Ultimatum from GF.... not good tbh

[G1BB0]

so apparently I have been neglectful over the last few months & since I took up golf she is second in line!

She wants me to play less and spend more Sundays with her, also wants me to do less overtime etc etc

now I am a single dad with 3 kids, work hard & golf is my respite so surely she is asking too much?

 

[chrisd]

so apparently I have been neglectful over the last few months & since I took up golf she is second in line!

She wants me to play less and spend more Sundays with her, also wants me to do less overtime etc etc

now I am a single dad with 3 kids, work hard & golf is my respite so surely she is asking too much?

Really honest answer is that only you know how the balance of your life is, but if she thinks that golf is becoming an issue, then it probably is. Compromise mate if she is worth it, many a golf widow has walked!


Chris

 

[Scouser]

the only thing in that post that matters is yout 3 kids ..... Harsh as it sounds everything else can come and go

IMO

 

[Midnight]

Hi mate,

I reached an agreement with my other/better half, I play during the week if not on shift and kids at school, then I spend the weekend with the family to do stuff they want to. This works well for me , but I do work some weird shifts.

 

[JustOne]

so apparently I have been neglectful over the last few months & since I took up golf she is second in line!

She wants me to play less and spend more Sundays with her, also wants me to do less overtime etc etc

now I am a single dad with 3 kids, work hard & golf is my respite so surely she is asking too much?

Perhaps she read your forum sig over your shoulder?

 

[G1BB0]

its cack tho, why do we always end up bending over backwards, they make sod all compromises!

 

[Scouser]

its cack tho, why do we always end up bending over backwards, they make sod all compromises!

so she does nothing for u?

 

[G1BB0]

erm.... no comment

 

[Scouser]

erm.... no comment

apart from that.............dirty boy

 

[G1BB0]

haha, nah I know what you mean. I guess I am just used to my own company

 

[Scouser]

haha, nah I know what you mean. I guess I am just used to my own company

Mate like i said the only important thing in that first sentence was the 3 kids.....

 

[G1BB0]

see there lies the prob, kids are 13, 15 and 17 but she wants me to put them to one side, spend more time at chrimbo etc but as much as my kids can be little shits they mean the world and I wont put them to one side

 

[CMAC]

Kids first, girlfriend second, unless she's going to be Mrs Gibbo then she deserves more time.

Does she not do anything personal herself? set up a night a week that is 'our' time for meal/pictures/staying in/ anything that you will do together

 

[Scouser]

As a single dad my self who sees my kids 4 times a week and they sleep over two nights.... there isnt much that would come between me and them..... girls have come and gone because of it....dont regret it one bit!

 

[G1BB0]

scouser, thats good to hear, cos I was thinking I may be being a bit unfair

Don't get me wrong, she is great but her and my kids clash and she is totally different to me, I guess I knew the anser already otherwise I wouldnt even mention it. After a few years on my own I thought maybe I should put me 1st but it doesnt work like that

 

[pokerjoke]

Gibbo if your anything like me and other dads,kids will always come first.
Im sure my kids would come first with my misses too.
But you have to compremise,you cant just push the misses to one side.
Im sure she wouldnt have mentioned it if it wasnt a problem,or it wasnt
playing on her mind.
A solid relationship is built on trust and honesty,and spreading the love
to all the family.

 

[DCB]

Was the OP not getting grief about this a couple of months back ? Maybe you should play a little less during the winter months. If you don't do it that way, you're in for real trouble when the spring comes around and the season starts again.

 

[Scouser]

scouser, thats good to hear, cos I was thinking I may be being a bit unfair

Don't get me worng, she is great but her and my kids clash and she is totally different to me, I guess I kow the anser already otherwise I wouldnt even mention it. After a few years on my own I thought maybe I should put me 1st but it doesnt work like that

Mate if the kids clash with her cos they are jealous bang their heads together and tell them u need time and a life......if its cos the GF is jealous tell her to grow up.

Just my opinion

 

[G1BB0]

bit of both. I may well have mentioned it a while back.

soz to be posting Jeremy Kyle crap on here. She doesnt like how I am with the kids and how they treat me, hard to take tbh, some truth in it but hey, none of us are perfect

 

[Mark_G]

Just spotted your appearance in the magazine G1BBO, so unfortunately you are now a star, and when you are a star you have responsibilities, you are a role model for lesser players. Only you know how your "life balance" is, make the choice for you and your kids, and maybe get the GF to caddy for you.