who up to then I did not know. Not only did it change my attitude to the way golf is played, it also helped me to control my temper better. I found that I did not spend my time worrying about my game compared to the "lads" and I played some of my best ever golf.

Bit of advertisement for the Gentlemen Only Ladies Forbidden brigade that one....
 
Our chuck-in comps (I assume that's what a swindle is) are open to anybody on the day and are scored Stableford so it doesn't matter when there are differences in index or even par on holes.

I thought the objective of a swindle was a bit of a competition but nothing too serious?
 
Heidi; said:
do you just unzip on the tee box? ;)

Might of had the bravado to do so as a younger man ;) but certainly not these days :o...

Golfed on many occassions with ladies as part of my group... But these days my bladder is not up to lasting longer than half a dozen holes... I am sure if I was lucky enough to join up with some ladies on the course I'd find a way around my 'problem'...

Just about the etiquette... Believe it or not I still give up my seat on public transport to ladies and walk on the roadside of the pavement when passing ladies when out walking... Was brought up proper me!
 
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Just got this image of you giving up your seat on the bus to a busty,shaven headed, tatooed young lady.
I think most of us were brought up properly but you do have to move with the times and treat different occasions differently. I would not dare to patronise a young girl by giving up my bus/train seat.
 
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