what would you do?

Is he a decent lad? If so then roll with it. If not....................
Likewise if he was that decent lad he would have said "Ive been offered a caddying job, and dont think I will make our match. I will concede it to save problems"

Thats what I would have done, and have done when life and work get in the way of golf.
 
Personally, I think I would rather play the match. If I had a match booked for 4pm, my night would be planned as 'golf' and whether I won 10&8 and was back in the bar by 5.30-6pm, or if we were playing extra holes until the sun went down, it wouldn't matter to me. If there is really no reason why you can't wait for him, like you don't have to be home by a certain time for something wife or kid related, then I don't see what the huge problem is. He's a young guy looking to earn a bit of cash, and has let you know well in advance. It's not as if he's sent you an e-mail whilst you're stood on the first tee like the guy the other day.

I'd just reply see what happens and if he isn't there by the time the tee is clear again then get in touch and I'm sure he'd concede the match. May be worth e-mailing him your mobile number?
 
Likewise if he was that decent lad he would have said "Ive been offered a caddying job, and dont think I will make our match. I will concede it to save problems"

Thats what I would have done, and have done when life and work get in the way of golf.

Fair point but he is 19. Still a young lad.
 
But an adult:)
I dont argue that earning that bit extra is good, but he still has to learn and understand commmitment to appointments made
They used to call it respect.:)

Times have changed. He’s been respectful and contacted him.

Not everything has has to be black or white.

Thats called compromise :)
 
Times have changed. He’s been respectful and contacted him.

Not everything has has to be black or white.

Thats called compromise :)

But this is black and white. The lad has made a commitment and is now expecting someone else to hang around waiting for him. That is disrespectful end of.
 
But this is black and white. The lad has made a commitment and is now expecting someone else to hang around waiting for him. That is disrespectful end of.

From what I read, he isn’t expecting him too. He’s asked him if he can.

If the op wants to take the match he can do.
 
Personally I'd like to play especially if the light allows but on the other hand I do think he's out of order then taking the caddying job. I do think people need to learn to prioritise. He'll need to do so in the working world. That said, see what happens, what time he arrives and decide.
 
Personally I'd like to play especially if the light allows but on the other hand I do think he's out of order then taking the caddying job. I do think people need to learn to prioritise. He'll need to do so in the working world. That said, see what happens, what time he arrives and decide.

He’s potentially missing the golf to work. Imo he’s been mature in putting his earnings over his hobby. It’s ok for some that are maybe able to put their priorities the other way round, but I’ve got a lot of respect for a youngster trying to work.
 
I'd be at the 1st tee at 4pm, and if he doesn't turn up by the time the next group are due to tee off I'd be claiming the match. He doesn't know if you've arranged to take the wife out at 7:30-8:00pm, he's just assumed you will accommodate him. He doesn't know if you've sorted your day around being at the club for 3:30pm, not 4:30pm.

I'm not sure what his age has to do with it. Its a members comp with the same rules for everyone, not special rules for 19 yr olds.

And the fact you're bumping your gums about it instead of focusing on your game is to his advantage.
 
I'd be at the 1st tee at 4pm, and if he doesn't turn up by the time the next group are due to tee off I'd be claiming the match. He doesn't know if you've arranged to take the wife out at 7:30-8:00pm, he's just assumed you will accommodate him. He doesn't know if you've sorted your day around being at the club for 3:30pm, not 4:30pm.

I'm not sure what his age has to do with it. Its a members comp with the same rules for everyone, not special rules for 19 yr olds.

And the fact you're bumping your gums about it instead of focusing on your game is to his advantage.
I agree with this he should learn a lesson from it.
But you have an arranged match , and planned your day around it.
He has made a choice to earn some money and needs to learn you can’t have your cake and eat it.
Not everyone in the world will accommodate you just because you are 19.
However if you want to play you have the final choice, I don’t like claiming games and would rather play if I can, but that’s not always possible!

This happened to me once but I was in work at 10pm so I could not wait , when I explained this he conceded.
 
He can chase you down after you go off at bang on 4 and start down however many holes he has missed by the time he catches up :D

Bit of cardio won't do any harm
 
We did indeed play. He was 10 mins late to the tee, but give him credit he had got someone to put his bag in the starters hut and walked off the 18th green got is fee, straight into the starters and took his caddy tabard off and on we went. He Apologized for the inconvenience and chivied the 4 he caddied for around in a reasonable time under 4 hours, which is to be applauded in itself.

The group out after us was there early so let them go and we were straight out after them, in theory i was allowed to start 1 up as its a penalty of 1 shot for every 10 min late they are, but chose not to enforce it.

Nice lad and very fit, carried his own bag after carrying one for 4 hours before the game too.

quite a god game, all square after two (scratch game, so no shots and he is off 2) but then i found a bunker off the tee on the next 6 holes so with him making birdie on two of those found myself 6 down after 8..

I then had a bit of a resurgence and birdied 9, eagled 10, then birdied 11 and 12 while he found a couple of bunkers off the tee to get back to 2 down with 5 to play, he then was very steady and we halved the next 4, with birdies on 15 and 16 each thrown in. he was just too good for me in the end. Glad we played and its nice to test yourself against better players in this format, doubt i would have got any further even if i had won as the next game would have been against a +3
 
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