Weddings...paying for them

[Fromtherough]

We paid for the majority of our own wedding. And rightly so, despite my father-in-law offering to stump up the whole amount. We’d lived together for 4-5 years before the big day so weren’t in need of anything. My Mam and Dad paid for the wedding cars and transport from the church to the venue for all in attendance and my in-laws paid for the wedding dress and groomsmen suits. Both voluntarily, but both gratefully received. When we were planning ours, the thing that got me was that the word ‘wedding’ seemed to attract a 30% (at least) premium on whatever it was we were ordering. Robbing, money-grabbing sanctioning sanctions.

My daughter is only 10. When the time comes I’d hope the money we’re saving for her was used for uni and perhaps a deposit on a house rather than a party for all her friends and family.

 

[3offTheTee]

Nobody has mentioned “THE Hen and Stag do” well it used to be do but now there seems many.

It used to be out one night in town, few beers, local club.

How times have changed! I feel sorry for some of the people who feel obliged to go to Ibiza for a week!

 

[Tashyboy]

Your former son in law sounds like a bell whiff.

i could fill a page of random irritations. ? and get Fraggered for it

 

[Tashyboy]

Nobody has mentioned “THE Hen and Stag do” well it used to be do but now there seems many.

It used to be out one night in town, few beers, local club.

How times have changed! I feel sorry for some of the people who feel obliged to go to Ibiza for a week!

I went to the pink coconut nightclub in Derby. Missis T went to the same place the night after ?

 

[Dando]

I went to the pink coconut nightclub in Derby. Missis T went to the same place the night after ?

the pink coconut sounds like a bar from the police academy films

 

[Tashyboy]

the pink coconut sounds like a bar from the police academy films

It was classy, It had a cheese plant in the foyer. ??

 

[Dando]

It was classy, It had a cheese plant in the foyer. ??

cheddar or Edam?

 

[Tashyboy]

cheddar or Edam?

dairylea ?

 

[Voyager EMH]

We got married 25 years after buying our first house. We walked to the registry office and walked home again. Don't remember it costing much.
We call that a traditional wedding. We took it seriously, having given it lots of thought.

On the day of a wedding, the spending of lots of money has little to do with actually getting married, it is mostly just self-indulgence.
Those who want to be self-indulgent are entitled to be so - their choice. Whether they pay or get someone else to pay is up to them.

 

[Blue in Munich]

I went to the pink coconut nightclub in Derby. Missis T went to the same place the night after ?

To apologise?

 

[Jamesbrown]

I’m aware my possible future in-laws have 5k to give to my missus for her wedding like they did her sister. I doubt they’ll give her the money as it’ll basically pay for a holiday to Barbados with a beach wedding add on costing $300.

 

[Tashyboy]

To apologise?

???????

 

[Oddsocks]

Nobody has mentioned “THE Hen and Stag do” well it used to be do but now there seems many.

It used to be out one night in town, few beers, local club.

How times have changed! I feel sorry for some of the people who feel obliged to go to Ibiza for a week!

No comment.

 

[clubchamp98]

Nobody has mentioned “THE Hen and Stag do” well it used to be do but now there seems many.

It used to be out one night in town, few beers, local club.

How times have changed! I feel sorry for some of the people who feel obliged to go to Ibiza for a week!

My mates son had a stag do in Barcelona for a week.
I just didn’t go.

 

[Deleted member 30522]

Do you still consider it the brides fathers job to pay for the daughters wedding completely, or do you consider in these more modern times the costs should be shared some?

No, but I did anyway. Or at least the whole reception, daughter paid for dress, photographer etc.

Ironic cos we paid everything for our own wedding. What a waste of money that was

 

[backwoodsman]

I'm sure I once read a statistic showing that the duration of the marriage is inversely proportional to the cost of the wedding. So have never understood why folk blow a fortune on a wedding.

(Ours cost £87 including the cost of the rings and the marriage licence).

 

[Mandofred]

Registry office for me. I've never understood why you would blow tons of money on a wedding. But my wife thinks I'm nuts for walking around in a field hitting a ball with a stick.

 

[Voyager EMH]

I'm sure I once read a statistic showing that the duration of the marriage is inversely proportional to the cost of the wedding. So have never understood why folk blow a fortune on a wedding.

(Ours cost £87 including the cost of the rings and the marriage licence).

I think ours was a bit less, because we didn't bother with rings.

 

[patricks148]

When I married the current Mrs 148, I paid for everything. Didn't really have any other options as by then my FIL had died.

 

[SyR]

My FiL offered to pay for our wedding but on his terms. He was working on the opposite side of the world at the time, so wanted to have the wedding there. We decided to keep control and fund the wedding ourselves so more of our family and friends could attend. We did everything on a budget, my wife even made her wedding dress and prepared the flowers for the church & reception. It was a more personal wedding than others weddings we have been to since and the only nightmare was our wedding photographer who was a friend of a friend who took great photos but messed us around for a few years when it came to editing and printing the photos. Eventually he sent us the unedited photos and refunded us the money we had paid for the editing & printing.
As we were a young couple, and had only just moved in together, then we mentioned the need for vouchers if anyone was struggle for gift ideas.
We actually turned a small profit as the vouchers/cash given outweighed what we had spent on the day.
For my daughter and son, we hope to have saved enough money to give them both a lump sum to spend on a property, wedding etc when they grow up.