Weddings...paying for them

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Do you still consider it the brides fathers job to pay for the daughters wedding completely, or do you consider in these more modern times the costs should be shared some?
 
Do you still consider it the brides fathers job to pay for the daughters wedding completely, or do you consider in these more modern times the costs should be shared some?

Very old fashioned

Equality goes both ways

We live in a world of double barreled surnames and wife's earning more than their husbands I think weddings should now be split

Maybe I'm biased because I've got 3 girls lol
 
Ask Fragger...he's had 2 this year:LOL:

Don’t I know it
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Between myself and my ex wife we agreed a wedding budget for each of our girls and then we agreed how much each would pay, all as part of the divorce settlement.

Between us, we paid for all of it, put dosh aside, so didn’t feel as if we were having to dig deep.

1 wedding was in a castle on the banks of Lake Como in Italy,

The other was a more normal affair in a country hotel wedding venue near Tring.

Both had the same budget, it was up to the couples how much they spent and how much they had left to spend on honeymoon / houses etc.

I acknowledge that we were in a very very fortunate position to be able to do this.

But they were both fantastic days ❤️
 
Nope, the couple getting married should pay for it, the wedding game is a massive ripoff now, £2000 cakes, £3000 dresses plus ridiculous extras… Went to two this year, first one in the NE had a full video arcade for the evening, and the amount of food wasted from the evening buffet was scandalous.

Parents should contribute if they can. My parents paid for the free bar at ours because they could, my in-laws was not able to help, no problem at all.

The idea that you expect someone else to pay for your extravaganza is just wrong.
 
Weddings are now a massive business. The price of things can be extortionate. It just seems in some cases the actual getting married itself is secondary to everything else that goes off. A good pals partner has just had a big fall out in the sense of she is contributing a fair amount but has no input. It seems a
Case of this is what we are doing for the day. This is how much it will cost, this is how much we would like you to pay. Here’s your seat.

For me, Sharing is caring. Split it.

Daughter got married to her now ex husband. His second wedding. His parents never even bought me or missis T a Drink. When we were paying for welcome drinks, we bought Prosecco. Ex son in law said
“ we go to France, we drink Champange”. I bought a bottle of Moët for his Mum
And Dad. His dad said on the day “ thanks for the champagne but I cannot stand the stuff”. His wife drank the lot.
 
Had my sons wedding meal and night time in my golf club. ( their choice)
Everyone commented it was one of the best they ever went to.
I hate posh venues full stop.
It’s about the people there not how much you spend.
But we paid for the food her dad paid for the bar room was free.
 
Nope, the couple getting married should pay for it, the wedding game is a massive ripoff now, £2000 cakes, £3000 dresses plus ridiculous extras… Went to two this year, first one in the NE had a full video arcade for the evening, and the amount of food wasted from the evening buffet was scandalous.

Parents should contribute if they can. My parents paid for the free bar at ours because they could, my in-laws was not able to help, no problem at all.

The idea that you expect someone else to pay for your extravaganza is just wrong.

I'd rather provide them help to get on the housing ladder than a party
 
Our son got married just a few years back, both sets of parents put in a fair, but a maximum agreed amount of money and the pair funded the rest.
 
Do you still consider it the brides fathers job to pay for the daughters wedding completely, or do you consider in these more modern times the costs should be shared some?

Don’t consider either. We’re getting married next year and the parents are both creeping up to retirement. I wanted them to contribute nothing and instead treat themselves to a nice holiday as I doubt this will be possible once the retire.

Out of pride they insisted on a contribution to the dress and that’s it.
 
Don’t consider either. We’re getting married next year and the parents are both creeping up to retirement. I wanted them to contribute nothing and instead treat themselves to a nice holiday as I doubt this will be possible once the retire.

Out of pride they insisted on a contribution to the dress and that’s it.

So many old school ways of thinking , I mean people now live together before marriage traditional presents of microwave etc aren't so useful lol

We asked for cash towards the garden landscaping
 
So many old school ways of thinking , I mean people now live together before marriage traditional presents of microwave etc aren't so useful lol

We asked for cash towards the garden landscaping

100%, doesn’t help that we recently renovated the house top to bottom.

To me it’s a simple day, only people that are important to us will be present as part of budget management. Too many people get the Cinderella syndrome and blow thousands, I’m aware of a couple who spent almost 80k on a uk wedding at a very exclusive venue. To summarise this the groom and groomsman rode in on horses while there were two horse drawn carriages for the bridal party and bride with the farther.

Crazy!!!
 
100%, doesn’t help that we recently renovated the house top to bottom.

To me it’s a simple day, only people that are important to us will be present as part of budget management. Too many people get the Cinderella syndrome and blow thousands, I’m aware of a couple who spent almost 80k on a uk wedding at a very exclusive venue. To summarise this the groom and groomsman rode in on horses while there were two horse drawn carriages for the bridal party and bride with the farther.

Crazy!!!

My collegue spent as much on the engagement ring for his wife that we spent on our entire wedding including a 10 day honeymoon in Mexico in the school holidays

Ridiculous lol
 
100%, doesn’t help that we recently renovated the house top to bottom.

To me it’s a simple day, only people that are important to us will be present as part of budget management. Too many people get the Cinderella syndrome and blow thousands, I’m aware of a couple who spent almost 80k on a uk wedding at a very exclusive venue. To summarise this the groom and groomsman rode in on horses while there were two horse drawn carriages for the bridal party and bride with the farther.

Crazy!!!

Pikeys?
 
Weddings are now a massive business. The price of things can be extortionate. It just seems in some cases the actual getting married itself is secondary to everything else that goes off. A good pals partner has just had a big fall out in the sense of she is contributing a fair amount but has no input. It seems a
Case of this is what we are doing for the day. This is how much it will cost, this is how much we would like you to pay. Here’s your seat.

For me, Sharing is caring. Split it.

Daughter got married to her now ex husband. His second wedding. His parents never even bought me or missis T a Drink. When we were paying for welcome drinks, we bought Prosecco. Ex son in law said
“ we go to France, we drink Champange”. I bought a bottle of Moët for his Mum
And Dad. His dad said on the day “ thanks for the champagne but I cannot stand the stuff”. His wife drank the lot.
Your former son in law sounds like a bell whiff.
 
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