Weddings...paying for them

[Bdill93]

I got married 4 years ago

Me and my wife paid about 60% of the total costs - essentially all the food, drink and rental costs of the venue
Her family 25% (dress, bridesmaids dresses, flowers, favors and invites - as they were sent from them)
My family about 15% (cake, photographer, musicians)

We would have waited another year or so and saved longer if we needed to, didn't ask for the help but the parents insisted. I see it as the couples thing to pay in 2022. My decision to drop on one knee shouldn't cost my FIL 25k

We payed for our own honeymoon too - but guests gave cash to help - think we had around 3k total in gifts - Honeymoon was about 7k?

 

[Tashyboy]

My mates son had a stag do in Barcelona for a week.
I just didn’t go.

A Pp pal of mine was in Barcelona a week or so ago planning his partners daughters wedding For next year. It is actually in Sitges which has a large LGBT community. He was making me chuckle when he said he was shocked. He expected a seaside Spanish town and saw a totally different community. I told him it is 2022.

 

[clubchamp98]

A Pp pal of mine was in Barcelona a week or so ago planning his partners daughters wedding For next year. It is actually in Sitges which has a large LGBT community. He was making me chuckle when he said he was shocked. He expected a seaside Spanish town and saw a totally different community. I told him it is 2022.

Only disappointment for me was the older lads went to play PGA Cataluna

 

[Robster59]

My daughter got married a couple of years ago and didn't expect anything from us. In her words, "this isn't the middle ages".
We did contribute money towards it but effectively they covered the budget themselves.

 

[Tashyboy]

Only disappointment for me was the older lads went to play PGA Cataluna

???

 

[howbow88]

Nobody has mentioned “THE Hen and Stag do” well it used to be do but now there seems many.

It used to be out one night in town, few beers, local club.

How times have changed! I feel sorry for some of the people who feel obliged to go to Ibiza for a week!

Like weddings, clever people in the marketing world have made young people feel like if they don't do some grand (very expensive) event, then they are failing at life.

I'll never understand why people spend over £10k on a wedding. There are so many better things to do with that sort of cash.

 

[Orikoru]

When we got married both our sets of parents chipped in a fair amount and paid for certain things and we paid for the rest ourselves from savings. I can't remember the amounts in all honesty as my wife handled most of it. I didn't want to spend as much as we did, as others have probably said I'd have rather spent money on home improvements and whatnot - but that's kind of a bloke mentality as the ladies tend to value the big day more. And having said that, our wedding day was excellent. Just expensive.

 

[GB72]

Both sets of parents paid a fair amount towards our wedding but 20 years ago it really was not as expensive as it is now (event, venue and desitination weddings barely existed and if you did get married abroad, you did it with a small number). That said, we expected the parents to pay a chunk as they all had their list of people that they wanted on the guest list. Again, quite traditional at the time that parents had a say on what family etc they wanted at the event.

 

[PJ87]

I got married 4 years ago

Me and my wife paid about 60% of the total costs - essentially all the food, drink and rental costs of the venue
Her family 25% (dress, bridesmaids dresses, flowers, favors and invites - as they were sent from them)
My family about 15% (cake, photographer, musicians)

We would have waited another year or so and saved longer if we needed to, didn't ask for the help but the parents insisted. I see it as the couples thing to pay in 2022. My decision to drop on one knee shouldn't cost my FIL 25k

We payed for our own honeymoon too - but guests gave cash to help - think we had around 3k total in gifts - Honeymoon was about 7k?

I think it's why they have to ask the dad's permission.. pfft your not worth my time let alone the money ?

 

[KenL]

When we got married both our sets of parents chipped in a fair amount and paid for certain things and we paid for the rest ourselves from savings. I can't remember the amounts in all honesty as my wife handled most of it. I didn't want to spend as much as we did, as others have probably said I'd have rather spent money on home improvements and whatnot - but that's kind of a bloke mentality as the ladies tend to value the big day more. And having said that, our wedding day was excellent. Just expensive.

Excellent, but was it as good fun as playing the Old Course or a piss up with your mates? ?

 

[Orikoru]

Excellent, but was it as good fun as playing the Old Course or a piss up with your mates? ?

It effectively was a piss up with our mates.

 

[KenL]

It effectively was a piss up with our mates.

Which you paid for.?